I'm Bisexual and my mom saw my myspace profile and it says i'm bi and she acted like it was a sin or something and she looked like she was ashamed of me so then i convinced her that i acciedntly put it there so how do i tell my parents that i also like girls ((bisexual))
2007-01-13 09:32:37 · 22 answers · asked by skittlez978 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The only way is the truth. Do not hide who you are. They will understand. More than you will know.
2007-01-13 09:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by Dave O 1 · 7⤊ 3⤋
Its almost a fashion for girls to say they are 'bi' these days.
Not so very long ago men walked down the street with their arms draped over each other and no one gave it a thought. Do it now and you get labeled 'gay'. (Not that there is anything wrong with that)
Before you put the cat out of the bag, ask yourself if you really are 'bi'. A close friendship is not 'bi' but obviously there is some areas where the definition gets blurred. Dont know how old you are but any shift in sexual orientation should not be taken as permenent until you reach full adulthood.
Keep it in the closet and you might just find there is nothing in there to let out.
2007-01-13 17:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 6⤊ 4⤋
If this question is real then I sympathise with you. It is a hard one. The first answer you got here is typical of a rotting education system and typical of a fundamentalist culture prevailing all over the U.S.
Live and let live is my motto. There is a little enough love in the world so what is wrong with someone who likes a lot of love ?
I wish you all the best. I hope you Mum isn't that narrow minded (like the first answer here) to turn her back on her daughter. Good luck. Keep us posted.
2007-01-13 17:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by Teacher 4 · 8⤊ 2⤋
My friend is gay and his parents (who are actually his grandparents, so you can imagine how old-fashioned their ideas were) didn't take it too well. Everyone cried, there was some rough time where they didn't talk, but eventually they had to accept it. His grandmother even jokes with him about it now. His half-brother never did learn to accept it, but some people won't. I wouldn't tell them until you don't live in their house anymore, so that way the space can be available when they have a negative reaction again.
2007-01-13 17:38:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley Marie 2 · 7⤊ 3⤋
your mom is, well, not being a good, loving, supporting mother. i find that the best way to tell my parents something that makes me feel uneasy (or that i wouldn't be able to say to their face) is writing a letter and including lots of reasons for any requests (thats how i convinced her to let me play ice hockey so long ago - she had been so opposed and then gave in when she saw it) or saying embarrassing things. no matter what she says you are or how mad she is at you, she'll realize definitely realize her wrongs in the near future. she'll accept you sooner or later - don't give up hope or think you did the wrong thing by telling her. moms should be there to provide support - after all, she made you and you are her very own child!!!
2007-01-13 17:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by skigrrl66 3 · 6⤊ 4⤋
You should have never lied about it in the first place. And you should have told your parents directly, not let them find out through looking at your myspace. Half of your mother's shock was probably not about the fact that you're bi, but about the way she had to find out. Sit your parents down and have an honest, open conversation about your feelings with them.
2007-01-13 17:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 3⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. My sister is gay. I know it is probably scary to share this with your parents, give your Mom a week or two and try telling her she may be mad or hurt, or scared but tell her that you want to be able to talk about it with her because you want to be truthful with her about you are. If this doesn't work talk to a school couseler or trusted adult, not all families are accepting as mine but after the shock anger and denial that normally comes with telling family about this hopefully they will learn to love and accept you for who you are.
2007-01-13 17:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Destiny 5 · 8⤊ 2⤋
As a mom myself, I guess we all would like our kids to get married to the opposite sex and all that traditional stuff. Your mom, in my opinion over reacted. She needs to learn more about you. Just tell your family that it isn't their fault or anyone else's for that matter. Just be open and honest. A parent needs to accept their children for who they are, and not what they want them to be. I have four and have a great relationship with each and every one of them. Of course I would want the traditional things for my kid's too, but if tradition isn't meant for them, then I will still hold my children dear to me and accept them .After all, they are of my flesh and blood too, and my love for them is never ending..no matter who or what they are. Good luck with everything.
This is "The One and Only Britney" and I wanted to say forget what "Beverly C" said. You should be proud of who you are and not worry about what others have to say. It is YOUR PREFERENCE not anyone else's. And about your mother and family, I think that you should tell, and make sure you tell them that no one is at fault and that no one did anything wrong. Nobody should be judged for the choices they make in life. I wish you all the best of luck. And hope your family excepts the choice you have made. If you would like, you may email me. My email address is lil_angel_britney@yahoo.com. I feel that I could help you out a lot with this because I have gone through this with my brother tellings us that he was gay and my sister telling us that she was bi curious. Again I wish you the best of luck on this and I hope to hear from you soon.
2007-01-13 17:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 6⤊ 4⤋
hey, I'm bi-sexual as well and at first my parents didn't like it but i explained to them you can't help who you love or who you're attracted to, its not something that just happens its something you're born with. If you are not comfortable telling them face to face then write them a letter and leave it on the kitchen counter, go to school or work and then come home and have a talk with them. If they love you they will accept you for who you are and not what sexual preference you have.
2007-01-13 17:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋
my younger sister is bi and she told my parents over luch when we were out in public place. But, she told the truth, so I say tell them the truth, they will understand about you better then you give them credit for. And, if your parents are religious, they should accept you for what you are, because they will be the only ones who have developed a sin, and not you.
2007-01-13 17:40:01 · answer #10 · answered by amazon 4 · 6⤊ 4⤋
when you go out on a date, have her pick you up- meet your parents and such like your boyfriend would too. Let them warm up to it- it may take a while. Don't expect them to jump into the idea as how things should be- their generation was not into it as the newer ones are...
Present it as your choice and tell them that you hope they support your decision...
2007-01-13 17:41:52 · answer #11 · answered by worxsigns 3 · 7⤊ 3⤋