my girlfriend gets really angry at me when i tell how how i feel or when i am upset lately i have been having trouble at home and when i try to speak to her about it she is very nasty and bites at me alot..i am now scared to speak to my girlfriend about how i feel incase she hurts me or is nasty or hurtfull to me what should i do
2007-01-13 13:16:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i repeat how i feel sometimes and how i am upset about things but speaking about whats upsetting me helps
2007-01-13 13:30:32 · update #1
Hmm.. You could try stopping talking about other lads to her that like her because she gets angry at that.. I am very familiar with her.. You could stop moaning at her when she talks to somebody else while she is talking to you on the phone because she doesn't like it as she can't help people talking to her even though she does try to ignore them. She does listen to you but she is not at all sympathetic. You make her out to be the bad one all of the time and you deserve all the bites she has at you. The other night she had her drunk mum throwing things at her and trying to hurt herself.. But still you both spoke about you and what was wrong with you all night because i thought it would help.. You should stop pushing her to do things.. Because you do do it. Hope this helps.. And right now she is having a hellish time because her mother is arguing yet again.. And getting very very very annoyed with her boyfriend so she is actually quite scared but it's ok just keep arguing with her.
2007-01-13 13:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by charlotte a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in a relationship, if u can't discuss ur feelings with ur partner,u don't have a relationship. u have to think carefully whether u want a serious relationship or one of covenience based for the most part on physical things, i.e. being together, going out together etc.
there could be a reason for her not wanting to discuss. i know what has been said by others. u need to speak to her about her feelings. only then will u understand or even begin to,her attitude towards yours. it may be that she has problems of her own and simply cannot cope with emotional baggage from u. it may also be that u r wrecking her perception of an ideal boyfriend.
if this is the case, u need to tread carefully and wait until she matures a little or move on.
i hope u resolve ur problems with her and that u r
both happy together.
failing that, i hope u r both happy apart!
good luck.
2007-01-13 13:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, write her a letter from your heart telling her about your problems at home and how you feel when you try to speak to her about it.
Always where possible starting each sentence with "I feel .... . "
that way she will know your true feelings and that you are not blaming her.
Put the letter in a place where you know she will see it and forget about it until she mentions it.
She sounds like a very passionate lady but with some insecurity issues..
All things can be overcome with gentle handling and patience..
"What ever you put out - you get back" You put out love, You get back Love or You put out anger, You get back anger.
Good luck.....
2007-01-13 21:46:50 · answer #3 · answered by CosmicHonk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She bites at you alot? Shes sounds like an animal. You are sensitive and mabye she is just trying to toughen you up..but you need someone who can help you out and be there..she is not mature enough yet.
2007-01-13 18:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to her about maybe shes been stressed at work, i know its no excuse to bring it home but it happens i do it sometimes. Maybe she just needs to talk to someone. You need to let her know how you feel. I know you said you have tried you need to keep trying as me and my fiancee can be like that but we do work it out you just need to try and get her to understand. If she doesn't listen then she obviously dont care about your feelings. Good luck ........... And dont Give up.
2007-01-14 04:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her. this relationship is obviously not worth the trouble. If she was concerned about you or cared for you she would want to listen to your moans and groans. Unless you are just whining, well that could just be irritating.
2007-01-13 17:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by luisa_ru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new girlfriend. If she can't support you when you need it what sort of relationship do you have? She can't be very caring if she's nasty when you already have other problems.
2007-01-13 13:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it is all take and no give. if your girlfriend won't let you express your feelings, and you have a need to, then find a different girlfriend. Seriously, have fun with dating and do not stay with someone who doesn't like who you are. Good luck!
2007-01-13 13:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by bella 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
break up with her....your girlfriend shoud show some compassion and respect towards you and help you instead of hurting you. Does she love you? You don't deserve this.
2007-01-13 13:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by dimples 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
treat her like she treats you....she'll change her tune in time....it seems that she's not interested in whats going on in your family life and that's why she is snotty...just don't tell her anything any more...in fact dump her coz she sounds like a right inconsiderate little witch....get someone who's nice and who understands you...or wait for her to come crying to you then do what she does to you....in relationships, it's share and share alike...and she's not doing her part.....dump her...
2007-01-13 13:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋