Bear with me this might be long....If you read my previous questions you know I am TTC...I just got my period today : (......oh well just have to keep trying...but anyway my question is, if and when we do have a baby I'm wondering if I can have a shower....someone else asked about a shower for a second child and some people said no because you should already have what you need from the first one...but I'm wondering if because my son is already 12, and will probably be 13 by the time another baby would arrive is it o.k. to have a shower? Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated....thanks!!!
2007-01-13 08:41:32 · 14 answers · asked by Em H. 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes... It is fine to have another shower, for a child. A lot of people that are telling you, since you already had 1 shower, then don't hae another, often are from a different time/place. Today, people wait longer between children to get pregnant.
With that being said, there are numerous new items for a baby out on the market today that weren't theri when your son was born 12 years ago. Also, if by chance you have a girl - the items you will need are completely different! IF, you are going to find out the sex, that might "calm" down some people (if it turns out your second child is female)!
Therefore, my best advice is to say - go ahead and have the shower, and if other people have problems with it - there are some options... don't invite them, if you do, maybe they just won't show up to make everyone else uncomfortable, of finally, maybe they will turn around with your joy and excitement!
GOOD LUCK, and KEEP TRYING!
(Below is a babyfit.com website - similar concerns)
(On the third link - look at #3!!!)
2007-01-13 08:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Glory 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sorry it hasn't happened yet. And, YES! have a second shower. My youngest is 10 & the baby products available now are really neat that weren't available back then. If you have the gear from your son you also may want to check the industry standards for safety with this older equipment. You may find you DO need a baby shower. And how could you deprive all the people you know, of being able to buy a baby outfit (they are just the BEST things to shop for!)? Best wishes for all the future happiness you are waiting for.
2007-01-13 17:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's totally ok to have a second shower. There is a big age difference between your son and another baby, and times and baby things have changed, and you don't have any baby items. So it would make sense to have a shower, especially since you're starting from scratch again. My son is almost 4, and I got rid of a lot of his baby stuff, and a friend offered to throw me a shower, so I will be having a second one.
2007-01-13 17:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by Courtney B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your son is is already 12, about to be 13...it's okay for you to have a baby shower. This rule to only apply for those who have children back to back. They still have the stuff they need. I know it's all hands-down stuff, but it's just the way life is.
I highly doubt you have what you need, so go ahead and have a shower when you do get pregnant. If others have a problem with it, don't invite them :-)
2007-01-13 16:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see anything wrong with having a baby shower. Your other child will be too old for you to have anything left over, plus there are so many new things out there that are improved since the first one was born.
2007-01-13 16:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by **wishin** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, if you have not had a baby in that long a period of time, then I would say a second shower is absolutely fine. I would never think twice about it.
2007-01-13 16:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by annieohbee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if you already have all you need, a baby shower is a good way to start celebrating your new baby. your friends and family will want to buy things for the new baby anyway. why not get together to spend time with them before things get even more crazy
2007-01-13 16:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All babies deserve showers and so do their moms!!
Traditionally all babies were welcomed this way, then the one baby rule crept in.
Nowadays I know its back to the every baby rule. I just threw a shower for a friend having her 4th!
My children were 6 years apart so we needed that 2nd baby shower- so much changed in such a short time!
Best Wishes!!!
2007-01-13 16:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by jettyspagetti 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just posted this somewhere in here--
yes it's ok to have a second shower--you are celebrating a new life--that is what a shower is about.
2007-01-13 16:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by Shellberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the shower is for the mother to be. I also think that every baby that you have deserves one. That is my opinion. It makes the M.T.B feel really good about herself and know that people are involved in the pregnancy.
2007-01-13 16:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋