When i gave birth 6 weeks ago i tore pretty bad! how long should it take for the stitches to go away and the pain to be gone? becasue my husband wants to resume sexual activitys and he keeps asking me when will i be healed! The doctor gave me the go ahead on sex, he told me to waite till i feel comfterable and use lube and dont get to caried away! but how long till i feel comfterable? It seems like an iternity since we had sex!
2007-01-13 08:33:22 · 19 answers · asked by Kay Castilio 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It could be sooner or later. I had my son 11 months ago, and for the most part, don't really like sex. Every now and again I get an urge, but they are few and far between. After this experience I had recently, I'll probably never have an interest in it.
2007-01-13 09:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U dont have too much longer to go with the pain..The stitches should be dissolving very quickly by now. after i had my son who was 9 lbs i had a pretty bad tear also.I bought some Tucks from walgreens and some pads. Everytime i wiped i would use the tucks as my toilet paper and then put 2 or 3 lying in the pad. The hospital also gave me some benzocaine spray for the pain which helped a lot. use a sitz bath too,the hospital should have given u a little bath toilet that u put some very warm water in and sit for like 15 minutes at a time. use that 3 times a day with very very warm water..it will heal u more quickly,help the pain and help the stitches come out sooner. If they didnt give u one then sit in the tub and relax. Do not even try having sexual contact yet if u are not comfortable,this will only make the healing process go by slower...I felt better and resumed sex with my hubby at about 9-10 weeks,but the stitches came out around 8 weeks fully etc. i just felt like my body needed to heal a little more before going into such a big step. Tell him to be patient and u take all the time u need. Good Luck!
2007-01-13 17:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...I was in your position after I gave birth. I was suppose to wait 8 weeks before resuming any sexual activities. I had 100's of stitches that were 3 layers deep. (I had a bad delivery) About 5 weeks after delivery, my guy was starting to feel a little neglected...and so I gave in to him. Bad Idea!!! I tore open my stitches and it was extremely painful. It hurt worse than when I lost my virginity. But after my doctor checked me out and everything...my husband and I resumed back to our normal activities and it didn't hurt and everything was back to normal. The first time doing it after birth is going to be uncomfortable.
Good Luck :-)
2007-01-13 16:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations on the birth of your baby! Every woman is different and so is the healing process. I suggest that you make another appointment with your doctor and tell him that you are still experiencing pain. Take your hubby with you to this appointment and ask all your questions with hubby present. Your doctor will address his/her answers to the both of you, and in doing so, perhaps your hubby might feel comfortable enough to ask a few questions of his own. All in all, you need to take it slow when you are ready and be gentle with each other. Good luck.
2007-01-13 16:47:55 · answer #4 · answered by LMnandez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but for some women it can take months, up to even a year, before they feel fully healed and say sex seems normal/comfortable again for them. Especially if they had to have stitches.
Make sure you use lots of lube - Astroglide is really good stuff. Especially if you are breastfeeding because sometimes that can cause you to be kind of dry.
Go slowly and if it is too uncomfortable, ask hubby to stop.
Remember that there are....um.....other ways to please each other.
Take a nice warm bubble bath and have hubby give you a massage to help you relax beforehand too.
2007-01-13 16:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's whenever you're ready. It can take up to 6 or 8 weeks and even months before you're competely healed down there. What helped me was using some KY Jelly.
2007-01-13 21:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by tigereyes19806 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can take up to 8 weeks. My doctor had to check me out around 8 or 9 weeks to make sure I healed up ok before he would ok me to have sex with my husband. It is a good Idea to make sure before you have sex becuase you don't want to make your self hurt more and have to wait longer.
2007-01-13 16:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jody Lynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a c-section and my dr made even me wait 8 weeks before resuming sexual intercourse.
If your hubby won't be satisfied with a mouth or hand job in the meantime, then maybe his problem is that he is worried you love the baby more than him. [This is very common.]
PS-
Congrats!
Don't rush anything with regard to your body or the baby right now.
And Astroglide Gel is the Mama Kitty's meow!
2007-01-13 16:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by LisaFlorida 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it really depends-every woman and pregnancy is different.
have sex when you feel like you are ready to and healed enough.
for some people it can take 3-4 months before they feel well enough down there.
good luck!
2007-01-13 16:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Shellberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on howinjured you are...i take 1 month to heal completedly...my friend take only 2 weeks...it depends....but avoid sex as long as you feel the pain coz it can be worse if itstarted the pain again...
2007-01-13 16:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by angel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋