It really turns me on, but she is totally against it. How can I get her to agree?
2007-01-13 08:20:48 · 31 answers · asked by Johnny A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't violate her. You'll lose her.
2007-01-13 08:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have gotten every girl I have asked to do this to do it, but I have only asked the girls that I really liked and I guess they really liked me. But it's not just that, they also trusted me. They knew by my personality that I would never make a spectacle of it.
I still have videos of old girlfriends. I almost never watch them actually, and I never watch them at all if I am with a girl, and I have never shown a video of one girl to another girl. Maybe this is part of the reason they trust me? I don't know. Maybe I just have a trustworthy face and you don't. Yeah, that's probably it.
You sound kind of shady, that's your problem. You sound like a perv.
Ok, I will add that the last one, I don't think she wanted to do it at first, and I didn't ask to do a recording of an "intimate moment" but just of her naked because she has a beautiful body. She was afraid I would show it to other people at first, but she must have realized I wouldn't and let me do record. I think she was drunk the first time, too. You could try getting her drunk! Then, after the first time, she will realize it's not so bad after all and you can do it all the time.
2007-01-13 17:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Montel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why and maybe work slowly towards it. If she feels selfconsious then maybe start with a still photo in some lingerie to show her you think she looks beautiful on film. As she gets more comfortable about the idea she might decide to do the video but if she really doesnt want to, i wouldnt pressure her. At the end of the day, its a nice turn on but its not worth it if its going to make her stressed and insecure. That video wouldn't be much of a turn on if she isn't enjoying it. Good luck :)
2007-01-13 16:26:34 · answer #3 · answered by Angie Mac 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agreed to let my husband video our intimate momemts. I didn't want to do it at first, but I wanted him to be happy, and oh he was happy! Problem is a couple of years later he asked me where our "intimate tape" was. I had no idea where this tape was and thought that he had it in a safe place. However, he didn't know where it was and still doesn't. Neither one of us has any idea where this tape went. Do the children have it? The neighbors? Where in the hell is the tape? Oh my god this is a scary question. So although I don't know how to get her to agree to the taping, I do have a suggestion: If you do get her to agree to the taping, make sure you KEEP TRACK OF THE TAPE.
2007-01-13 16:27:37 · answer #4 · answered by Vicki W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instead of trying to "get her to agree". . Try to understand why she won't do it. Most women are very insecure about how their naked body looks. Its either that, or she is afraid the video will be seen by others (like your friends :-). Or, she just thinks porn is dirty. If you think its her insecurity, let her know how sexy you think she is. Or, start excersizing with her so she can start looking better. Also, watch a porn video together to try to show her how sexy it can look. If none of that works, tell her instead of that, she could get her hot friend to join you in a 3-way. :-)
2007-01-13 16:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by kj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You might not be able to...women look at this type of thing as disgusting..ive met very few women who dont view this type of thing as pornography...if it were my wife i guess id forget about it, and respect her...dont get me wrong, im not some great guy, its just there's a difference between a wife and girlfriend...you have to live with her, you have to see her everyday, every night..do you really want her feeling bad about something she has done, just to please you?
2007-01-13 16:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by INFINITE CONSCIOUSNESS 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple solution: PATIENCE.
At some point, there will be something that she REALLY DOES wants to do/have that you REALLY DON'T want to do.
Once you are convinced that you she truly wants this thing badly, use it as a bargaining chip.
Then, you both get to sacrifice for each other and everyone wins.
The key: PATIENCE.
2007-01-15 09:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not comfortable with it - it's not gonna happen. If you hide the camera and she eventually finds out she will be P*SSED! Maybe try something else that you both might enjoy!
2007-01-13 16:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy J 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she is not willing to do it or feel uncomfortable with it then she will probably never agree on it.
2007-01-13 17:55:42 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grovel, grovel, grovel. A word that is synonymous with marriage. Good luck, but I bet she don't cave.
2007-01-13 16:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Akela 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her its something you two can watch when your 70 something years old and and enjoy. Worked for me.
2007-01-13 16:25:55 · answer #11 · answered by CDog 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋