ok i hv this friend and she gets in trouble alot. and one day we wer hving gym and she said we r going to ditch gym today. and i said no the first time but yes the second time. then the teacher finally found out when she was dividing the class inton teams. and we got in big trouble. so i dont no wat to do cuz shes been getting me in trouble a lot and just recently she wanted me to help her cheat in a test. in any thing if i say no shes always says that" friends r always there for each other" or " i wont be ur friend any more" so i need help plz good advice! thx
p.s im 12
2007-01-13 14:11:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Youre friend is not a TRUE friend. a true friend would never want to get you in trouble even when you have already let her know that you dont want to do whatever it is that she wants you to do. A true friend would not manipulate you(when she says that friends are always there for each other, or that she wont be your friend anymore or find other ways to make you do something). as much as this sounds sad or mean, try not to hang out with her. This is called peer pressure, if you dont learn to stand up for yourself now it could turn into something worse when you are a teenager, like doing drugs or having sex. Im sure youve been warned about this. you could always make new friends, by talking to people you never really talked to or by even getting involved in clubs and sports.
P.S. yes, friends are always there for each other, but not to do trouble, but to get each other OUT of trouble
its your life and you can do whatever you want to do, But whatever it is that you decide to do, GOOD LUCK
2007-01-13 14:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by meju 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is not being a true friend to you. A friend should never ask anyone to help her do something wrong. If she acts the way you are describing, I would tell her that she needs to stop encouraging you and asking you to do things that you feel are wrong and that you do not want to do. I also would tell her that if she continues then you will have to stop being friends with her. I know that may be hard for you. I also know you probably don't want to do that, but I think it is for the best. If you do not do something now, she may do something or ask you to do something someday that may get you in trouble with the law. I advise you to talk about it, then if that doesn't help- end your friendship. You will miss her! But, if she really is your friend she would respect you. She would stop asking you do these bad things. Don't let her manipulate you. I am proud of you for asking advise and help. Good luck!
2007-01-13 14:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by tch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Doorstepper. Stop right now. You're at risk of sounding like, and actually being, a crazy person. The guy is telling you a LOT of things, without actually saying them. He wants to be with you: that's probably true. He lives in another state: problematic. (You think) He's scared of being hurt again: (most likely) false. (You think) He's scared of living with you: true! He's scared of living with someone he is not 100% sure is the one. You don't have to leave him, but get used to the idea that you probably wont live together. Ever. If he doesn't want to (after four years)...and if he isn't absolutely aching to be by your side every morning and night, well....you know how the rest of this sentence will go.
2016-05-23 22:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend is someone who looks out for you and don't want to see anything bad happen to you. It is hard to stand up for what is right when you are afraid to be rejected by someone who you have been friends with and who knows things about you that they may use to hurt you. But you are 12 and sound like a young person who has some goals for the future and realize that bad choices will come with problems that could cause you not to be the person you want to be. I would advise you to tell your friend that as her friend you would like to do fun things with her and it is her choice to walk away from you her friend when SHE CHOOSES to do things that will cause the fun times to turn into bad times. Let her know you want to be their for her but skipping, cheating and getting in trouble is NOT fun. You need to take a stand NOW before she leads you into things that could realy hurt you and her. I am so glad you are thinking about this and will be praying for you. Enjoy your teen years but keep your focus on your future not just the pleasure of the temporary. You are a smart person and it shows.
2007-01-13 14:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by wds 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be in trouble alot? I would not be doing things with her!! She is NOT your friend!! Friends dont want their friend to be in trouble.
I would tell her that she is right that friends are always there for eachother with no but's or if's!
This person is not your friend. Just ask someone that you trust, your parent's or a true friend.
Good luck.
2007-01-13 14:21:20 · answer #5 · answered by ohdarnitsmeagain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not really a good friend if she is trying to bully you or guilt you into doing wrong. Just Keep telling her no and stick to your guns. You are a smart girl and you need to think about what your parents would do if you got into real bad trouble. If she is not your friend anymore then good! She has issues and you don't need that.
2007-01-13 14:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i know a person as bad as your friend. Im 12 too. See it is quite a sad story but even if, no one really liked her anyway. Okay, so this girl in my grade had a makeout party with the stereos blasting and with ALCOHOL! she had one cup of it. in the past she was anarexic and a theif. Anyway, while she was having this sleepover party, someone from it called the police. now i wasnt in this party because i wasnt really her friend but i did know her from elemantary school though now i am in middle school. So, the police came and people said they put her and one of her friends in handcuffs! Shortly after, her mom found out and got so mad that she made her move to Korea (she is Asian) with her grandmother. Her mother and her brother went to Canada. Its a very harsh punishment i know but your friend seems kinda similar to this person and if not, well she will turn into this same person i am talking about. Now you say she is getting you in trouble right? well you are in the moments of peer pressure. DONT GIVE IN TO PEER PRESSURE! this friend of yours, if she gets you in trouble, then she isnt your friend becuz true friends are GOOD friends that influence you to do the right things because sooner or later your friend will do something really bad and you both would be blamed and punished big time so if i was in your position i would stop being friends with her. if you keep being friends, then you will be a weak person that just get told what to do and fall into peer pressure. Just ask yourself, "Do i want to get in trouble like this person Happy Helper talked about and be a weak person who people can trick her easily by just saying unmeaningful words? Or do i want to be a successful person doing what i always dreamed of leading the right path instead of going the wrong path?"
By the way, no offense but this question is very easy to answer. STOP being friends with her! she will lead you down the path of misery or as we all know in one word, "HELL!!" if you keep being with her, you will do something bad, your parents will never forgive you and put you under house arrest FOR LIFE! you dont want that do you? But if you REALLY want to stay friends, then i would suggest leading HER down the path of Heaven, cuz she sure doesnt seem to care if she goes to Hell. You are a good person and she can be too.
P.S. sorry i wrote long. Make the Right Choice and go towards the path of Heaven NOT H-E-L-L!
2007-01-13 14:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Cornelia Anabelle Banana Bo Peep 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True friends don't get others into trouble. You need to stand up to her. Tell her as much as you like her you're not willing to do anything that's going to get you into trouble. She sounds unhappy but you need to stop being influenced by her. If she continues maybe you could ask your Mom, or a teacher for advice?
2007-01-13 14:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me honey,shes not your friend.Shes using you.She knows if she keeps on about something you will give in.Get involved in some school activities that shes not in and that will keep you away from her and occupied with something else instead of her.Also that way you can make other friends that may like you for who you are and not for what you can do for them.Trust me.If you make some cool friends you may just forget about her.
2007-01-13 14:27:58 · answer #9 · answered by GranGran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not a true friend if she gets you into trouble. Find some new friends.
2007-01-13 14:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋