My dad smokes like 3 cigars or more a day. How do I get him to stop? It scares me to see him smoke because im afraid he is gonna get cancer or have a heart attack! Please HELP!!!
2007-01-13 06:51:49 · 13 answers · asked by miley_smileys 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
My dad died of cancer when i was 18. I'm 27 now and let me tell you, it sucks cause he was never there when I needed his advice. You have to tell him something like this, "DAD! I need you in my life. And if you keep on smoking, you're killing yourself and that's very selfish because I will always need your advice. I need you to be alive dad!"
If he doesn't get it, then maybe talk to your mom. Or simply let him be and be stronger as a result. If your father truly cares for you, he will stop and he will take care of himself to be there for you.
2007-01-13 06:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by roya67 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. The problem is, if he is not ready to quit and stay quit, he will not. He has to be the one that makes that decision. A lot of people resent having people (even loved ones) telling them what to do, so don't tell him to quit, ask him to. Be sincere, but not over dramatic. I wouldn't leave articles on cancer or emphysema out, and I wouldn't hide his cigars and leave gum in their place; that will likely just irritate him. Have a calm discussion about it, tell him that you will help him and support him. Pledge to go on an evening walk with him after dinner, instead of his cigar. Best of luck. The best thing I ever did for myself and family was to quit smoking.
2007-01-13 06:59:40 · answer #2 · answered by Mangy Coyote 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only your dad can help himself. I have the same problem with my husband. My son is like you, he's afraid his dad will die or have a heart attack from smoking.
2007-01-13 06:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by angel007 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there really isnt a way to make him stop. you can express your concern to him, and tell him how you feel. but i am sure that your dad is well aware of the health risks of smoking. i am a smoker, and i can tell you this one thing: we know that its unhealthy, but its hard to quit. when a person is addicted to smoking, no matter what the health risks are, if they arent ready to quit, and dont want to quit, and if they enjoy smoking...nothing you say or do is going to make them change.
2007-01-13 07:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by jeneric803 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is your dads job to stop smoking.
if u want him to stop then u should tell him and say all of the terrible things that he can get if he keeps smoking.
2007-01-13 06:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lexi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He will quit after he will get sick. Trust me.
You can't do anything for him whatsoever.
Been there, done that.
He has to make his mind himself. Nobody can do it for him.
He needs an impulse. A strong one. Like someone very close to him dies on lung cancer. He MIGHT then realize how dangerous it is.
People believe that they are immortal until they get hurt.
2007-01-13 07:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Would you go and ask SUV or Hummers' drivers to stop immediately using their cars, because their gas fumes cause cancer or heart attacks around? And that's just a tiny example of how inconsequential this world of ours is.
2007-01-13 07:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Smoking is an addiction and an enjoyment. You can't get him to stop, he has to do that for himself. However, you can talk to him and tell him that you love him and are concerned about his health.
2007-01-13 06:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should go to the cancer society and got two thing one is a pallet called if you what to help a smoker quit, and i small book called for smokers who what to quit, one step at a time. these books have very good imfo.
2007-01-13 06:59:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't make him stop,he has to want to.Tell him you are concerned about his health and also your own.I smoke and have quit a few times and it's soooo hard.
2007-01-13 07:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋