What should I do???
I am a really caring guy and there is this girl I like, We are both sophmores and have known each other a long time and we both know we like each other. She is mostly "anti touch " she was when I met her and for alittle while after. but we have grown closer and i really like her, but I think she will not like to hold hands or hug, and I respect her so I don't. even though I am a more touchy kind of guy. and I mean with everybody I always love hugs any time from most anyone.SO WHAT SHOULD i DO TO GROW CLOSTER IN OUR RELATIONSHIP. and I want mature answers, and please do not mention sex I am saving that for marraige.
2007-01-13 07:33:12 · 12 answers · asked by 1-4-all 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thats really lovely that you care so much about this girls feelings and wishes..
are you sure she won't hug you? is she absolutely against any kind of touching?
if you think she wont mind, why not try just placing your hands on her shoulders from behind one time and maybe whispering something sweet in her ear?
there are plenty of other ways though.. try having a day where you do nothing else but sit and talk.. go to the park or something like that in an intimate place rather than something like bowling or with the rest of your friends..
good luck.. hope i helped a bit! x
2007-01-13 07:41:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
DO NOT RUSH HER! At your age, this sweet girl may think that if you try to hug, kiss, or touch her you are trying to initiate something more with her. She obviously likes you too, so just hold out for her. Give her some time and eventually she will feel more relaxed with you and want to touch more. Yall both seem to be really good kids, with your heads on straight. Good luck, and remember, love takes patient and time to evolve.
2007-01-13 15:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by kerbear7703 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK youre already friends so just ask her out and hope for the best and then tell her you respect her wishes and she doesnt like the whole touch deal. After a lil bit of dating just tell her you would like to take things up a noch and then ask if she would mind u hold her hand and hugging her between classes but dont go tooooooo fast u might scare her sence she isnt used to it and then after she lets you do those things then ask her about the kissing deal and so on and so on!
2007-01-13 15:41:49 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her that you care about her. And if your sure that she feels the same way bring her flowers. Some girls are really shy when it comes to hug/kissing intamite things sometimes because they've never been like that with a boy and they don't know how or don't want to mess things up.
2007-01-13 15:39:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mack 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was the exact kind of girl when I was young. Let her move closer
to you, at her own speed. She will appreciate that. It sounds like
you are doing fine on your own. Give it time. Tell her you care
about her. If she responds in a positive way, take her hand at an
appropriate time, like walking together at a football game. Just don;t
rush her. If it's meant to be, it will happen. Have fun
2007-01-13 15:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by judywalker23 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude: It is obvious that she does NOT see you in a romantic sense. Girls like to be held, kissed, and cared for. You don't have to have sex with her for romance to be present. The description you have given tells anyone that she is not interested in you. She is the type that hogs attention from many guys because that makes feel good. If I were you I would move on and let the fantasy end. SHE IS NOT INTERESTED IN YOU, CAPICE? Open you eyes and stop wasting your time. There are plenty of pretty girls out there who crave your attention, your touch, and your embrace. I used to date someone like your "sweet girl." I bet you that she only sees you as a "brother."
I bet that if you talk to a friend he would tell you to dump that leach like a bad habit and go spend your dating dollars on someone else.
That, my friend, is the plain truth.
Mr. M on "sweet girl."
2007-01-13 15:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give her time, let her get to know you until she is comfortable, I doubt that if she likes you she would mind hugging or holding hands, but why not just talk to her. You would be suprised how stupid some of our (teenage guys) fears are, so either ask her about it and discuss it or just wait until she feels comfortable.
2007-01-13 15:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by chris h 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can't talk to her about the subject, print out a copy of your question and share it with her. At least she'll see your feelings, motive and efforts to gain a solution.
What a nice guy...
2007-01-13 15:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what a sweet guy! talk to her about it, let her know how do u feel, mayb she'll understand ur needs, and mayb thats how she feels too but she's just shy. get emotionally closer to her, let her feel more secure with u. good luck;)
2007-01-13 15:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by anabella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just talk to her about it, she probably just wants some reassurance that you want to be closer to her. Good Luck
2007-01-13 15:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋