Find out the truth if my husband cheated, misses me He is the only one with the answer.
We separated about 9 mths ago. I left my husband b/c i suspected he is unfaithful. He is in another state. We talked well text for a few mths. him talking about moving back to the state im in. Then the back in forth crap happened Im not sure where he is at now. What really hurts is i was really close to my in-laws yet havent talked to them either. Dont know where he is to even fill divorce if i wanted. Is he hurting as well Im not sure. Should I contact my mother In-law? Invite her to a movie or somthing Im not sure if she understands what happened cause there was a big blow out at the end.? Please help with my family i have to act like I dont care or miss him at all it sucks. 6 yrs is how long we were together. Not long yet enough
2007-01-13 07:05:31 · 8 answers · asked by dork 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to settle your affairs legally and get properly divorced before you do anything else. Contact a lawyer and get this sorted out. Provide your lawyer with every bit of information regarding your ex, including you ex-in laws. You need to be free of this man, and staying friends with his parents may not be a possibility. If you want to, contact his parents and explain to them what happened, say you are sorry that things ended up this way, but keep personal details out of it, there are some things they don't need to know. Inform them that you are now filing for divorce, and since you do not know where he is, maybe they can help you, say you need to have closure so you can move on, you cannot stay in limbo. They might help you, but if they won't forward all their info (address, phone number etc.) to your lawyer and just move on. It's for the best, I know it takes time to heal, but you deserve better and sooner then you know, you will find someone who will love and cherish you just as you love them.
2007-01-13 07:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So u left ur husband because u suspected that he could be cheating but had no substantial proof of such a fact.. and now that he's gone, u want him back and are torturing urself once again with insecurities because u dont where he is or what he's doing, or what he's feeling, the very thing that u pushed him away for to begin with.. Why do u have to act as if u dont care or miss him with ur family? because of guilt that u are the one that dismissed the marriage?.. i think u need to figure out why u have the issues that u do before u figure out what to do next. And i doubt that ur in-laws are going to welcome u with open arms so be prepared for that if u call, because if ur husband did nothing wrong and is broken hearted ur not going to be viewed as this wonderful person for hurting someone they love. U need to figure out how to get over ur own insecurities before it is to late for a possible reconciliation if its not already..
2007-01-13 15:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what exactly you mean by a big blowout, but if you've been apart 9 months, and still don't know where you stand - you need counselling. Obviously, the two of you are not communicating. If I was to sit around for so long wondering what my husband was thinking/feeling, I would go mad. I would cut him off, and let him pursue me. That way, you would know by his actions what he's thinking. I suspect you pretend around your family because he hurt you - and you don't want them to know that you are pining for him. It sounds like you need to want better for yourself. I think if a man doesn't treat you like a princess - he isn't the ONE. Only the right man would know and treat you like the unique, beautiful creature that you are.
2007-01-13 15:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this, but if he truly misses you, he would be with you right now. Its time for to move on. If you need to talk to his parents for some closure then do so, but do not expect them to take your side they never do. Remember blood is thicker then water, they are going to see women come and go in their son’s life, your are just another women passing thought.
2007-01-13 15:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are having second thoughts, and he isn't. Don't try to go back to someone that cheated. He's not worth it. You have to let it go. Your In-laws are HIS family. Let them go too. You don't know where he is, and it's probably better that way. You should let it go!!!!
2007-01-13 15:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go out to a bar have a few drinks and find you a new man have a good time. you will forget him soon enough
2007-01-13 15:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him
2007-01-13 15:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he has been
2007-01-13 15:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋