What to do with my 15 year old niece that is pregnant?

Question

She wants an abortion and i think that she should have one because of her age. But her mom is wanting her to have a kid but she is not ready too.
She has asked me over and over to convince my sister to let her get an abortion because she knows she is messing up her life if she follows through with this pregnancy.
What would you tell your sister about her daughter that is pleading with you to help her?

Answer 1

You might mention a couple of things. The $300,000 it takes to properly raise and educate a child. The indisputable fact that children raised in a home with a mother and a father are much more likely to do well in life, marriage, and work. You know who will raise the child, right? The child's mother. And her record thus far isn't very good because she's got a child who is with child. The cycle needs to be broken and a 15 year old child giving birth to a child can't possibly help break the cycle. Good luck. You are thinking right.

Answer 2

Tell how you feel and how the daughter feels. Why does the mother want her to keep the baby anyway? That is confusing -- unless she is totally against abortions. Fifteen is sure young to be having a child and be loaded with such responsibility. The rest of her life will be forever changed.


There three alternatives this young lady can take.
Have the child and keep it.
Abortion
Have the child and give it up for adoption.

I have found a web site that might be helpful to you, the pregnant young lady, and the mother. After it's all over, get a belt and spank her behind for letting herself get into such a pickle. There are so many forms of birth control there is no sense in this situation. Either birthconrol or teach the dang girl to keep her pants on.

Best wishes and best of luck.

Answer 3

I was in this situation when I was 15. I had the child and he was born with a birth defect. I kept him for ten months and then decided that I would give him up. I had no clue really. My parents ended up adopting him. My mother didn't want to have anything to do with me from the time she found out I was pregnant. It was terrible. I was terrified. I had no one. I was 15 and all alone. I would say that anything she soes will have a significant effect on her life. I think that it's great if you all are supportive of her decision. I don't really believe in abortion but if she doesn't want a child I think it's best that she doesn't have one. Have you guys talked to her about adoption? It's gonna be hard either way. I feel like I did the best thing for my son as I could have never taken care of him.

Answer 4

I got pregnant when I was 16. I didn't want a baby at that age either but if you spread your legs you pay the price. It's all about the choices you make after that. I lived with an alcoholic parent, still graduated from HS with honors and took care of my son by myself. It was rough but I'm 24 now bearing my 3rd child and I'm doing better that I ever thought I would. So it doesn't always turn out bad, it's what you make of it. As for your sister, she is grandma to that unborn baby she should get say in it too. And there are plenty of people out there who want babies and can't have them, so adoption is always an option.

Answer 5

I wouldn't say anything to my sister. I would say something to my neice. Basically she did the "crime" and needs to face the time. She is old enough to take responsibility for her own actions. She choose to have unprotected sex and surely knew the consequences of such actions. She could have also taken procautions after having unprotected sex to insure she didn't conceive like Plan B, the morning after pill!

Answer 6

Its a decision for the girl, the carer.

Then again Social Services might make a decision about the baby when it arrives.....Parents do not 'own' their kids.

I love it when parents get uptight when their underaged daughter get pregnant...'You can, you cant etc and get holier than thou about the whole issue.

They should have been taking better care of the kid in the first place.

Answer 7

Well you should tell ur sister that it's your niece's body and it's her decision if she wants to have an abortion she should be allowed to because its not ur sister's body its her daughters, my cousin was 15 when she got pregnant and she wanted to keep the baby but her mother forced her to get an abortion ( opposite from ur sister ) just remind her that its ur nieces body and not hers. good luck

Answer 8

I would stay the hell out of it. It is not your daughter that is pregnant, it is your sister's. Your sister is probably the same way I am, if you listen to the music, then you have to pay the piper. In other words, if your old enough to have sex, then your old enough to take on the responsibility of your actions.

Answer 9

awwww thats so sad. I think that you should try and get your sister to understand what shes going throught..im 15 and i wouldn't want to have a baby now. You should tell your sister that your niece is a beautiful young woman (which i bet she is lol) and that she needs to get an education, not worrying bout a baby
may god be with you forever

eli

Answer 10

Well, I, personally am pro-life, and I would suggest that if she is not ready to take care of a baby, she should give it up for adoption. There are so many people out there that actuall can't have children and that would be a blessing for them. If she doesn't want it, and can not be a good mother then you should suggest that to her =)