My friend Kristina used to live in the town I do. She used to hang out with me all the time. Shes moved away and I don't see her that much. She is getting all jeloaus and sensitive because she asked if I wanted to go to the mall. I was like I'm going next week. Shes like fine I see how it is. I'm like what the hell!! I asked her and shes like well you don't ever want to hang out with me. I'm like thats not true you know I can't drive yet and you know my mom won't drive me to see you. She gets mad when I do stuff with my other friends. Whats up with her?
2007-01-13 06:55:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I do care about her feelings and I don't want to loose her as a friend but I can't always do things all the time. I've tried telling her that. I'll try and find a way to see her soon.
2007-01-13 07:05:31 · update #1
Sounds like she just misses you and is feeling a bit sorry for herself and unhappy , I would try not to be to hard on her and pay little attention to her rantings , she obviously is upset and likely saying things she really doesn't mean.
2007-01-13 07:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure if you put the shoe on the other foot you'll see why your friend gets hurt knowing you're hanging with everyone else but her....If you were to have been the one that had to move to another town, and her mom wouldn't drive her up to see you..and when you spoke she was saying she's hanging out with other ppl at the mall...HOW would YOU Feel? Left out? hurt? alone? It's hard moving to another town and not having friends...yes you can always make New Friends...but that's sometimes easier said than done.
I think you should TRY and make an effort to see your friend...if she asked do you want to go to the mall and you say im going next week.....WHY couldn't you go when your friend asked? Is there not buses for you two to meet up sometimes on weekends? NOt sure how far your friend lives but can't be that far if she wants to meet at the mall.
If she was a Good Friend to you.......I would make TIME to see her., or you'll lose a good friend*~
2007-01-13 15:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be a little more understanding. She has been taken away from all she knows and is only trying to get a little love from you. She wants to hear something like, "I wish I could, I do really miss you! But I can not tell my mom what to do, and she says no. I am sorry." She does not need you to thump on her head. And if you are a true friend, then be a bit more understanding. How would you feel if you had to leave your friends and start all over again? She needs a little love now. Give her some. And try to talk your mom into letting you visit, or bringing her to your home to visit.
2007-01-13 15:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by It All Matters.~☺♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem as a teenager and pretty much it boils down to you guys life is changing. I know its hard to deal with but that's what it is. Majority of the time you won't still have the same friends when u leave middle school and high school and go off to college. I think you friend needs to make a little more effort if she wants to hang out with you, and to be honest if you two both want to keep this friendship going you both have to try. Why don't you'll meet halfway or something? Or try meeting at the mall the same weekend. Good luck
2007-01-13 15:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by step b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first i think you should tell me why you didn't want to go to the mall with her in the first place so what if you were going next week i'm not telling you you should have gone i just wondered did you not want to hang out with her or was there something else you were gonna do i think she is feeling really left out it can be hard to move somewhere else where you dont have your friends maybe if she drives you could ask her to come over to your house and you guys do something together or for a sleepover or something she probably thought you really didnt want to hang out with her or something or you were making up excuses invite her over one weekend when you arent with your other friends and you guys can reconnect lemme know how it goes
2007-01-13 15:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by vivinann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were the only real friend that she had and she misses that relationship just talk to her and tell her it's not the way she thinks and that you and her can hang out when you get the chance.
2007-01-13 15:09:51 · answer #6 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aaah, the friend that feels left out.
I've been there and I hate it that i was there. But i never said it to my friend i kept it to myself. she is having a hard time adapting to the new life, and new surroundings, she wishes that everything were the same, but it isnt. Maybe next time she asks you do something with her and you can't try to say... That would be awesome, but.... you kno... Its going to be hard for both of you, you because shes away and she keeps gettin angry at you, and her because she misses her old ways. Don't get angry at her try to understand her.
2007-01-13 15:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by joo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think that she is one to only have one friend at a time and that when u go out with the friends that u have then she is mad well i think that she will be ok and that u are doing the right thing
2007-01-13 15:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by megryanmc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She misses you. She's getting lonely. It's normal. Just tell her that you do want to hang out with her. You should also tell her that she shouldn't be mad at you when you can't hang out with her. It's not your fault. Tell her that it hurts your feelings when that happens. She'll lighten up.
2007-01-13 15:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by FREEROB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is jealous of your other friends. Or maybe she wants you to move next to her. Get her a book on change management, that should help her.
2007-01-13 15:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by Nuppo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋