I am virgin.
When I have sex the first time with my girlfriend, how can we do so that the condom will not break during sex?
When I ejaculate, is there a greater possibility that the condom will break if I ejaculate inside her vagina, or do I have to pull out before ejaculation?
I actually tested this thing myself (I didn't tell her) but alone, there was nobody at all, and I saw that it can easily break if there is "fluid" inside the condom when I have it on...
2007-01-13 11:31:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I am horrified by your answer... what was I supposed to do... I mean I bought some condoms and I tried them... Come on, that was just an experiment.
2007-01-13 11:39:12 · update #1
when there is fluid (semen, ok???) it means that you ejaculated... does the condom break is you move back and front inside the vagina when you ejaculate and imediately after???
2007-01-13 11:40:41 · update #2
maybe this will help
2007-01-13 20:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, no worries. It is BEST that you test for any STD's! It is important to know this information when having sex.
Condoms can break sometimes when having sex. Laytex condoms are the most protective condoms. They will not break 99.9% of the time. Also, how you put on the condom will determine if the condom will break or not. If you ejaculate a huge amount of semen, then have the tip slighty bigger.
I suggest that "Trogan Laytex" condoms are one of the best?
No worries, but it is always good to get tested for any STD's.
Note: If you do want to be 100% that the condom won't break while in the vagina, then take out your penis before you ejaculate.
2007-01-13 13:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by Y!User 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get sheep skin condoms. Just to be on the safe side I would not ejacaulate in her unless, you know for sure that the condom isnt going to break. Which knowing if the condom is or is not going to break is like winning the lottery- there are always chances, but you never know.
Also, do not take that chance unless you have enough money for child support for the next 18 years!
Hope this helps.
2007-01-13 11:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on being a virgin! Something few kids can claim anymore.
I understand your want of having sex but you need to be more careful. Sex opens alot of boxes that you may not be prepared for. It is more emotional to girls where boys are more physical. That means that the girls become attached emotionally and boys are just there until the next time. Most girls and few boys really have their hearts attached to the act of sex.
This is something that should be saved for marriage. I know that sounds old fashioned but once you have sex you can never be a virgin again. Your virginity is the only real gift you can give to your spouse that no one else can give. If you are a Christian this is something that God also wants you to save for marriage only. Sex has a deeper meaning, feeling and involvement if it is shared only with the one partner being your spouse.
As for the condom.......It is wise to think of it but if it is breaking then it is not a good brand to use as it may break every time. Even a miniscule break, hard to see, will allow semen to get out. Pulling out of the vagina will not stop any semen that get loose on the outside. A woman can get pregnant even if you do not ejaculate inside of her womb. Semen can live for awhile in the air and will try their best to get to their ultimate destination. If any touch her body she has a chance of conception.
Now.....don't forget about diseases. Diseases are frightening in today's society. Aides, cancers, Herpes, STD's and so on. She may be a virgin as well but once you have sex with someone you always can carry their cells with you. You are now a carrier to every individual you have sex with. These cells can mix until one has an outbreak on your body, or theirs, in a form of cancer, disease or infection.
Think more about this, pray on it, discuss it with your pastor, discuss with your parents (be open), discuss with your girlfriend. Be wise as this is a very important decision to make.....not just a physical act.
2007-01-13 11:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lilly K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are, but I'll assume that you're under 20. I, on the other hand, am an old bag at the age of 32. While I strongly disagree with people telling you what to think about sex (virginity is the only thing of value you can give to your spouse??? Sex is sacred??? Not in my house. A bodily function is not worthy of being equated with love.) I do agree that maybe you should rethink having sex at all. I lost my virginity at the tender age of 15. On a dare no less. With the wrong person, for all the wrog reasons, and in absolutely the wrong circumstances. But if you went back and confronted me about it, I would've sworn that I knew what I was doing. I look back now and I realize just how lucky I was. Some of the chances that I took...there is no way in hell I was prepared for the consequences, and I relied on the "it can't happen to me" clause. My daughter is the result of a broken condom (with my husband). Now, she was unintentional, but a blessing nonetheless. We were old enough to be able to marry and provide for her. But it was just dumb luck that it happened when it did. It could have happened so easily that day when I was 15. It scares the sh*t out of me when I think how different my life could've been.
Sex is fun, but it's not the big mystery I thought it was. I was kinda like..."What? That's IT??" Yup, that was it. Hump hump hump, grunt, pull out and throw away the condom. Sorry to be crude, but that's about all there is to it.
I disagree that sex is some mystical magical rite of passage that lies behind the sacred curtain in the holy of holies. I do believe, however, that it is a very big responsibility, and one that in retrospect I should not have shouldered so early. Learning to develop strong relationships with others is complicated enough without having to involve sex. It just complicates the hell out of it, and leaves you sad, confused, and frustrated...and possibly pregnant. Now who needs that??
Ignore the media. Ignore the hype. Ignore what others are telling you. Listen to yourself. The smartest a person can ever be is to admit that they don't know everything. To admit that maybe you don't have the years under your belt to handle sex and all its complications right now would, to me, tell me that you have wisdom beyond your years. Is it something that you feel you "should" do, or is it that you really really want to? Do you feel embarrassed that you are still a virgin? Do you think it would be better to just "get it over with"?
There's a big difference between making love and f**king. If you are with someone you really have strong feelings for, and you feel that this physical expression is the very best way for you to convey that to her, then so be it. But that physical expression doesn't need to include full-blown sexual intercourse! Also, I'd suggest avoiding "recreational" sex (that would be the f**king I was talking about). Truthfully, I still suggest avoiding sex at all until you're 18 or 20. Too many other things going on in your life at that age that need your immediate attention. IT'S JUST NOT WORTH IT!
But if you're adamant that you just HAFTA have sex...*sigh* which I suspect you are...the best advice I can offer is A) Double bag the little fella, and B) use spermicidal water-based lubricant. If you can't do this without embarrassment, don't do it in the first place!
2007-01-20 06:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would there be fluid in the condom before you put it on? Put the condom on correctly and leave a small amount of space at the end of it and you will be fine! To be safe pull out as well if your nervous!
2007-01-13 11:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by matty441 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
condom is an elastic rubber, and it fits all sizes of penis. if used properly and correctly it wont tear or leak out.no need to pull it out when you ejaculate,just let it inside normally. after climax, withdraw your penis slowly by holding the base of the condom. but you have to understand that condom is use for protection from Sexually transmitted diseases and family planning method for couple who desired not to achieve pregnancy.
2007-01-13 12:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you put it on properly, with enough room at the end of it it should not break. Also is she is really tight slow down. That could cause it to break . Relax you have your whole life ahead of you. It will happen / when it happens. But PRACTICE SAFE SEX.
2007-01-13 15:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by SLY ONE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave space at the tip and make sure she is wet so there isn't that much friction and don't use oil based lube( vaseline, baby oil) cuz those can cause them to break. If you are still nervou then pull out. Good luck!
2007-01-13 11:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by luvmyboy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Leave room at the tip of the condom, enough for your "fluid" and everything should be fine.
2007-01-13 11:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't worry, as long as you don the condom correctly with some allowance to collect the sperm. you will be fine, it is not easy to break a condom. try durex "extra fine".
2007-01-13 13:20:16 · answer #11 · answered by zodiaccyber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋