I really don't like college and I have some questions?

Question

I'm a freshman just about to start my second semester at a medium sized college the midwest. Now I don't want to drop out or do anything like that, but what i am considering is transferring, maybe to a bigger school. this is odd, because when looking for a school out of high school I thought a bigger school would not be for me, but now I'm thinking I was completely wrong, because I hate the small school feeling. I have had so much fun with friends from high school and friends that I have known since I was a little kid since I've been back home. Back at college I have friends, but quite frankly I don't really feel connected with them, and I think that I have made dead-end relationships unlike back home. I know this post has been all over the place, but basically what I'm asking is what should I do, I hate my particular college.

Answer 1

You sound like me, only I went to a big college. I'm at USC and I felt pretty isolated my first semester here.

My first advice is to do some serious soul-searching and try to figure out why it is that you're lonely here. For me, it was a mix of hating Los Angeles (where I go to school) and horribly missing my friends--specifically one incredibly close friend. Try to be honest with yourself. Once you know exactrly why you're unhappy, it's easier to change.

Second, figure out whether you're satisfied with your academics, your major, and consider whether you're beeing challenged to little, or whether the workload is too great. If you like them, you might want to weigh that in your decision to leave. If you don't like them... even more reason to go!

Then think about this: if you miss your friends back home, you'll miss them wherever you go unless you go to a community college back in your hometown. At some point, you are going to need to be able to move on from them, because you can't live your life following your friends.

But if you don't fit at the school, start looking into other schools and talk to people you know. Ask them if the school has the qualities you're looking for, and don't stay if you truly believe oyu can never be happy there.

I hope you find what you are looking for. If you want to talk, send me an email through my profile.

Answer 2

I do hope that you stay in college because an education is very important, and a college degree can open more opportunities up for you.

If you are not happy at the college where you are now, then you should seek out a college or university where you would be more satisfied, but keep in mine the reason you are in college.

You don't want to pick a school just because you think you will have fun there. You want to make sure the college has a good program for whatever you are interested in. You also want to make sure that it has a good reputation for academics and services that can help you throughout your college career.

College should be enjoyable, but don't forget why you are there--to learn, grow, and succeed academically and personally.

Answer 3

I think you should stick to it and here's why. First, it's only four years so it's not that bad compare to other committments you might have to make later in life. Second, are you going to abandon your attempts every time you run into a small problem? How will you get through life. Third, if you transfer and you don't like the new college what then? So basically, I'm saying is that you'll have to make a stand somewhere. If it's not affecting your studies then deal with it. You can't always have everything you want in life.

Answer 4

I'm getting 2 different messages from your text: you don't feel connected because they're not your hometown friends, yet you want to move to Bigger School?

A period of adjustment and homesickness is normal. If you feel strongly about transferring, go ahead with the paperwork. You don't have to make a decision now and perhaps you will feel more 'connections' before summer comes. If you still don't have good feelings, then you'll have the graoundwork done for a move. Good Luck to you...

Answer 5

research. shop around. visit other campuses. do more than the standard tour---talk to the students. that's what most of us have done. it's easier to do that kind of shopping if you're going to stay in state or nearby states. but you didn't mention how far away you were thinking of escaping.

some believe predictor of future happiness depends on school/job/financial success...but statistically the happiest people are those with friends. social skills are listed as the number one predictor of future happiness. you can work on 'connecting' where you are at if the location is that important to you...but if not, at your age, better to shop around.

your needs and wants will change over time (as you have found out) and now you realize. be proactive. college years should always be remembered from the "fond to outrageous" scale and 'dead-end' doesn't make that cut.

Answer 6

im in the exact situation. i feel the same way about college and friends. i am going to switch schools. i rather try it then to graduate and regret i didn't. this is not the college experience that i want so its best if i go somewhere else. good thing your a freshman. switch soon so that you won't have to take extra courses for your major since colleges have their different prerequisites. good luck!!!