I dont like her AT ALL. Shes nice and kind but she just reminds me of the type of girl who would be screwing around behind his back. Ive talked to him about it and he just says "im jelous because i dont have a woman in my life". I dont know what more to tell him.
By the way hes 16.
2007-01-13 12:52:23 · 41 answers · asked by Beeraw 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ignore it as long as u can
2007-01-13 12:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by gabby girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U Americans can't take care of your own kids. no offense. Where i come from he would have got a slap across his face. Cause that's not right mien. Also u should find out some more info. about dis girl, u might be wrong. Or maybe not. Just talk to him and tell him about your experiences and how u were raise. Also ask him this question, Do u really love her and do u even know what love is?
U all need to put your foot down and be the parent. Don't let your kids walk allover u.
by the way dis is coming from a 14 year old.
2007-01-13 13:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Daniela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh My goodness...you're the one with the out of control kids right? Well I think you should explain to him why that girl just isn't good for him...don't mention the age problem...if she were a good girl the age wouldn't matter. If he doesn't believe you find a way to prove it to him because I know you don't want him to get hurt. I'll answer your other question while I'm at it. As for your daughter...keep her away from...1.boys, 2. computer, 3 cellphone until she gets some sense into her. Keep a watchful eye on her...she cannot be doing this and it's very bad that she it. And remeber this...closed room works well...and so does a baby sitter. If your kids protest against the baby sitter explain to them that until they start acting like adults (and not in the bad way) they will be treated like the immature children they are. Best of Luck!
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P.S. Cyber school works well too!
2007-01-14 07:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by Veronica K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no for once dont be the parent and put your foot down....if you think your son is making a mistake then let him make it... you prolly want him to learn a lesson from this and the only way is well is to let him go out with her and see how it might not work out...but what if your wrong?????? what if she isnt a slut she might not actually be the type to do something like that!!!! Why dont you get to know her more have a girls day out or something ask her questions about her old love life....if she has cheated or if she is still a virgin....tell her you arnt trying to be nosey you are just worried about your son and you dont want him to get hurt....ask her what she see'd in your son and why she is attrachted to him...
2007-01-13 13:16:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one likes to see their child get hurt. However, you did the right thing by expressing your concerns to him. It's obvious he's not ready to listen. At least she's nice and kind. Just let him know that you are concerned she may cheat on him and you just want him to be careful. By careful, I mean reminding him to use protection. If she cheats on him he may be heartbroken, but he'll get over it.
I just noticed he is 16 which makes her 19. If you are really concerned you might look into laws about this. I don't think I'd want my 16 year old dating a 19 year old. Good Luck!
2007-01-13 13:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your reason for thinking she is a S--T? Have you had a recent relationship go bad and maybe transferring those feelings to your son's relationship? Was you son's statement accurate? Has she said or done something specific that gives you this impression? If it is really bothering you that much tell your son specifically what concerns you, but that you have confidence in him to make the right decision for himself. We all know we never listen to our parents about who we date, but when you let us know we have your support no matter what, it makes it a little easier to take your insight. Just be sure that your feeling are based on actuall occurences and not your own failings in relationships being transferred to your son's relationship. Good Luck!
2007-01-13 13:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by VL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, you're the type of parent that ruins my love life. I'm bi but far from a sl*t. I'm exactly what you describe in this girl.
I can come home with boyfriends and girlfriends alike. Their parents will meet me, be nice to me and I'll be absolutely nothing but nice, caring and respectful to everyone in the entire family, regardless of how they treat me. But they make that assumption and tell my BF or GF what they think. Then, they won't want to bring me around anymore, their parents will forbid them to see me, and we'll date secretly. Then, when I finally decide that I care enough to be with them intimately, they'll take the chance, call me a sl*t and say their parents were right and leave me to cry.
Because of this treatment, I'm very self-conscious, untrusting and hate to meet the parents of anyone I'm in a relationship with. I've just recently met a guy who really loves me. I would be devastated if his family made that kind of judgment on me.
Best thing to do, lay back, relax and if she treats your son wrong, she will. Just be willing to be there for him if she does. But the greatest probability, she'll be like me and genuinely care and never hurt him like that.
2007-01-13 13:13:16 · answer #7 · answered by Shel K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, dad. You're just going to have to ride this one out. The harder you push him to forget her, the more he's going to want to be with her. This is a teenage fact of life. You've let him know how you feel. Now you have to step back and let it take its course. He'll learn his lesson eventually and avoid this kind of girl in the future. Don't worry so much. At his age, she's just a passing fancy. He'll be over her and on to the next girl in no time. Try to let it go for your own sake.
2007-01-13 13:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey bud i hate to be the bearer of bad tidings but nothing you can say or do will change his opinion of her only his opinion of you, so save your relationship with your boy and dont interfere, this is a lesson that you just cant teach him, just watch that he doesnt spend all his earnings on the ho, and tell him to wear a condom, you and i have lived the life and the most permiscuous vain creature on the planet is a woman, find one that hasnt cheated and you have a true find, this is a lesson that we learned, he will have learn this as well, just do this friend be there to catch him when he falls, and he will fall and it will hurt but you will be the voice of reason just leave the i told ya so's alone , and then maybe you will get your son back, you say you dont have a woman in your life, i think its safe to assume you were cheated on, i was cheated on by my wife of 11 years, you and me are getting past it, he will too good luck friend
2007-01-13 13:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by waterboy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What if the girl was 3 years younger than him and she was still a slut do you think that would be better? Sometimes young people are going to do things that aren't necessarily the right things but these things will create an individual and not a clone. You are probably pushing him toward her by disapproving.
2007-01-13 13:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by ManWtheHat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son 16 years old has to learn from his own mistakes. He is not listening and will not listen at that age because his hormones rule him completely. Be his friend and advice him on how to use protection. I do not think he has the age to become a Dad. He will learn. Do not push the issue too much because he will do just the opposite. Use psychology (reverse one).
2007-01-17 11:45:16 · answer #11 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋