Been married about 6 years and just recently found out that her life was much different than I have ever known about.At first I was really shocked but now I think so what...I have been with many many women does it really matter as long as we are happy together?
2007-01-13 11:38:28 · 20 answers · asked by Im C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you're really happy - stand for that. Do not let the past to destroy your present.
2007-01-13 11:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Bella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAS a prostitute or IS a prostitute?
If it's WAS, and you've both had STD screens and been faithful then I would not worry about it from a physical health standpoint. I know you're shocked now but she was probably really scared to tell you, and it took guts to level with you. I feel badly for you both, it's a tough situation but if you both love each other I think you can overcome it. You may both need counseling to work thorugh it.
If it's IS then it is not unreasonable to kick her out of the house and file for divorce.
2007-01-13 19:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Carolyn R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is, Is she still one?
Most of us have done stupid things in the past. I have known many girls that have had sex with at least 50 different guys. Not for pay. Is there a difference? It is still sex with multiple partners. The same goes for you? You said you have had multiple sex partners as well. What did she say to that, or haven't you told her?
James
2007-01-13 19:51:45 · answer #3 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have been happy for 6 years apparently she is not doing it now. Maybe she had a reason for doing it, have you ask her? As far as I`m concerned it is in her past and maybe she wants it left there. I `m not condoning it but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Hope things work out for you both. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-13 19:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love each other and are happy, then there is nothing to do. She is still the same person, you just know something else about her. If she is still in that line of business, you need to be careful about STD's, condoms don't protect you or her from everything.
2007-01-13 19:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right so what? Yes she should have been honest with you from the start but I guess she was scared of losing you. It's just another job, pays bills right. As long as it doesn't interfere with your relationship with each other I can't see the harm. Does she object to your job? so treat it as that. Good luck just tell her to be more honest with you next time.
2007-01-13 19:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your happy with her, I guess that's fine, but she's had sex , most likely unprotected, with numerous strangers. Think about the health risk she has put you in. I would highly suggest you both get tested for STDs (such as AIDS, syphilis,herpes,etc.) as soon as possible even if you aren't showing any signs.
2007-01-13 19:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by J T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't matter about whats in her past if you truly are in love with her. We all have done things in our past we are not proud of. I am sure she isn't proud of that that's why she didn't tell you.You have to forgive her and move on if you want your marriage to work you can't hold it over her head forever.Good Luck
2007-01-13 19:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by corene D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past. As long as she's good to you now, I don't see why it should matter. Just keep it to yourself, because anyone who knows about it will judge her harshly.
2007-01-17 14:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats just totally sad.....
But if you love her, and she's no longer supplementing the family income..... then staying together is fine, but get checked by a doctor.... her previous trade is notorios for disease.
2007-01-13 19:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋