I'm tired of my grandmother. I love her greatly but i can't stand her. I don't want to be around her. Just now i felt like cutting myself because of her. I was trying to prevent her from doing something stupid and my family party and I looked like the enemy. She drives me crazy. I can't stop the tears right now. She sticks to me like a magnet. I really embarrassed myself and the new guests think that theirs something wrong with me.
2007-01-13 13:34:23 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's not possible to avoid this woman. She won't leave me alone.
2007-01-13 13:41:16 · update #1
You guys don't understand. She doesn't have a brain. I'm going to cut.
2007-01-13 13:44:17 · update #2
The people probably understand her more than you realize and they will tell the new guests how she is----Just because someone doesn't voice their opinion of someone-your grandmother---doesn't mean they don't think they are and a**hole.
Don't cut yourself----she will just act like you are the crazy one.
That is just your way of coping with mental pain---it doesn't make you weird it just means that you don't want to hurt.
Try agreeing with her all the time---if she says something weird about you agree with her but do it like you are just agreeing with an irritating child that wont shut up.
Make her look stupid and maybe she won't hang on you as much.
2007-01-13 13:46:00 · answer #1 · answered by MamaCat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok. I read though your bio and some of your posts. You have a sense of humor and an ability to relate to people. Yet you cannot relate to your grandmother. This is not uncommon and this is something that can be resolved peacefully.
However, this is not a problem that can be solved with 1 quick answer. It is also not a problem that can be solved if you announce to the world that you will cut yourself and are determined to do so.
Personally, I grew up in seriously abusive environment as a child. I took serious repercussions of that into early adult relationships and paid the price for my anger and frustration. I was a stupid, pissed-off at the world, "I'll show them" kinda guy.
Never did the thought of cutting myself bring about feelings of resolution or new possibilities. I did however, begin a process for evaluating what the real causes of my pain and problems were and I systematically began to deal positively and constructively with the obstacles I faced.
My question to you: do you really want help? I've read from your posts that what you look for in a guy is someone who is “intelligent, understanding, funny, and mature…who has a positive attitude about life.” What do you look for in yourself?
Don’t be so desperate. Desperate rarely get what they want in life. If you want to get to the heart of this, check my email. I believe it is off, but I will figure out how to turn it on.
If not, best wishes.
2007-01-13 22:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by Darbo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to calm down and please don't do anything to hurt yourself.
I'm not sure I understand exactly what happened or the real issue, but is this something that you can talk to your parents or another family member about? If not, can you call a friend.
I'm afraid that strangers online aren't going to be the best source of advice, since we don't really know you and understand the problem.
Be safe and good luck.
2007-01-13 21:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by well now i'm antsy times 4 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the urge to cut yourself, there is something wrong with you that has nothing to do with your grandmother. I do not mean that in an insulting way. You need to get help. You don't explain what she does that affects you negatively, and therefore, no one can really help you. I wish I could.
2007-01-13 21:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by sfs18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is somthing wrong with you if you think you can control someone else dear It sounds like you may be making a bigger deal out of something that doesnt have to be. I f you would just try and change places like what if it was someone else's grand and you were just a bystander, all you realy need here is to change the way your looking at it, I wish I still had my grand any of them I love and miss them so much I cry, you will to someday believe me, mabe you can think of that when she bothers you, someday she wont but the memory shure will and what if she was going to be gone forever tomarrow do ya think you would feel the same today??
2007-01-13 21:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by chris77 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate my mother and I am consider cutting her. I often wonder what I'll do to her if she doesn't SHUT UP. Hey-- I am 58 years old and this is still a problem. Sweetie.. get away from her fast as it only gets worse. My biggest mistake in life was not moving away from her a long time ago and never coming back. My siblings did- but I stayed and now am still paying the the price.
Don't cut yourself-- Granny isn't worth it.
2007-01-13 21:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by lilacscent49 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stick it out and deal with it. I deal with a mother that makes me feel like crap every single day but I know that there is more to life than my mother. Tomorrow is a brand new day. Find an escape, either chatting with friends or reading or sports...anything. It's much easier to deal with the relational problems if you have something to run to when it's all said and done.
My greatest refuge is my relationship with Jesus. Whenever I feel the pressures, I go to Him and He always comforts me and helps me to move on and forget.
2007-01-13 21:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by DragonWrites the Fire Faery 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have felt that way. Just laugh it off. Not to sound mean or nothing, but yourgrandmother is probably an elderly lady, she probably is not going to live for years and year. So just appreciate her while shes here even if she does get cranky at times, youll miss her when shes gone or when shes not able to do the things that she does now. Trust me.
2007-01-13 21:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by LALi BOop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, hate to break it to you, but if you feel like cutting yourself, then there is something wrong with you. Maybe you just need to tell your Grandma that you think you are just spending a little to much time together and see how that works.
2007-01-13 21:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by kisses 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Tell her whats wrong. Tell her she is embarrasing you. Sure it might hurt her feelings. But it be better to clear things up and have a better grandmother/grandaughter relationship then not. Tell her you feel like cutting yourself and crying. I don't think your grandma would want you to cut yourself and die. She will probably change for you if she finds out. Grandmas can be really annoying, but deep down you always love them and they always love you. Good Luck!! And please don't cut yourself!!
2007-01-13 21:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by x3ballet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋