So what now?

Question

Am I really pregnant?....I can't be everyone would kill me! I'm now 4 days late i've never been late in my life! I thought it was stress related but I just looked at symptoms and I have frequent urination which I didnt know was a pregnancy symptom until I read it today i'm so scared someone please tell me its in my head!!! My boyfriend says I would have to get an abortion and I think that is wrong what should I do???

Answer 1

Take a test and you'll know for sure.

Answer 2

Go and get a pregnancy test first to see if you are and tell your boyfriend that you are part of the making of the child and you have a say in what happens to this child if you are pregnant. If you had sex, there is a possibility you are. Calm down. There are people who have gotten pregnant and survived. I wouldn't jump to conclusions and start planning an abortion to get out of a tough situation. Look into all the options. Many people want to adopt that can't. You may want to keep the child.

If you are pregnant, you have to accept the concenquences of your actions. You play, you pay. You both knew what could happen if you did have sex. It isn't the end of the world. It would change your world, yes. I am sure your parents, (I am assuming you are young and still in school?) would be upset. You need to sit down with them and discuss what is happening with you. Let them help you through this whether you are or are not. Don't go it alone. Once they let the shock of it pass, they will be there for you. Don't listen to the scared jerky acting boyfriend. He will have to pay too, if you decide to keep the baby.

Mistakes happen and you shouldn't belittle yourself, but you should accept what you did and begin to act like an adult and think like an adult on what you can do. You need to get with your family and his. Let your family support you. They will be there for you after they calm down. Everyone makes mistakes and they will still love you no matter what and they will love this child.

Answer 3

You don't have to panic for sure at this point. You don't HAVE to get an abortion ignore your ignorant boyfriend. At least ignorant on this point.

As for symptoms, the frequent urination may not necessarily mean you are pregnant. And 4 days late is not a big deal. You can go out for 10 bux and get yourself a simple to do pregnancy test and find out for sure. Usually the urination is due to the baby being bigger then he would be after a month and pushing on your bladder.

Either way good luck and make your own choices.

Answer 4

As I type this to you I am sitting across the room from my 16 year old son. He is swearing at his Devil May Cry game on the PS2 and eating pizza rolls. He is the living and breathing incarnation of a life I chose to preserve when I was faced with a similar challenge in my youth. I could no more have snuffed him out than I could push his 68 Cadillac up the driveway. His mom and I made the right choice.

Here's the thing... If you are pregnant and you choose to keep your baby your "boyfriend" can pound sand. A womans right to choose means he has ZERO say in the matter. He knew the risks and if he was man enough to knock you up he had better get his candy a.s.s ready for 18 to 24 years worth of child support payment. STICK IT TO HIM. You and your baby are all that is important here. There will be plenty of time to be nice later.

Get yourself a home pregnancy test. If it comes back positive tell your parents SOONER rather than later. They can't help you with what they don't know. Be prepared for their disappointment. Hopefully (after their initial surprise) they'll be supportive enough to get you the help you're going to need.

Today, I have three kids - two of which are daughters. If either came to me with your challenge I would be upset but in very short order I would shift gears to a supportive role on the choices she would have to make.

If it turns out that you are not pregnant, I encourage you to reflect upon what you've learned here. The youngster you're fooling around with is perhaps a decade away from being a real man. There are serious long term consequences to the pleasure you are receiving (probably more in the way of providing) today. If you're not ready to pay (and I promise you that this is the case with the boy you're seeing) you're not ready to play.

I hope all of this works out for you. Good luck.

Answer 5

Why not purchase a pregnancy test kit, it is inexpensive and the results for the most part are closely accurate, most women I been with will do it twice.....as for your boyfriend, tell him no problem, lets try aborting you first, just to see how it works...what an idiot...you should be deciding on what you want to do with your body, NOT HIM! Because, physically, emotionally, and mentally you will have to endure on your own...I can't believe what a irresponsible sh-ithead some guy's can be. As for me I took responsibility for my children, although the relationship is no longer there, we tried, we were too young to be truthful to each other though, I wish I could turn the clock back and had done better in the relationship, then just picking my sons up and financially supporting them(child support), but my sons and I and my other children have a great relationship, and yes, even with their step-dad also(good man)...a common mistake(not the baby, its truly a blessing for most) made amongst young teens and adults, my sons are 23 and 28 years old...oops now I can't act as if I'm young again.

Answer 6

Take a pregnancy test or go see a doctor. No one will "kill you," people make mistakes, it will be ok. there are also other reasons why you could be late, you should talk to a doctor about it before freaking out.
As for your boyfriend, his opinion matters, but in the end it is up to you, yu are the one to decide whether to have the child or not (if you are in fact pregnant). There are other options besides abortion, such as giving the child up for adoption. But anyway you don't have to worry about it just yet, first you need to find out for sure.
Try to calm down and think before you freak out, it will be ok.
i hope this helps,
good luck

Answer 7

Make sure, then you need to make some decisions. I think an abortion is the wrong way to go, but then, why would you listen to me? You have to live your own life. Make the decision that is best for you. Hopefully, your boyfriend will support whichever decision you make, but if not, hopefully you have other support sources. Hey, maybe even consider putting your child up for adoption. Some agencies pay up to $2000 or $3000 to the birthmother, the birth family is happy, because they badly want to have a child. It is a win, win situation.

Answer 8

go buy one of those answer early result tests,they are cheap and can detect whether u are pregnant or not 4 days before u missed ur period so in your case it would show up positive or negative..if u are indeed pregnant do not listen to your boyfriend..obviously he does not care about u or he would have never said these things..u are being stupid staying with him right now..if he told u to kill urself would you do it? then why the hell would it matter to u if he told u to abort the baby..its not his body,,abortion is wrong and disgusting..if u are pregnant get some medicaid and see a doctor with or without him..

Answer 9

Stress can cause you to miss a period entirely (it has happened to me once) but, DO get a test to give yourself piece of mind. As for your bf...he does NOT decide whether or not you have an abortion, you have a BIG part in that decision. And if you are and you decide to have the baby..trust me, everyone you THINK will "kill" you will get over it! Good luck!

Answer 10

hi-the frequent urination associated with pregnancy doesnt happen until your second trimester when baby is big enough to start pushing on your bladder.
wait until you are at least a week late =then take a test.

& abortion is your decision--not one can make that choice for you!

Answer 11

Take a test and find out for sure. A lot of the common pregnancy symptoms are also common symptoms for a period coming on.