OK. SO MY HUSBAND FOUND OUT THAT I WAS SPEAKING TO ANOTHER GUY. I HAVE ADMITTED MY FAULT IN THE MATTER. WE SAID WE WOULD TRY TO MAKE US WORK. I WAS ALL IN WITH MY HEART, I TOLD MY HUSBAND THE ATTENTION WAS WHAT GOT ME TALKING TO THIS GUY. MY HUSBAND FOR THE PAST TWO MONTHS (WHILE I WAS TRYING) WAS SNOOPY BEHIND MY BACK LOOKING FOR EVIDENCE THAT SOMETHING ELSE WAS STILL GOING ON WITH THIS GUY( WHICH I TOLD HIM IS NOT ) BUT HE IS SETTING HIMSELF CRAZY BECAUSE HE IS NOT FINDING ANYTHING. SO EVERY FEW DAYS HE KEEPS BRINGING IT UP AND I AM TELLING HIM WE CAN'T MOVE ON IF HE CAN'T LEAVE IT ALONG. (HE HAS DONE THIS TO ME AS WELL IN THE PAST PUT I JUST LET IT BE) HE SEEMS TO CAN'T UNDERSTAND THAT HE IS OVER REACTING ABOUT THE WHOLE THING. SO HE DECIDE TO GO AND APPLY FOR A DIVORCE. THE PAPERS ARE IN AND NOW HE SAY THE BALL IS IN MY COURT. HOW CAN THE BALL BE IN MY COURT IF HE ALREADY APPLIED. I AM NOT GOING TO RUN BEHIND LIKE I USUALLY DID. ANY SUGGESTION ON WHAT TO DO?
2007-01-13 08:17:07 · 10 answers · asked by Lady Dee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband sounds as if he needed an excuse to file for divorce and he found one. Do divorce him and move on, you are worth more and this particular person doesn't appreciate what he has and probably won't until it is lost and too late.
2007-01-13 08:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by D N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' think he wanted to find a reason to file a divorce because face it when someone wants a divorce they will just get it. When i was younger I was in the same position as him, i found out my boyfriend was talking to other girls in a very very flirty way, it drove me crazy, i never got over it, i mean here's this person who is supposed to love u and only give the attention to u but yet they are wasting it on someone else. Once u get 2 da point where he's at, he probably just feels stupid that he can forgive something like this, if u didn't once they u might do it again, that's what he's thinking, and it'll never go away no matter what u do. once u lose the trust i truly believe u can never gain it back 100%, ever. I would seriously think about getting some help with both of you, I think that would be best. But i can assure you that it's going to take alot of hard work, and it seems like he is very stubborn so i'ts gonna take a lot for him to start believing you, i hope it works out.
2007-01-13 08:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is cheating on you and is just using this as an excuse to divorce you. Anytime someone is overly jealous, it is because they are guilty over doing the same thing they accuse you of doing.
From what you've said, you didn't cheat, you were just talking to someone. So if he wants to file for divorce, let him. But living in a power struggle is ridiculous. In the meantime, get all the proof you can about his previous dealings with other women, in case you need it for court.
I'm sorry this is happening to you, but your husband sounds like a jerk. You'll get a much better man next time.
2007-01-17 06:37:25 · answer #3 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sign the papers. If not it will end up bad. You cheated he knows...He will never trust you again. He'll drive himself crazy(with a little help from you) if you stay together. Obviously it shouldn't be a problem for you. I mean you were going elsewhere to begin with. Sorry the truth hurts.
2007-01-13 08:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Shawn D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one you should have not cheated on your husband in the first place attention or not. you should have talk to your husband about it first .just sit back and wait on the divorce papers to come.you must still be doing something in order for him to keep bringing it up your husband is not as stupid as you think he is.Stop giving him reason to believe that you are cheating
2007-01-13 08:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce
you have not be faithful
your marriage is not working
he can't and doesn't trust you
the ball is in your court because you either want the divorce
or you don't. he wants you to confess...
2007-01-13 08:25:08 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ball is in your court because it's up to you if you want to sign them or not. he is over reacting, but we are only getting one side of the story. if he has been caught to what you have been doing how would you feel? if you feel that you need to be with someone else, sign the papers. but if you feel that you love and be committed to your your husband, than don't sign. everyone foregts what we say in our vows. do you until death does us part?
2007-01-17 07:16:10 · answer #7 · answered by foosarat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, after reading you're other questions I can see why he's pissed. You cheated! Obviously you don't want to be with him so stop stringing him along and sign the papers. I'm not blaming you, but you're not making it any easier.
2007-01-13 08:37:12 · answer #8 · answered by tHEwISE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he has filed for a divorce let him have it if you can not work things out.
2007-01-13 08:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't trust you anymore. And you pro'lly don't trust him anymore, {since the snooping. So their really isn't anything left to say, is there?? Say good-bye, for both your sake's. Maybe a new "begining, later?}.
2007-01-13 08:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by Gertie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋