Parents? Why do you think this girl is so rude?

Question

A new girl I know (she's in grade seven) had been suspended recently from her elementary school and has been forced to attend another one. Her new bus stop is at the end of my driveway (where my child's stop is too). She was suspended for beating up kids either her age or younger. She back talks to people in authority, she says very rude things to my son which resulted in him running to me and crying. I tried to speak with this girl's parents, but they never responded. I tried phoning the school, but that didn't work out so well. I am starting to wonder why she's so upset. Do you think it is her parents or just her age? And how would you deal with this? (Rude answers will be ignored).

Answer 1

This child has several issues to deal with in her life and you are going to have a hard time cracking her code..It is very likely that her parents are either unsupported of her problems and have some of there own or are at the end of their rope dealing with a child who seems to have high emotional needs and a problem getting along with others..If she harasses your child or is doing something you do not like you should call the school as they are in charge of her from the time she is at that bus stop until she walks back into her home at night (this is what my school district told me as a teachers) They should be dealing with her behavior especially if it is effecting other students in the area/district

Answer 2

ummm either its her parents negelect her
shes been hurt and takes it out on others
shes rly doesn't give what others think
or shes not realizing how much shes actually hurting and effecting others
good luck with this
i would say talk to the actual kid and tell her wats going on and if she back talks u, ur an adult and she knows u hav athority over her wheither she shows it or not so sit her down and actually make her listen
tell her its not kool that she made ur son cry
if she has some smart alacke response like hes a cry baby or watever tell her shes a big mean bully (u dont hav to use those words but u kno wat i mean)
tell her if she messes with ne ones kids ever again there will b consiquences (u dont even hav to kno wat they r just look like u kno so u intiminate her)
and if she says well wat u gonna do bout it old lady or something along those lines, give her an evil stare and tell her again oh i can and will do something about it, just u wait and see
and then give her another evil stare and do that im watching you gesture
she may back off
good luck again
PS there may also b something emtionaly wrong with her too that shes bottling up, if that's the case or the other thing doesnt work, ask her did something happen to u as a child and let her open up to u (if that works) hope this helps

Answer 3

I am actually not sure why this girl is the way she is, but I think the fact that her parents don't seem to care may have something to do with it. It has nothing to do with her age. It's a sign that she wants attention. And unfortunately, she's taking it out on people like her son.

I don't know what you could do to deal with this, except perhaps confronting the girl yourself and seeing how it goes, or talking to the people in charge of your district's bus system. You definitely need to handle this, not your son. If all fails, you may want to drive your son to school for a few days.

Good luck!

Answer 4

i think it is problems at home because kids want a certain amount of athourity in thier lives even now they say they dont. i am going to say her parents just dont care what they do as long as they are happy. or she dosent get enough love at home from her parents because she reached the age were parents are saying oh there just teenagers. but that is not true they just get smart and grow so they think they can run the show.

they way you do that is shower her with kindness. that is the one thing she needs the most and the one thing she will hate the most. it is going to take some time but just become her friend no matter how mean she is . when you do this she might come to light evently just try it, it might work

hope it helps

Answer 5

She could very well be having troubles at home with her parents and is acting out. Its sad really but she needs some help like maybe with the school counselor. But if you aren't able to talk with the parents them I'm not sure what else you could do. If she causes any trouble that something where you feel you need to call the police to help then you can do that.

Answer 6

I would say it was her parents. something must be going on for a 7th grade to be so out of control. I know kids do mean things to get attention. I would bet she gets none at home. Maybe you could call the child protective services and ask them for advice.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

IT SOUNDS TO ME THAT SHE IS HAVING PROBLEMS AT HOME. AND HER PARENTS JUST DON'T CARE. SO SHE IS REBELLING, AND PROBABLY WANTS HER PARENTS TO DO SOMETHING TO SHOW THAT THEY CARE. TO ME SHE IS CRYING FOR HELP. MAYBE IF YOU GO UP TO THE SCHOOL AND TALK TO ONE OF THE COUNSLER AND MAYBE THEY CAN FIND OUT WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HER. SHE NEEDS SOME KIND OF COUNSLING, AND IF HER PARENTS WON'T DO IT. MAYBE SHE BELONGS TO A FAMILY THAT CAN HELP HER. YOU MIGHT WANT TO CONTACT CHILD SERVICES, AND SEEK THEIR ADVICE ON THIS. AND IF YOU COULD WHEN SHES AT THE BUS STOP WHY DON'T YOU TRY AND TALK TO HER, ASK HER HOWS SHE DOING AND THAT. MAYBE IF SHE CAN PUT HER TRUST IN YOU, IT WILL BE EASIER. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 9

i would have to say that the child is acting out because she feels insecure....more than likely there isn't much show of affection in her home or words of affection and well, in her need to feel some kind of importance, she beats on the weaker...somehow this helps her feel like she's somebody...

if it were me, i would try to show her some love...when she's out waiting for the bus, come running out to your son, asking if he wants a brownie or cookie...and then offer her one...when you son comes to u crying about her behavior, go out to her and just say, "i don't understand why you want to hurt my son, but i want u to know that if you need someone to talk to, i'm willing to listen"...she needs to be shown kindness and love and i'll be that if you persist, you'll win her over and get to the root of her rudeness...

Answer 10

Well , Liz, it could be abuse, mentally , physical, and psychological, or even sexual, maybe she has an anger problem or disorder in which she can get really angry for no particular reason
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