my parents are getting a divorce after being married for almost 16 years. they're constantly fighting and when my mom asked if they should go through with the divorce i said yes. is it wrong to think that my parents should get a divorce and that i think that it would be better that way?
2007-01-13 12:07:22 · 15 answers · asked by jessie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You sound like a smart girl to me...sometimes people just have to realize they aren't a good romantic match anymore and would be better off apart, and the kids (if any) would be better off too...bravo you for being able to see it that way...if I were a kid I'd much rather have my parents be apart and happy than together and fighting...
2007-01-13 12:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong for you to think this is wrong. I went through the same thing. My parents got divorced after 16 years, and I think it was the best thing for the family. My parents were constantly fighting and my dad was never home. Since they separated, it's been better. I've moved out on my own and get along better with my parents now separately than when they were together. It's a really hard thing to go through at first, but it gets better. If they're not happy with each other, and nothing is working to keep them together, than the divorce will probably be the best bet. Talk to your mom about it. She'll want you opinion on the whole situation. One thing about divorces, sometimes the parents don't think about what is best for their kids, if you tell her, she'll understand.
2007-01-13 21:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by tiggergurl004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 years is a long time. Maybe they just forgot how to talk to each other. Sorry u have to go through this. The kids are the ones that get hurt the worst, and parents just don't see this. Just remember when they meet someone new u have to pretend u like them even if u don't. There are alot of things that are going to happen that u may not like even more if they divorce. Try talking to them and see if they still love each other and if they do then try to get them to get some help to work out their problems. A family breaking up is a very hard thing to take even if it seems like the right thing at the time. I hope the best for u and your parents and hope u find peace in your life.
2007-01-13 20:33:50 · answer #3 · answered by Shery W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at all sweetheart, sometimes that is the best decision for everyone involoved. I am sure they just want your opinion and want to know how you will feel, make sure you are okay with the idea of a divorce. A divorce is a very painful thing for the whole family, but in the end can be so much better than all of the constant fighting. Good luck to you and your family...
2007-01-13 20:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by Shelby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong at all. Not many would say this to their parents. It's probably just getting on your nerves all the fighting and I don't' blame you for wanting it to end. ;o( Some people can live together when others can not. But have your parents ever thought about some kind of counseling where they could save their marriage as well as stop arguing so much? Just a thought. Hang in there. ;o)
2007-01-13 20:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think being honest the way you were with them is the best thing. It shows that you a mature enough to handle your parents divorce. Divorce is usaully hardest on the children and if you are ok with it that's a good thing. Now they are free to make a clear decision base on thier feeling as a couple rather than thier feelings as a family. Indirectly, you gave them your pardon to do whatever they want to do.
2007-01-13 20:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by babylove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame that your mom asked you if she and your dad should get a divorce. I would hope that your parents thought about going through counseling before it is finalized, but we could only hope that you will accept the fact that they are getting a divorce, and it seems that you have already accepted this. GOOD LUCK with everything.
2007-01-13 20:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by HAGAR!!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong is your mother asking you what she should do. You are entitled to your opinion, and you're the only one who knows what it's been like living with your parents, but whether they get divorced or not is between them. I'm sorry your mom put you in that kind of position.
2007-01-13 20:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, cause iam sure you are tired of listening to them hurt each other. You love them and want them to be happy, if divorce is the only way , then its good advice.
2007-01-13 20:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not a christian it is hard to advise some one on how important vows are, obviously if there is abuse in the marriage that is very wrong and needs to be dealt with - your parents need to re-kindle their past have a retreat away from the kids try & remember why they got married in the 1st place.
It easier to walk away then to stay together but to stay & work out their differences is more admirable :) :)
2007-01-13 20:17:24 · answer #10 · answered by chicka86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋