i cheated now what?

Question

i cheated on my boyfriend a few years ago and i got caught but we have got caught and when we fight he throws it up to me i have told him several times how sorry i am i ask him when we got into a fight i ask him why did he take me back it has been a few years like 5 since it all happened will he ever forgive me or should i just leave

Answer 1

From experience, he will throw it up 25 years from now. I never cheated, but I heard things I did(minor) for the whole 25 years I was married. Best just go ahead and pack up.....or get used to it!

Answer 2

Likely, it will always be something he'll bring up.

However, it can work both ways in a disagreement. He's using it as leverage, even though he might not mean to. You can counter by pointing out the things you've done since then, that you were a different person back when that happened. Sometimes it's hard to show affection when you're in the middle of a fight, but do it when you can. It's the healthiest way to repair a relationship that seems to be going downhill. Do it before things start into a downward spiral.

If he really is using this against you in the worst way and you feel there's no end in sight, then maybe he's just not the one for you. It's best to bring it up when you're not fighting. Let him know one way or another that each time he uses that against you, it's driving you both further apart. If he can't change his attitude into trying to strengthen the relationship, then it's healthier for you both to go your separate ways.

Just my 2¢

Answer 3

Sit down and talk to him calmly about the whole situation. Tell him you want to move past the things that have happend in the past. Look at the reason why the situation happend in the first place. What caused you to turn to someone else. Im not saying to beat yourself over what happend but if you know the reasons why it can help you idenify the reasons it happend in the first place.

Look at ways you can both start to trust one another again. Be open and honest with one another. Sometimes things can make you become closer if you know how to fix things that you know are wrong in the relationship.

But if it continues I would take a break from one another so you can both figure out what you really want, and if your future is going to be together or not. good luck!!

Answer 4

Personally, I think anything older than 2 years in the past is off limits in a fight.

Answer 5

kinda went thru the same thing with my hubby something like that happend when we were just dating! He use to always bring it up, I asked him if he trust me and he said yes and then he said he only says it cause he doesnt know what else to say, use to hurt my feeling and I would cry, and then ignore him for a bit! he hasnt brought it up in a while now! guess he either got over it or just realized how sorry I really was!
Wether or not to break up with him is up to you!
talk to him about it and see how it goes!
best of luck to ya!

Answer 6

That is far too old for him to still throw in yor face, it obviously still way bothering him. Next time it happens and your'e like fighting, tell him "is that all you got to throw in my face? Maybe I should go do it agian so you got something more recent to complain about!" and see what he does. You may have to cut that string and dump him for someone more mature who won't hold ancient history against you.

Answer 7

You should just leave if he keeps bringing up what happened, Obviously he's still dealing with a trust issue and I understand why he's still in that dilemma. But if you can't take this anymore I would talk to him about it, and if it continues to happen, then my advice would be to leave the relationship, and start afresh. Good luck hun....=)

Answer 8

If you have heard of the movie Dream Girls.Just download limewire go onto the library and look under Beyonce's name for a song named Listen.Sit him down and you both listen to it.Good luck.

Answer 9

I think I would leave, you don't deserve to have it thrown back in your face 5yrs later. Or tell him he has the choice to move on with you or stay stuck in the past without you...let him choose, but don't keep punishing yourself for something that happened 5yrs ago.

Answer 10

If it has been that long and he has not forgiven you, then he probably won't. Also, if he keeps throwing it up in your face, you need to see if he's doing the same thing. Usually when they do things like that, they are doing the same thing on the side.