I am 62 and thinking of getting a wife from the philipines about age 18-21?

Question

Is that bad? I want children of my own and think maybe the younger ones will be better for this for many reasons and perhaps easier to influence and train. Most of the 30 + gals over there have kids and are pretty shopworn sexually too. Eggs wear out with age too. What are the flaws , if any, in my thinking. Opinions please. Try not to be too offensive.
The wife market here in USA is pretty grim for a 62 yr old widower.

sofa king. they do not have old avatars

luciloobo- todys young women are trained, even if you think not. the question is how? are they materialistic? helpful? selfish? Can they cook? etc. you be the judge.

Kelly and holly.
- with todays hormone treatments, viagara and medical advances, i can expect to live 30 more years. plenty of time to put a child through college. why not enjoy life a second time around if possible? Older men can be kinder and wiser than young punks who use girls and toss them away with broken hearts.

Yes women leave their husbands all the time. it happens to 30 year old men with 30 year old wives. that is a the risk of love.
Every marriage is some kind of packege trade-off. few are pure love. Do middle aged women want to marry men with no job or money that cannot help them financially. do young american girls not figure in money when choosing a husband. ( the smart ones)
What about Hugh Hefner? Should he be allowed to have beautiful young girls and nobody else can.? What about Michael Douglas. Is he a pervert? Must every 62 year old man be lonely or else marry some shrewish hag that will nag him to the grave and refuse to pleasure him? I loved my first life and wnat to repeat it with wife and kids. is that so terrible? It was great!

the d-
not only am i real but i am a typical case. there are many like me. you too will be an old geezer someday too and will understand that you do not stop liking young beautiful girls just because you are old. it does not work that way and it is perfectly legal and done all the time and has been done for thousands of years. remember Abraham in the bible? he got his slave girl pregnant when he was in his eighties.
18 year old girls in the philipines are well prepared for this sort of thing and getting to be old maids at that age.
I could choose a girl age 38 but her eggs would get me a child that may be MR. anything over age 22 is pushing your luck a bit. certainly age 35 is a stopping place for Motherhood. Would age 35 be OK with you?

Answer 1

HOW could you ALL be so selfish and judgemental? What difference does it make HOW old someone is if they treat their partner with kindness, love and RESPECT. It is no crime as long as the young woman is over legal age and knows her mind...also, hearts don't ATROPHY at any particular age.

I am 32, divorced with one son age 9...my boyfriend is 49 and has two daughters age 16 and 23 - seventeen years difference...I would love him if he were older. He treats me very well...and before you say it, no - it's not a sugar-daddy situation. I pay my own bills and maintain a separate household from him. He is good hearted and unselfish. Would I marry him and have children with him? Yes, if that is what he wants. I should also say that although my boyfriend is just shy of 50 now, he is still HOT and VERY "able"! I certainly have NO complaints ;-) .

If a man is confident that he can support a family and give them the love they deserve, for however long he has to do so - why not? Do thirty year old husbands and fathers not die of accidents and illnesses? What happens to their families when they do? This man genuinely seems to have good intentions...if he can find a bride he loves, I say by all means - do! My only advice is that he makes sure he finds someone who will genuinely LOVE him back as he deserves and not just an opportunistic mail order bride. LOVE is ESSENTIAL both for marriages and having children. :)

Answer 2

18. Because currently, at the age of 18 in the United States, if the draft was activiated, an 18 year old male would be old enough to un-willingly go die for their country, but not to drink. (If the draft was active, which it hasen't been in a long time. All the current armed forces members are voluntary.) As well, I know some 18 year olds that are more mature and responsible than 21 year olds. In addition, most of the rest of the world, the drinking age is 18. The United States is one of the only areas where it is 21. Those places where it is all ready 18 don't seem to have problems.

Answer 3

If this is your choice and its what you really want go for it. Personally I don't think you should go for someone so young because believe it or not these women once in the US will find a reason to leave the man. I had a friend many years back get himself a mail order bride. Once here in the US with her visa all of a sudden she claimed he was abusive and left him and took half of everything. She stayed in the US because they could not deport her with a valid visa, and soon married another when it was about to expire. Makes me wonder if she did the same thing to him too.

Good luck and your right those girls are easier to train because American women are raised to be Independant and those women Dependent. But please think about it your 62 and have no children would you be around when that child graduates college or be able to play football and do all the things the younger fathers do? Dont be selfish in that regards consider the needs the child would have inregards to your age, you wont get any younger honey. I am 35 with a 7 month old and I am scared to death that I may not be around to see him graduate college and I'll only be about 56 at the time he will, not to mention grandchildren!

Answer 4

I can understand how you may want children of your own and I mean you are 62 just think though say you find a woman and she does get pregnant and by the time the baby is born you will be 63 or 64 when the child is 20 you will be in your 80's is that the best thing for them? I am not judging I think that sometimes things happen and then you realize that you want children and a life. I think if you think it is right to do it. It is your life have you thought of getting a surrogate mother or do you want a wife as well? I hope I helped you and sorry if I offended you~ Take Care Love~

Answer 5

First off, it seems that you could very well have the makings of being a sexual predator. If your willing to go for eighteen year olds at your age, I wouldn't put it past you to be attracted to others slightly younger.Grow up dude, you had your opportunity, and from the way I'm perceiving how you view women, you still don't sound like your prepared for that kind of life. Women make a man's life whole and are to be respected for just being themselves. This world isn't made solely for how a man wants it to be to suit his needs alone. He shares his life, his experiences, and his soul with her and she returns the favor by doing the same for you. The only thing you need to do though, is be sure your in love with that woman before you marry her or else it becomes difficult to do these things with true sincerity, even if you respect her as an individual for who she is. Compatibility is key. Know what your after before you get her pregnant. My advice is to forget the mail-order bride and get your act together first, but act fast time is running out and you have a long way to go.

Answer 6

It's not bad, but there are some other points to consider:
1. What type of woman would come here to marry a man 3 times her age? Is this a person you would want to have children with?
2. Will your wife remain with you during your inevitable impotency? Not being rude, just thinking ahead.
3. Will you be able to provide for her and the children if you should have a heart attack, stroke or other age-related debilitating diseases.
4. What will happen emotionally to your children if she should divorce you or you should die?

Whatever you decide, good luck!

Answer 7

I think you are being a little selfish here. Think about the woman... you know what it's like to have someone you love die on you. That's what's going to end up happening to that poor young woman in the future. Do you want that for her? And what about the child... would you want your child to grow up without their father there?

In all honesty (which is what you want), I think you have lived your life to the fullest already to start planning for a child. You should find someone your own age.

Answer 8

Well you need to understand you both will be using one another. She will be using you to get into the states and you will using her as a young trophy. As far as having children I hope your in good health and live a long life because you do not want your children to be growing up without a father to me that is just unfair. If you do find that young women and she does fall in love with you and you in love with her that will be great.

Answer 9

A teensy bit shopworn yourself, I imagine. Marvellous idea ol' fella. Absolutely. Toddle off to the Phillipines & shop for a young bride. Your inadequacies will not be nearly so noticeable with an inexperienced spouse.

And Americn women everywhere will be thankful for one less aging lech to contend with. Best of luck to you.

Answer 10

Yeah you might expect to live 30 more years, but how many more years before your new young wife tosses you into some third rate nursing home, finds a young boyfriend and never visits you? just something to consider....