One day I was listening to loveline with Dr. Drew and Danny Bonaducci. Drew asked Danny what he looked for in a woman? Danny said he valued kindness the most in a woman. Drew then responded saying that Danny was codependent for holding kindness in higher esteem than any other virtue.
Also my mother throws the term around like candy even though she has very little education and can't hold a job. I understand codependence as someone who allows another "loved one" to continue a drug/alcohol addiction by giving them money and allowing them to not have a job, etc.
Is my deifnition too strict?
2007-01-13 09:29:38 · 2 answers · asked by kmm4864990 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You're definition reflects the origin of the term co-dependent, which was in "12 Step" programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous. You're describing a particular type of co-dependent behaviour called "enabling." The term co-dependent is now used in a larger pop psychology context, and refers to any type of unhealthy relationship in which one partner is overly dependent and the other overly care-taking. This dynamic usually sustains the unhealthy aspects of the relationship, but as each half also gets some of their needs met, they colloborate to keep it going.
2007-01-13 13:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by senlin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right!
2007-01-13 09:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by DORY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋