Ok have a friend hung out with from age 19-40, last 10 years only seen a couple of times. Kids born together, lived a street apart hung out together...have not seen in about 5 years ( my husband on the other side has seen them her all along). She died yesterday, young (50). My son also spends time with their son. My question is I was going to send food to the family. My daugher says I should not because I have not seen her for so many years. I feel like I should. Need to find out what you think,,,should I send food over?
2007-01-13 06:48:07 · 27 answers · asked by Lakeside5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Absolutely!! I lost my bf five years ago. I loved having people around. Knowing that you remembered her and she made some impact in your life, will give great comfort to her family!
It doesn't matter how often you see your friends, they are still your friends. You should live your life by doing what you would want to be done to you. What would you want? People to come around or not because they haven't been an active part of your everyday life? Do you think they will not accept your gift of food? That won't happen.
Just doing anything for the family will be appreciated!
2007-01-13 06:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes mam you should. We here in Tennessee send food sometimes even if we don't know the people. Sometimes when there is a death, folks show up and it is polite to offer them food and drink.Traditionally in our little town, one of the neighbors usually volunteers to stay at the bereaved home to accept these offerings and tries to have the food set out when the people come back from the funeral home. Always best to send food in containers that don't have to be returned to you. One less headache for them to worry about. Just tape a little note who it is from so they can acknowledge your gift. Sorry for the loss of your friend. I know it hurts you that she passed with time gone by between you. She was still your friend even though you had not seen her in a while. God bless
2007-01-13 15:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by louise t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes send the food over! It doesnt matter that you haven seen her for a while! What matters is that you remeber her and send ur blessings to her family! Send the food if u dont ur goin to spend the rest of ur life thinkin why u didnt do it! So send the food the family will appreciate and be ahppy you care!
Hope that helps ya out!
2007-01-13 14:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by woohooo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about the loss to your and your family. You have kept in touch even though you haven't seen each other recently. She will be missed by your family members, and you want her family to know you all cared. Send food, and if your son or husband would like, it would also be proper to visit the funeral home, or attend the funeral.
2007-01-13 14:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely think you should send food. It's the right thing to do. This let's the family know your thoughts and prayers are with them. Your doing for the survivors now, not the deceased
2007-01-13 14:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Susan P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you send food over, make it something light, like a salad. Heavy foods when handling grief are difficult to eat, much less digest. Send a card with it expressing your condolences, letting them know that you're there if they need to talk. Then, if they contact you- LISTEN.
2007-01-13 14:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a casserole that can be reheated or anything in a crock pot would be greatly appreciated. These times are stressful and a lot of people say they wish they had done something to help the family but never do. Go ahead - the worse that can happen is that they freeze it for future use.
2007-01-13 14:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She was your friend for a long time, A card of sympathy with the food would be nice. You need to do whatever you feel is right. Sorry for your loss.
2007-01-13 15:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by meemadee2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your friend and to answer your question, yes. You were a childhood friend and even though you weren't close anymore, you still cared about her right? Send a sympathy card with a little note in it too.
2007-01-13 14:56:51 · answer #9 · answered by Lola 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost a family member once and I felt annoyed because while I was trying to grieve people were sending things left and right. I wanted someone to talk to and got food instead. Try offering a shoulder to cry on.
2007-01-13 14:52:42 · answer #10 · answered by ilovemychemicalromance_2007 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋