2007-01-13 10:42:18 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I think if you are asking there must be a problem... If you are not interested in becoming a statistic for divorce rates maybe you ought to try marriage counseling first... sometimes all it takes is a changce to get your feelings out and learn some new techniques for goodcommunication! Good Luck!
2007-01-21 07:43:26 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your situation is in some way dangerous, try marriage counseling now. The fact that you wonder means that you feel that you need it. Go into the counseling with the presumption that you can make things work. Do whatever work you need to do and encourage your spouse to do likewise. If you do all of that and the marriage still seems broken, then you can consider divorce, but put some work into the marriage first.
2007-01-13 10:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by brews 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Counseling is good. But in my opinion only if the situation has not gone on for YEARS like some people let it go. The best thing would be to try and deal with it yourself since no one knows you like you or him. Divorce is hard on anybody specially with children and more so if they are young. But the question you have to ask Yourself is. Is Love or Money more important than anything?? Money buys you things but not Happiness and Love doesn't get you anything once its gone by one or both in a relationship. You can balance the good with the bad and see what you have more off and go by that. But no one will ever change once they are set on their ways. At least not fully.
Luck!!
2007-01-20 07:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by Nunya M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If problems start coming up in the marriage where there is lack of communication, counceling is a great thing to help get the marriage back on track, it can help teach you both how to communicate better, where your not fighting. I don't endorse divorce, because I think people are too quick to end their marrige if there's a little problem and they would rather end it rather than try and work things out. Marriage isn't easy, it takes alot of hard work.
The ONLY time I will ever endorse divorce is when there is abuse.
2007-01-20 05:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage counseling should go before divorce. Many times if a man will go to counseling, he cares about the marriage.
When he refuses this and communication always ends up with everything being your fault or your failure, I would say that is probably the time that things need to end between you. A good test of any relationship is how you feel about yourself when you are with this person. Does he make you feel very bad about yourself or does he make you feel good about yourself whenever you are with him.
2007-01-20 19:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the right time is when you are not able to talk to the other person anymore. Once you can no longer talk and reason with one another it is time for counseling. When counseling does not work then it may be time to really consider divorce.
2007-01-20 12:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by missgoodgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for marriage counselling if you have problems in your marriage that you can not resolve without help. It's time for divorce if you are being abused, if either person is unfaithful, or after you've received counselling and still can't resolve your issues. If you still love each other seek counselling.
2007-01-19 03:10:40 · answer #7 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bleive the right time for a divorce is when you have tried every possible thing to try to patch things up and stay together. people tend to forget that vow they once made on their wedding day "to death do us part." Don't forget when you got married there was love. There still can be love if you can remember the things you use to do on your days as boyfriend and girlfriend. Sometimes we forget these little things and we say I'm already married so I don't have to impress her/him anymore. That's where you wrong. If you want to hold on to someone you do everything within your reach to keep them happy. Go back in time and try to be who you use to be and don't forget the importance of communication as well as choice of words and tone of voice. There's so many ways you can disagree on an issue without hurting each other. communicate, talk don't scream or disrespect each other. Go to a marriage counselor if need be and you see things are not working, even pray. Unless there' an abusive relationship work on it and don't give up.
Good Luck
2007-01-19 15:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by changita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the ring comes off while you are out in public. IT is now the time to seek counseling or a divorce.
2007-01-21 01:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by beetem@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go and seek help long before the thinking turns to divorce nothing can be worse than going through a divorce and some times all it takes is a third person to help you see through the mess
2007-01-21 06:43:46 · answer #10 · answered by LIM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋