2007-01-13 13:33:48 · 12 answers · asked by thesunshineking 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I aks myself that daily. I am head over heels in love with my fiance, we've been engaged just a couple months with plans to marry later this year.
We've both been down this road before, both have children but won't be having any together.
We already live together as husband and wife. We share finances, bank account, house, etc....
but we are still only engaged.
Why? Why not? Why do we need to get married? Why shouldn't we get married?
I don't know. I go back and forth about it. I WANT to marry this man, but I don't even plan to take his name.
I don't want anyone at our ceremony except my best-friend an a witness for him. That's IT--I'd just assume go to Nevada and do it. Done and over with. No big deal, no fuss.
So what's MY deal?
2007-01-13 14:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by moniquebell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a very good idea if your mature enough to handle the difficultes that can happen in a marriage. There is always going to be conflicts in marriage. But it depends on how people deal with those conflicts. The problem today is alot of people have problems come up and instead of facing them head on, they would rather take the easy way out and run away from it and divorce. Then it just causes even more problems.
I think if you get married for all the right reasons, marriage can be very good.
2007-01-13 22:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally will be getting engaged within a year (as soon as my bf has a steady job and can afford a ring). There a lots of reasons to get married, some good some bad. Marriage can provide financial stability and a secure future. Marriage can allow you to make a life at the side of someone you love more than any other.
But you don't have to love someone to marry them (although I personally think it's a good idea to love your spouse). Sometimes there are extenuating circumstances that make it a good idea to marry sooner rather than later and where marrying someone you're merely friends with is ok.
But you shouldn't marry someone who you don't have a strong relationship with. Marriage is definitely hard to get used and takes a lot of work... even more than an extended monogamous dating relationship, whether you're already living together or not, marriage takes more work.
2007-01-13 21:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Meagan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a good idea for people who WANT to be married.
2007-01-13 22:18:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a good idea for people who are ready for it. I hate seeing people get divorced so often, and i think you should only get married if you truely believe you will be with this person for the rest of your life. If you can't say that and be sure, then it is not a good idea.
2007-01-13 21:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Stark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes marriage is a good idea. However, make sure you get married for the right reason, at the right time, and to the right person for you.
Getting married for money or because you got her pregnant is not the right reason.
2007-01-13 21:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is a good idea if two people are ready to take the next step and live as a family together.
2007-01-13 21:41:47 · answer #7 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is, when you are with the right person for the right reasons at the right time. It's not easy to be married, but when you get married for the very right reasons it's just great. Everybody have different thoughts depending on their experiences, but is always good: with the right person, the right reasons at the right time
2007-01-13 21:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK MARRIAGE IS A GOOD IDEA AS LONG AS LONG AS YOU BOTH LOVE EACH OTHER AND HAVE THE SAME THINGS IN COMMON! ALSO ALOT OF COMMUNICATION BETWEEN YOU TWO.
2007-01-13 21:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I havent found anyone I would marry yet
2007-01-13 21:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋