I was 15 when I got pregnant and i had a miscarige in September and i miss my baby so much and i know that this is the way it was supposed to happen but i loved my unborn child so much is it wrong?
2007-01-13 13:05:20 · 32 answers · asked by katie fitzy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No, it's not. You carry them nine months UNDER your heart. But you carry them a lifetime IN your heart. God Bless you.
2007-01-13 13:20:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Things always happen for a reason; even the miscarriage. Concentrate on your education and live for tomorrow - not the past - you can't change the past no matter how much you try.
Stay away from boys, finish high school, go to college, begin a career and then settle down with a great guy and have a family.
I just watched a movie on Lifetime; mom at 16. You really should watch it. Until a person is totally mature - they will never be able to raise a child.
2007-01-13 18:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel sweetheart. I got preggers when I was 13 (to all those bashers that think teenagers are completely stupid, we used a condom, but it broke!)
I got so scared, but was so happy at the same time. I miscarried when I was about 2 months along. For some reason, my body naturally aborted the baby and it was so early on, the embryo was expelled naturally without any kind of medical help. But I had already picked names for if it was a boy or girl, looked at maternity clothes and onesies. But I knew that the first trimester is the most likely to miscarry (My mom is a nurse and I've read all her college medical books since I was little) and when it is (was?) still legal to abort. So I was gonna wait to tell anyone, 'till I showed to tell the father, till 3 months because I didn't know my mom's opinion on abortion. My family still doesn't know, the father found out 6 months after I miscarried. I've been to doctors and I have no problems that will prevent me from being pregnant again or any medical reason why I miscarried. "It just happens like that some times," they told, "without any kind of real medical explanation."
I loved my baby, the same way I know you loved yours. Do what I did. Surround yourself with positive people that won't remind you. Don't be afraid to talk about it when you need to. Over time, you will not forget, but the pain wil ebb.
2007-01-13 13:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by Shel K 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is perfectly normal to love and miss your unborn child. I would recommend talking to a counselor. They will be able to help you deal with your grief. I must say, you are very young to be having a baby. You have your whole life ahead of you. Do yourself a favor, use protection and enjoy your youth. You will make a great mother when the time is right.
2007-01-13 13:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I was 16 and pregnant with my first child.I had her stillborn at 6 months pregnant.I was grieving for a long time .It takes a long time to heal.You'll always miss and love your unborn baby, and there is nothing wrong with that.It gets easier as time goes by.Try to talk to someone about how you feel. It may help.
2007-01-13 14:59:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it's not wrong you're mourning the loss of a child. It woudl be unnatural if you didn't.
I would suggest talking to other teens that have gone through similar circumstances.
Visit www.babycenter.com and sign up for the live chat forums. It's like msn. You can meet other women that have gone though these things as well.
Good Luck!
2007-01-13 19:44:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lina looking for love from a chi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh Honey, it is NOT wrong to miss your baby! That baby will always be your little angel.
But you have to remember that you are still a baby yourself (I know... you probably don't think you are.) Please take care of yourself and make sure you don't get pregant again until you are ready for it.
If you do have another baby when you are older, that little angel will be your baby's big brother or sister, and will be looking down and giving love and protection. Never forget that!
2007-01-13 15:08:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not wrong. It is called post partum blues. While I do NOT advocate a child at 16 I can still understand your sadness. Fortunately, time does heal the wounds somewhat and you will be able to go on. If you need it, get counseling from your pastor/priest/rabbi or a professional. You need to talk it out. Things WILL get better.
2007-01-13 13:14:00 · answer #8 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not wrong at all. It is quite a human thing for females to miss their babies. Your body and your brain were recognizing that you were carrying a life. Just think of your little One as an Angel. Heaven is so nice, I'm certain. :) God Bless.
2007-01-13 13:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by DT 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is never wrong to love...much less love your child...however...things happen for a reason and the pain of losing will never be forgotten but it shouldn't interfere with your life since your life goes on...you are really young and have an entire life ahead of you.
2007-01-13 17:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by mbra 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie i cany say because i never been pregant but it not wrong at all you need to grieve and then move on and when the time is right you will have a beatiful gal /boy never say this is how its suspoe to be God just have somthing more planned for your life he just feel as its not time for you to be a mother, You will some day
2007-01-13 13:16:50 · answer #11 · answered by akerah5 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋