It's not that I don't have any confidence is just dat I dont have enough to be able to talk to ppl and have friends. So if u could help I would appreciate it Thank U:)
2007-01-13 14:22:39 · 7 answers · asked by CooCoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
One thing that always helped me was to pretend that I knew a secret that no one else knew. Also pretend that you own every building you walk in. It helps to read alot at the library, knowledge is power. You can find anything to talk about with anybody if you are knowledgable in various things like poetry, art, architecture, history, politics, current events, etc. Churches are also great places to meet friends and get involved with your community.
Try getting involved in sports at your school, if your still in school. Being a part of a team is a good way to build confidence. Another way is to volunteer your spare time to help others like in nursing homes, soup kitchens or Big Brothers and Big Sisters. Knowing you are making a difference in other peoples lives will send your spirits soaring and you will feel amazing, I promise. Plus while you are doing all this maybe you will run into people along the way who have things in common with you.
2007-01-21 10:36:10 · answer #1 · answered by goturanswer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been a shy person so sometimes it is difficult for me to understand. Making new friends can be intimidating if your self confidence is a little low. The best thing I have found is to have a working knowledge of the things people around you are interested in. Be up to date on music, movies, society, maybe a little sports, etc. Try walking up to a group of people and just listen to what they are talking about. When a topic comes up you are familiar with, interject your opinion. Another easy way of beginning a conversation is to ask a question. Go ahead...give it a try. You will be a more confident person if you do.
2007-01-13 17:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by JJK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help to develop a plan of action for what you want. This way you have a guide that will assist you in the steps you need to take. For example, start out by finding a "safe" person (i.e., hairdresser, someone at work who everyone considers "nice," etc.). Do some homework to find out a little about them: do they have kids, pets, travel to exotic places? These are items that you can use to start a conversation and allow them to talk about their lives - who doesn't like the opportunity to talk about themselves? Your next step may be to identify something you have in common with them from the information you have gathered; then formulate some questions about what you've found out: I see that picture of you lookes like it's from Jamaica or the Bahamas, did you go there on vacation? Let them talk and be ready to be interested and ask questions about what they're saying. "No, it's Costa Rica, why, have you ever been?" "No, I usually vacation with friends in Vegas, haven't had the opportunity to travel recently as I've just started a new job. So, what was Costa Rica like? I don't know anyone who has vacationed there."
See, if you do things this way, you are basically asking someone else an open-ended question so that they can talk, then you just need to be able to respond politely and with another open-ended question, which gives them the opportunity to talk some more.
2007-01-20 14:29:42 · answer #3 · answered by cookie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step to building practical confidence, in my opinion, is finding out what you truly want. Over the next week, whenever you feel down, depressed, insecure, or frustrated, start making a list of all the things you want. They can be little things, like, "I want a glass of water" or big things, like "I want to ride around the entire world in a hot air baloon." Just write down everything and don't censor yourself. Then after a week, and even throughout the week, look at the list and decide which of those things you can do something about. Then start doing it! Some of the things might require little steps first, but if you really want it, then you can do it. As you start seeing that you can do things that make you happy, your confidence will grow, especially around others!
2007-01-15 09:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by ~Love~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe you can do it ,and fake it till you make it come true,believe in yourself
I understand about the friend thing, its tough when there not many around to help reflect how the world appears to you
2007-01-13 16:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by photog50 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just feel confident
2007-01-13 14:25:42 · answer #6 · answered by I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start at by being nice, and just be yourself.
2007-01-21 12:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋