This happened to me a few years back. My best friend came out to me. (Actually I was the first person she ever admitted it to.) It was a bit of a struggle for me to come to terms with, but she is still my best friend to this day.
2007-01-13 10:54:50 · 49 answers · asked by puter_patty 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
My best friend is gay. I love her so much!!!
2007-01-13 10:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good for you hon! The case in fact is my best friend is gay and I knew from the get go...we became more than friends later (we got married) so he was not 100 percent that way but we are split up now...it's all good he and I are still very close friends even tho he is a long distance trucker now...
I should add that if it was a female in question, I would probably know anyway and accept and love them no matter what...
2007-01-13 11:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by tigerlily_catmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is wonderful.
It did not happen for me like that. ITs been a long long story of issues
In 1986 was dating a guy and we were having lots of fun and "busy" a lot. I was just bragging one night to my best friend and she lost it and confessed she was GAY and loved me and had for several years.
I felt totally betrayed, since her family knew it and no one ever told me for three years. We were best friends from 1980- I tried to be kind, but it was very clear that I was not "in love" with the girl, nor was I ever going to be gay. She was my oldest friend- she knew me better than anyone- and so I thought as well.
She felt as if I betrayed her, by not embracing her coming out. Well Hurray- your gay! Okay! I didn't really care either way, until it involved "me" as her choice for a mate. So I told her that we are only friends and maybe we need to spend more time with others, since I don't share the same "Feelings".
It was too much for her- since I was not going to break up with my boyfriend and I recommend she start to date(whom ever).
We had been best friends, nothing "Sexual" in any way- we were more like sisters, I loved her as a friend. So I was side swiped- I realized that maybe, I need to take another path and we just grew a part. Her mother tried to "plan" things for us - to force the friendship, but I made it clear that, until she was involved with another person. I would not be around- Its to confusing and painful. Fast Forward- attended college grads, funerals and other formal events- limited chit chat and no emtional stuff.
She did attend my wedding to another man some 10 years after that. My mother was shocked to she her and my other friends, embraced her and told her how much I had changed since we had stopped being friends. No one knew she was gay- I never told anyone- not my place to share it.
She did not bring her pardner, which kinda upset me, I would have loved to have met the person she loved and was so happily sharing her life together. I did see pictures, and I was happy for her. BUT you can tell it was not received well. So I assume she felt obligated to come to my wedding like a funeral or something.
I did however two years later- meet her (mate) at a formal, we both happen to be at and and the ***** actually threatened me in the bathroom. My reply was- I'm happily married and having a baby. Good luck with yours.
I did not let that stand- I actually walked out to HER and in front of my old bf said- did she mention- I'm prego, the baby is actually due around your birthday- kinda cool huh? AND that she threatened me in the bathroom to not talk to you anymore. Well if your mate is not self assured that "she is the only one" for you, that is her problem. I wish you well. and You can kiss my ***!
Walked away and we never spoke again.
I got a card mailed to my parents about the birth in the paper and a phone call that her mother has passed. We spoke briefly, and said no matter what life does to us. At one point we were the best of friends and we will never reclaim that, yet I will always honor it. I want you to be happy, your in my heart and on some level I love you like a sister, yet life has taken us to differnt worlds. She agreed. The End! That was two years ago, a month after her mother died. I did not attend the funeral, sent flowers. Realising that it would upset them all- if I was there.
Ironically- I'm a minister.
2007-01-13 11:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely. My best friend, just had her daughter tell her she was gay. It was very traumatic for the mom, but she loves her daughter and everything worked out. The father (divorce situation) on the other hand told her that unless she started to date boys he would have nothing to do with her. She is only 15. I get along great with her because I see her for who she is not her sexuality.
I believe you need to see all people as they are not as society tells you to see them.
2007-01-13 11:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by It's been awhile 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. What kind of a best friend would I be if I stopped being friends with them because of who they went out with? It's not like their sexuality changes who they are as a person.
2007-01-13 11:03:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure I would be surprise, but if the person is your true friend it doesn't matter what their sexual orientation happens to be. If it is your best friends who been there for you though thick and thin, why should it matter. If you are comfortable in your sexuality then what your friends does shouldn't matter.
2007-01-13 11:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me, quite a few years ago, but we couldn't stay friends because she kept coming on to me when she was drunk. It was too difficult to maintain the friendship, though it was a real shame because she is a really nice person...
2007-01-13 11:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i don't care. well, my best friend is a girl and i might feel weird for some time, but if i was really her best firend it wouldn't matter. i have no problems with gays. actually, guys who are gay are much better friends than female friends, they seem to know more about girl problems,styles, etc. than girls, which is cool
2007-01-13 11:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by ALESANA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Sexual orientation doesn't bother me and as long as the person doesn't change their relationship with me that's fine.
It might bother some people because some people may not be used to anything other than heterosexual couples.
2007-01-13 11:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by Natsumi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me yes i would
but if ur not comfortable around him its ur happyness im not saying tob selfish but think of urself and ur friend
POINT: if hes a really good friend it shouldnt matter weather hes gay or not
2007-01-13 10:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by Fellinlovetoday 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
whom ever she wants to be with in the dark is fine w/me. I would hope that she as a person would remain the same which I am sure she would.
2007-01-13 11:05:25 · answer #11 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋