2007-01-13 09:38:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
with bf and gf
2007-01-13 09:41:56 · update #1
In my non-scientific opinion, based on many years of observation, very darn few. Of those that do not get married, almost none. That is, if you are going to stay together through the lean times of college, then you had better make the commitment and be married, to keep it together through thick and thin.
There is especially a risk that when a man gets into a good career and starts using what he AND HIS WIFE worked so hard to get for him, he starts thinking of trading her in on a younger model. This is a large case of NOT FAIR, and needs to be dealt with up front. One option few people seem to have the guts to consider is what they currently call Big Love.
One of the reasons it is so unfair is the difference between men and women as they age. After all, if a couple went through school together, and are roughly of an age, by the time they are in their mid-thirties, she has pretty well done her child-bearing and is ready to start reaping the benefits of all her work in the form of a well-run, effective household of children who were brought up to pick up after themselves and be pretty self-sufficient generally. Do their own laundry, for example. That's something kids can learn by the age of ten, if they take responsibility seriously. It's not a difficult chore to learn, but makes a big difference in how well the household runs.
He, on the other hand, would like some of the perks of being a successful whatever, and there are all these younger women who tend to look up to him as a successful whatever, or just as a nice gentleman.
So there they are, they've toughed it out. What is their reward? Kids who were brought up by well-educated parents, taught responsibility at an early age, and know how to be a part of a reasonably well-run household.
And then he trades her in on a younger model? Cruel.
And then he brings home a younger "sister" for her to enfold into the household? Possibly very nice indeed.
2007-01-13 09:56:43 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of variables to consider, not the least of which is how you define "last". Sometimes these relationships continue even as one of the two drops out of college, so, are you meaning that both persons continue in college, and the same college? And how far does the relationship have to become "involved" or "intimate" before you say they "lasted".
On a more personal level, back when I was first in college, DECADES ago, in the Spring semester of my freshman year, I met this wonderful woman/girl, also a freshman, and we started dating and kept in touch by mail over the summer and continued dating when school started again in our Sophomore year, and through that next summer school which we both attended, and our Junior year (which was actually her Senior year since she was so good academically), and that summer school AND a transfer to another university for my further education, during which time we GOT MARRIED, and then on to my graduate school and points thereafter. So I guess to address your question by my personal experience, forgetting all the "variables" I wondered about earlier, college relationships have as much chance for success as any other relationship started at any time, any where. The variable is not whether you're in college or not. The variable is just how much do each of you want the relationship to last. Best Wishes. God Bless you.
2007-01-13 09:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say your guess is in all danger clever. the element approximately college relationships is that there is no known. some human beings meet, hook, up, and not in any respect see one yet another returned. some date for all 4 years and then get married. it is the exciting section approximately relationships - you infrequently ever be responsive to the place they'll lead. once you're speaking approximately your guy or woman relationship although, do not hardship approximately information! merely relish it at a similar time because it lasts.
2016-10-19 22:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and be getting married this year, I was a freshman but he wasn't. It depends on the couple really. How prepared are you for a future and how flexible will both of you be? I knew a couple that broke up shortly after she lost her engagement ring, which cost some obscene fortune. I'm sure that wasn't the reason they think they broke up, but the fact remains. If you want your relationship to last, try to be realisitic and not so monetary. If you keep money out of it adn the idea of a white pickett fence, your chances go up. Also, expect to be poor for awhile. the average american is not living in a palace. Tehy have to work their whole lives to get a house they can call their own. Having kids puts stress on a relationship too. I've rambled awhile but what I'm trying to say is it depends on so many factors. Keep it simple and expect hardships and you'll do fine. best wishes.
2007-01-13 09:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by yay_boxes 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
not sure, but I met my current g/f as a freshman in college and we have been together for 6 years now.
2007-01-13 09:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
They usually don't b/c everything is so new and tempting, one wants to cuddle and watch movies while the other wants a night out w/ friends, other men/women, etc.
2007-01-13 09:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Mine lasted 4 months. lol.
2007-01-13 09:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by guicho79 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
be lucky if you make it through the year
2007-01-13 09:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jene 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
not many
2007-01-13 09:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by silentjealousy77 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
can you rephrase this question
2007-01-13 09:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋