Why are you with him? I mean I have so many friends who's wives and gf's try to tell them where and when they can go somewhere. Then when they do go they call them constantly or act mad for like a week. It infuriates me. If you trust them so little , why are you with them. I mean, i go where I want to when i want to. I don't do anything disrespectful though and my wife and I go as we please as long as one of us has the kids but we really don't go out much. So why would you be with someone who you feel like you have to check up on constantly like my friend's wives etc. Hopefully you can give me some insight on this.
2007-01-13 13:18:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My guess is that these people are just needy...I've had many friends, male and female, that would say "I can't do that my
I'm not into the whole control thing...i want to be able to do what I want, so I have to allow him to do what he wants...and that's as it should be...as long as we are honest and respectful toward each other, that's what matters...I'd never dream of telling a my guy he couldn't do something or go somewhere...or pitching a fit afterward so he wouldn't want to do it again...anyone with any self respect won't tolerate that from their partner...
2007-01-13 13:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All depends on the person she is.. and the person her husband is..
If her character is one of insecurities and he married her knowing this, then he should be held just as much accountable for her actions since he knew about it before hand.. so its not always all just her fault..
IF your "friends' have a history of doing things wrong that u dont know about cause well lets face it u dont live with them so u dont know what their really like, they could be causing the paranoia that she's feeling and again could be at fault for their wives doing this..
Also their beliefs , their morals and the way they were raised can be a part of why she feels this way, and more then likely again he knew how she felt about this before they got married but fluffed it off thinking "so what".. or that was ok with it when he was still in the giddy, i dont want to be apart from u stage of their relationship.. trust is a delicate subject for some..
Be lucky that u have the relationship that u have with ur wife, because most dont have that in their relationships.
2007-01-13 13:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant with baby number three and I see my husband two nights a week and his one day off and the rest of the time he is working or with his band or at his buddies house not answering the phone. So when he doesn't consider that I might want to do something or that I might need help with the kids and he only thinks about himself I feel that I have a right to call him and check up on him because he doesn't let me know where he is and he doesn't answer his phone most of the time. And if he's not working, with his band, or with me, chances are he's doing something he told me he wouldn't do and when I find out he tries to turn it into my fault. Also I recently found him on line looking for single women in the area. Men like that give women a reason not to trust the ones that aren't doing anything wrong.
2007-01-13 13:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Summer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure. My husband and I have a timetable that includes time that we must commit to the shared care of our granddaughter throughout the day. I'm a kind of home body, so he is usually the one trekking around town. If I need something, or if I am wiped and feel that it is his turn to care for the baby, I might give him a call. He doesn't complain. I don't call more than 3X any one day, but I don't hesitate to call if I feel that it's his turn to do the care so I can take care of other responsibilities. When I was younger I was more insecure about his actions away from the home-- he has proved over the years that he is entirely trustworthy. He doesn't drink, smoke, or philander. If he had a history of those sorts of bad choices, I think that I might be insecure about his whereabouts and would tend to want to know where he was if I were stuck at home with the bulk of the domestic responsibility. Just my opinion.
2007-01-13 13:27:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... Well I am def. not one of the 'psycho' girls, but sometimes I may give my boyfriend limits. I have no problem with him going out on the town with all of his boys. I encourage it. But if a certain friend wants to go to an afterhours or to the strip club, I think thats a little out of line. Going out to the bars and coming home after the bars is fine. Staying out all night especially with single friends is a no- go. Most of the time I do not have any of these problems. I'm betting that the wives that you say are controlling, get treated the same way.
Obviously your friends aren't going to tell you that though. I think that these people may have had trust issues in the past or are just simply insecure.
I don't think of it as 'checking in' I think of it as respect and communication. (although i keep it on a normal level)
Hope that makes a little bit of sense to you.
2007-01-13 13:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by redsox fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't try and control where my husband goes or call and check up on him....which is why we are still happily together after 10 years. I totally trust him to be where he's supposed to be and to not be doing something stupid. I feel bad for the guys that are just with insecure women who treat them like a dog on a leash (and for the women that are also treated the same way by insecure husbands) Really if a woman doesn't trust her man she should just move on.
2007-01-13 13:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your pastor as it is his sister.He would not approve of what she is doing as this is considered trying to interfere in a marriage.Or tell her that you have a child and don't like her intentions of the way she comes on to your husband. Let her know that you will leave the church if she does not back off.I honestly think the pastor will be able to take care of this matter , this way you will have the advantage of saying nothing.
2016-05-23 22:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some people are insecure and they feel as though that one person is the one they should keep because they may not find any one else. So they try to keep a close eye on them not knowing that can run a good man away.
2007-01-13 13:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My brother's girlfriend is like that...she is so insecure and jealous, that she cannot stand that my brother even talks to other people (such as his family). She calls him all the time, pages him at work, is a real freakin' psycho...but he stays with her and I have no idea why. She has done some really "fatal attraction" stuff and embarrassed him hundreds of times in front of others and even had him followed!
They are both in their early thirties...I don't have the answer.
2007-01-13 13:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your point but maybe you male friends have done something in their past to warrant such treatment. True enough being in a relationship without trust is really a downer but alas YOU are not in their relationships. People stay together for many reasons but you don't know why these people choose to stay together. Be grateful that you and yours wife have the relationship that you do
2007-01-13 13:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by ...huh... 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋