Ok here it is.... One of my closest friends growing up Ex-wife has contacted me and is expressing a little interest in me.
Here are the facts:
1) they where married for 5 years....they dated for seven years before they were married.
2) they have been divorced for over five years now
3) My friend and I are not as close as we use to be. I rarely hear from him. he never calls me. Infact if it not for me calling him or going to see him the once or twice a year that I do, I would never hear from him.
4) Now durring there divorce, I NEVER.... not once looked his ex up. She contacted me. It has been over six years since we have talked. But now that we are in contact, I find myself interested in her.
5) what do I do????
HELP A BRUTHA OUT !!!!!!!!
2007-01-13 10:00:28 · 10 answers · asked by M_R_bongo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do ittttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt. they have been divorced for long enough.
2007-01-13 10:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by gaga g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go for her. Just because the two of you were best friends at one time that does not mean that you should not get involved with his ex-wife. Now if he was still married to her or if he & you were both staying in touch with one another on a regular basis ,then yes I could understand you feeling guilty. But you said that the only way that the two of you stay in contact with each other is because you contact him. And the two of them are divorced so there is no problem there either. If the two of you are interested in one another then you should not deprive yourself from getting involved with her just because of an old friend that you rarely see.
Good Luck!
2007-01-17 13:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he was your friend at one time and now that you are not that close it seems okay to do but if he finds out he may contact you and have something to say about it. I mean it would be a little different if you all were really close still. You can't control your heart so I think you should go for it they were together for 12 years total and they divorced over 5 years back think going for her would not be morally wrong go for it~~
2007-01-13 18:07:32 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you need to ask yourself some questions
1. when u and your friend were close, were you really close, like best friend? Because if you were, it would be pretty bad to do that to him.
2. If u started something with his ex wife, would you find yourself feeling guilty, like would your conscience get you down, if so, then theres no point even persuing this relationship if your conscience is going to eat you alive.
Really think about the pros and cons and be realistic. Do you think it could go anywere with this woman, or is it just going to be a bit of fun, if so, dont bother, its not worth it, however if you think you might miss out on the opportunity of her being "the one" then you need to have a good think. This is a decision you need to make yourself because no one truly knows how you feel except you.I personally dont think i'd persue anyhing like that, but if i was falling fo this person i cant say what id do because "love conquers all" doesnt it? Also, do you have friends tht are also his friends, that may turn against you if u persue this. there are many outcomes you need to think of before you make a real decision, but remember, relationships come and go, but friends are for life, it doesnt matter how often you see him, he is still your friend and he will see it as betrayal no matter how you put it, and think about the ex wife's position, is she doing it to get back at her ex or wot? i think you should put your friends feelings into consideration because ultimately, you are supposed to be his friends and i dont think i could be friends with someone who was seeing my ex.
2007-01-13 18:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the situation being what it is, I'd say you should be able to pursue this relationship. It would be courteous if your friend found out from you, rather than from third parties, though.
2007-01-13 18:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Brutha treat her as you would any female you are interested in or do you want to wait until she's interested in someone else and then you could say "Gee I shoulda called her" Call her!
2007-01-17 17:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by passion for art 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people are going to tell you that if you get with her you are betraying your friend...I say go for it..who knows maybe this is your soulmate...all you can do is follow your heart
2007-01-13 18:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by Pretty Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get her man, all is fair in love and in war..
2007-01-13 20:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by dr.pepper106 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and go out with her.
2007-01-13 18:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sniff her underwear, see what happens.
2007-01-13 18:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by eob4life 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋