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Question

I stayed single for 3 years going in search of my true self, doing right by others. When I was ready to daye I met this women just coming out of 32 yrs of marriagein 2 marriages. Ive known her now for 8 months. We have developed a very close friendship, that is how it all started and I helped her through the bad times she was going through. I was always there for her. Just as a friend. Ive always have given her alot of space, all that she needs. We have a very undying love and mutual respect for each other and where we r at in our lives. There has been no commitment made and none asked for. Our friendship and love are strong but she not to sure what she wants, which I totally respect. We get along so well its like we have known each other for years. The friendship will never end. I guess my question is how long should I wait around ? Im sure theres alot of divorcees out there that can tell me what to expect and how to deal with some of my feelings

Answer 1

32 years is a long time to be married.....8 months is a fraction of that time to try to heal from it. She will need a lot more than 8 months to even begin to know what she wants for the rest of her life. If marriage is what you want, then most likely you need to look elsewhere.

Answer 2

If the two of you are friends and there is no commitment between you then for now you should leave it that way. Your love & friendship for oneanother has grown strong in the past 8 months and I believe that it is better for you to stay patient then to try and rush the situation. If she honestly loves you as more then just a friend her true feelings for you will be shown to you when she begins to feel more secure, & aware, about how she truly feels deep in side of her self about you. It has only been 8 months. If you really want a relationship with her then you should not rush it and go with it in a slow pace. But you should not waste your time & life on waiting for her decison. You should go out and have fun with others. Maybe if she see's that you are dating, her true feelings for you just might begin to show.
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God Bless!

Answer 3

Continue to be her friend!!! But move ahead in your life. Don't sit around and wait for something that may never happen between you!!!

You may wait for years and she may never settle for you. Some people can heal quickly from broken relationships and others take a lot of time..

AND WHY SHE IS MAKING THAT CHOICE MS.RIGHT MAY PASS YOU ON BY!!!!!!

Start dating. Make sure that she knows that you are doing this. If she loves you she will let you know how she is feeling!

Be honest with her. Tell her exactly how you feel about her and make it known you would rather be with her than anyone but also let her know that you can't wait around forever for something that may never happen for her with you.

Tell her that you would never hurt her because you know that many others have. And that no matter what happens or don't happen between the 2 of you that you will always and forever continue to be her friend.

And when she sees you start to date others she'll become jealous if she really loves you. She'll let you know.

Offer that deal to her. Tell her that you are gonna start dating other girls and that if at any time she feels that she really loves you and wants to pursue a relationship with you that you will if it isn't to late by then. Cause you may meet a wonderful lady and fall in love if she waits to long.

But let her know no matter what that you are her friend!!!!!

Best of Luck

Answer 4

I wont repeat what everyone else has said but i wanted to point out that you said at the beginning that you took 3 years for some YOU time. Talk to her, she might be ready but she might not be. I wouldn't pressure her into it as you wouldn't have liked that when you were searching for your true self. Hopefully you can tell her how you feel and the very worst that will happen is that she says not yet. But there are a lot of better things she might say as well. Good luck :)

Answer 5

If you guys haven't talked about a commitment then you shouldn't wait around at all. If you love her you will know when you over step your bounds with another woman. You should date and see other people. If this woman has been divorced 2 times I'm sure that she isn't ready to jump into a relationship yet. Let her tell you when she is ready. Don't push it! I would say for sure don't stop looking for "the one" yet! Good Luck

Answer 6

I think that you should stay open to any other possible relationships, and just give her space. After being married for 32 years, she probably has a lot to figure out. If you are still available when she is ready then ask about being more then friends. For now she probably needs a good friend more then an new boyfriend.

Answer 7

It's only been 8 months for her. She has 32 years of learned behavior to undo. Give her the time she needs. If you find you can't wait any longer, be honest and tell her. She might let you go and you have to be ready for that. On the other hand, she might realize what a catch you are and take that step. Have faith. Good luck.

Answer 8

if you like this women as much as you say you do .. wait for her if she like you every thing will be ok... i just hope she is not playing you . this will really hurt you bad. take a step back and have a look .. do you want her in your life forever..go for a walk along the beach or bush and just go through it over in your head sometimes you will get answers.. best of luck to you.

Answer 9

Start looking for someone else. If she needs more time, don't wait around for her to make up her mind. Live your own life and meet new people.

Answer 10

32 years of marriage is alot, I can see why she wouldn't want to rush into anything, although 8 months may seem long to you, it is probably not for her, i say give it a bit more time. if you love her, and she loves you, what's the rush. you wouldn't want to push her into anything she dosen't want.