He says he'll change, should I believe him?
2007-01-13 08:12:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Easy answer, No! I would not believe him for one second. If he did it once (or many times in your case) he will do it again. What is the problem with men these days. Why do they always think the grass is greener on the other side. Is there something he wanted or needed that you were unable to provide, or did he even bother asking? Most of the time they don't even convey their problems to their wives, they just seek out someone else who they think is the answer to all of their problems and cheat on their wives.
I know not all men are like this, my second husband is a kind and decent man, but before I agreed to marry him I told him that cheating of any kind would not be tolerated. I told him that if he ever had the desire to cheat that all he would have to do was let me know and we could get a divorce and he could be on his way. I think it is the least amount of courtesy that can be extended. We should end our thing before he tries out a new one.
In my opinion, there is no good reason for a cheating husband, so no matter what his excuse is, do not be pulled into his web of deceit. If he was having problems that needed attention, he should have come to you first for resolution.
I may sound jaded, and I am, but what is the deal with all of these cheating husbands? Once a cheater, always a cheater. Get rid of him.
2007-01-13 08:22:03 · answer #1 · answered by Vicki W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look at your question, if somebody else wrote that, what would you say??? By you always taking him back and forgiving him, it's like your saying it's o.k for him to do that. Aren't you worth more than that? twenty years is a long time to be dealing with that. I'm sure you can do better. Let him go. if after twenty years nothing has changed, it probably wont now.
2007-01-13 08:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by cb_1023 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmmmm - let me think......NOOOOOOOO!
how can he look you in the eye after cheating for 20 YEARS?!?!? trust is sooooooooooooo important - the heart of everything in any relationship. Now, i dont know the extent of the cheating - and to others it would depend on those circumstances. but honey - i am sorry to say that if he can do this to you for soooooooo long, i cant believe he would change now. honestly - do you want him to? can you go past the cheating? i know right when it all happens - it seems possible, and you really want to try. but i feel that you should now put yourself in the number one spot - DONT LOWER YOU STANDARD FOR HIM. DONT ALLOW YOURSELF TO FEEL SECOND TO HIM. YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING YOU WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP - DEMAND IT FOR YOURSELF.
2007-01-13 08:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by litlbigdg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on 20 years! If he been doing it that long why
would he change now? Plus can you imagine the
diseses?
2007-01-13 08:18:25 · answer #4 · answered by H D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ask...How long did you know this? Did you confront him before? If you did, obviously he didn't stop cheating.... so what is different now? Sorry to say most guys that cheat tend to never stop. At least until they become impotent.
2007-01-13 09:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get ur stuff together and leave without a notice,but make sure u get everything u want from the house and any money he has in the bank
2007-01-13 08:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by e_s_p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he hasn't changed in 20 years I wouldn't expect him to now.
2007-01-13 08:18:23 · answer #7 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start believing that you deserve something better.
Good luck.
2007-01-13 08:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha-ha
2007-01-13 08:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by jonnae w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like that NEVER change
i'll say divorce him like you should have a long time ago
2007-01-17 06:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋