Why is the state of marriage deteriorating?

Question

At least I feel like the concept of marriage is starting to fade away with all the cohabitions and everything like that. Is this the right thing for our country as well as the world or should there be efforts to preserve marriage?

Answer 1

The state of marriage is deteriorating because the Church has made cohabitation and divorce acceptable. No one is made accountable for their actions. Marriage should be preserved, since God created marriage and it is His desire for men and women to be married. Husbands and wives are failing to put God first in their marriage. Therefore, marriages are failing.

Answer 2

The state of marriage is deteriorating because its keeping up with the pace of the world. Homo and Bi-sexuality seem to be more prevelant than heterosexuality. The heterosexuals seem to value sex as picking up a quick meal at a drive through window. Its that simple. Sex is something that you don't have to work for anymore. Everyone is becoming more flexible with morals and values as if its a cool thing to do. No one wants to say no to immoral things anymore. What will happen 15 to 20 years from now will be probably be very very depressing. Teens and young adults hate for older people to talk about the old days, but what will the future look like when they are older?Teens are barely covering their bodies now, music has hit an all time low, but we still call it art to sing "I'm into to having sex I ain't into makin' love" or "we don't love dem' hoes". We won't talk about music videos. The churches seem to be driving more people away by asking for more and more money than getting more people to join just for the sake of what God is truly about "LOVE". We have presidents that are steadily killing the nation with lies and the economy is always lopsided. More and more women are joining the work force which leaves kids at daycares and they grow up into the same cycle (some time). There is no value at home because every one knows that they have a choice to leave as soon as things go bad because society makes it easier and easier for people to leave one another and destroy themselves . Men are held accountable for everything that goes wrong with the country and in relationships. You'll never hear a man say "women do it, why can't we?". I feel everyone should be accountable for their actions and understand the repercussions of such. If you are having premarital sex and the Bible speaks against it, don't question your girlfriend/boyfriend about how many partners he/she has had, what does it really matter in the long run if you are doing something that you shouldn't be doing in the first place. How can you blame someone else for something that you are doing also? Translation: If you desire a good man or good woman, you first must be one. Cohabitation is for losers. I don't care how old you are or if your mommy and daddy told you that it was ok. God frowns upon cohabitation without marriage. It makes no sense to say, well I want to see how things will be before we get married so I think we should live together first. That defeats the concept of marriage. You can't pretend to be married, you either are or aren't. Its just like saying " I don't want a real doctor to perform surgery I want a pretend doctor". Which one would you rather have. You feel more confident in a marriage.That's why you should make sure your courtship is long. If you are shacking, all types of things can come out of that that shouldn't. Mistrust,lies,and every other negative thought, because your foundation is not solid, it has nothing to hold it up, and its based upon the devil. Everytime God says do this, the devil says the opposite, because that's what he does. People who are weak minded feed into this and form their own philosophy. I believe if everyone bases their beliefs on their creator, being God, then every person will become more successful in relationships and marriage. If we keep straying to the ways of the world, the world will soon pass away and take with it all that is inside of it, and if your soul belongs to the world, your soul won't be worth much in the end. Marriage to me is still a beautiful thing that God has ordained. It depends heavily on two people's perception of it. If the two parties involved believe that the marriage won't be able to survive without God, then its headed in the right direction. If we are constantly getting caught up in the ways of the world, then you already know how the world is...You have to look at the world sometimes and just shake your head and ask why...I got two tickets the other day, my license was taken, I made a mistake and I was penalized. I will more than likely have to pay a fine. I don't feel bad, I just know that if I had done things differently, I might have had a different outcome. If I did everything right (which no one does) then of course the tickets wouldn't exist. The moral to the story, practice doing right, even if sometimes its not done to you, in the end, all that opposes and tries to destroy God's people (and believe me, we all are God's people no matter what color you are) will be punished. Everything in life is based upon a decision, try to make the right one. Keep hope alive, cause God surely is.

Answer 3

Being with one person for the rest of one's life is probably unrealistic, which is why marriage can be hard work.

Living with someone is not a guarantee for a perfect marriage, but you can find out a lot about someone's day to day behavior, and you can get out of the relationship more easily. In the end, cohabitation prevents a lot of divorce.

In the past people only stayed together because of societal pressures and the fact that most women couldn't support themselves.

I don't think you need to be worried about marriage needing to be preserved. Many silly women still spend their entire lives thinking that their wedding day is going to be the best day of their lives, and many other people are willing to spend tens of thousands of dollars on weddings. People like rituals; it's a human condition.

Answer 4

Personally I think that there should be a big effort in saving a marriage. I find that a big difference(in now, and back then) is that people had God in there life, and also when they would split up with there mate others looked down upon them.So people would try and work things out (better or worse). This world is changing ever so fast and not for the better.. I am happily married and I respect my husband and I no that my life is now our life not just mine.

Answer 5

I got married in 1985 and had affairs for 15 of those years.
One day my wife has an affair and we dont; get along for five more years. Then one day, she needs me desperately and she is ill and needs an operation. I am there and since then we have been the best ever.
The moral of my story is that even though we did wrong;In the end, we had only each other to depend on and that is when our love bloomed 24 years after we got married.

My marriage is at its ultimate best and It took me 24 years to figure that out.
It is simply a miracle we survived it all and escaped the wrath of divorce.

Answer 6

Because we as a people and nation have forgotten what marriage is all about and we have become selfish and uncaring only thinking just about ourselves in our marriages..... This is NOT the way God ordained marriage and committment to be! He will not smile on us as a nation and people for this.... There definitley should be alot of efforts put forth to preserve marriage!

Answer 7

"efforts to preserve marriage"? Yeah, that always means to preserve YOUR idea of marriage. You should worry about the state of your own marriage and leave the world to police itself.

Answer 8

We live in a world where no one trusts anyone or anybody so why even bother to take the plunge to marry? Co-habitation is the best way to go so if you get tired of the person, you can pick up your bags and walk away.

Answer 9

People feel that once you get married, you don't have to work keeping the other person happy. Which leads to stepping out

Answer 10

I feel it's mostly because the Liberals are continually trying to remove GOD from country, school, and our lives.