Angry wife????

Question

When found out pregnant 3 1/2 months and naturally went to call my bf well i did and guess who answered the cell phone i was shocked to relaize the woman i was speaking to was his wife I HAD NO IDEA HE WAS MARRIED!!!!I felt heart broken i really thought i loved this man i am 20 years old and he is 24 . She told me they have been married for 7 years and to verify this she sent me a copy of the marriage certificate and told me never to call again. I broke things off with the man instantly!but i kept the baby and have a new born son .I recently filed for child support and this woman wont stop calling me and leaving nasty messages calling me whore ect.She says that if i want child support her hubby wants joint custody or vistitation?

I plan to go to scottland after i graduate from college next year for an internship and i dont want any trouble with that.Can this woman really make life hell?I dont feel i did anything to her on purpose?

I want nothing to do with ither of them

Answer 1

If he pays child support, which he SHOULD do, then legally, he does have the right to see his child. I know you don't even want to hear that, but it IS the law. You have to make a choice.....child support, with visitation rights, OR, raise the child on your own, without any help from him. I KNOW which one he is hoping you choose........ Your Call!!

Answer 2

First off I would tell that women to mine her own business and you or your baby are not her business. If her hubby has anything he would like to say then do so but not through his wife.Remind her she isn't the one you had a kid with there for you have nothing to say to her.I can see why she would be upset but she is upset at the wrong person.I think you did the right thing by making him pay for part of the child's up bringing.That is his job as a father.I am so sorry you are going though this,But the best advice can give you is stand your grounds and have nothing to do with the wife.If need be get a lawyer to work out child custody with the dad.9times out of 10 he doesn't stand a chance as he didn't stand up To the plate while you were carrying the child and in fact he or his wife had nothing to do with you til you went after his money.A judge will look at that and that will work in your favor.Good luck.

Answer 3

You are an adult and you have now entered the wonderful world of parenting, no matter how you got there. The Fx of your child will have his own set of demons to deal with. You need to do what is right and fair for the cx. Start by getting an attorney, establishing paterning, visitation and child support. It is essential that you no longer speak with the "wife". All of you communication should be with the Fx. I say this, because you really want to make sure that the Fx, first most, wants to be a part of his child's life in a positive matter and that he will not allow baby-mama drama games to be played and secondly, you want to feel assured that you are not subjecting your child to be care for by a wicked step-mother or you just might have to either, end visitation or put your foot in her behind (not that I am advocating violence), but child safety is physically and emotionally is priority!

Answer 4

If you want child support and sole custody of your son, you have to make sure you get it, and that means you have to find a vicious vicious lawyer, You MUST get sole custody and this is between you and this man, She cannot do anything about it. NOW, THIS IS IMPORTANT: You have to file a complaint for harassment, and document every angry and hostile call she makes, because this will help you in your sole custody case, you cannot allow your child to be in this environment, since you feel she is resentful and it will endanger your son. You might need to speak to your lawyer regarding child support when you are leaving the country, Technically, if he has a steady job, there is an agency that will garnish a part of his wages and deposit it in your account, so that you will get the cash no matter where you are.
Get a lawyer and sort this out. Make sure to protect yourself and your child legally. Get sole custody and no limitation on where and when you travel. This can only be obtained with the help or a family lawyer and family court, so you can take care of yourself and your child calmly, without being bullied by anyone.

Answer 5

Yes, if he sues for visitation or joint custody, she can make your life absolute hell, not to mention, she might also transfer that hatred toward your child. It's sad, it's really sad, but you need to think long and hard about this. You made a baby with a selfish, lying, jerk. What makes you think he would be good father material at this point? He's really not, but he would have the legal right to visitation, and he might not care (apparently he really doesn't care) but the wife may use this as punishment to her husband. Do you really want to subject your baby to that? The financial support may not be worth it to the emotional well being of your child. You are apparently the only parent who really cares about this baby, so you must protect it and continue to be a good parent and make wise decisions. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Wow, this man had issues. That was completely wrong of him to outright lie to you and leave you in the dark. It's also wrong of his wife to be calling and leaving nasty messages. Don't take things out on her though. It's not her fault that her husband cheated and now has a child with another woman. However, now that you have his baby though, it's his responsibility to provide child support. On the flip side, he has every right to have visitation or joint custody. It sounds like the two of you need to talk to lawyer and figure things out.

Answer 7

I;m sorry that you are having to face this problem now. you need to focus on that son of your and do what it right for him. The guy is a jerk, and he should be paying child support. He does have the right to see him, however, his wife has no control over the situation. I don't think I would want my son to be in her presence right now, because she will be hateful toward the child, when she should be hateful towards her husband. she cannot call the shots, the decisions can only be made by you and the father of the child. good luck

Answer 8

What did you think would happen did you think he just pay no questions ask.Remember the baby you decided to keep is a constant reminder of her husbands infidelity.When you found out he was married why would you even want to keep a baby that belong to a man like that.You do no your decision to keep the baby will keep the daddy and his wife in your life forever.If you have money to move to Scotland does that mean you come from money or does it mean you just wanted to make him pay for hurting you,that is understandable but with that comes the wife who did nothing wrong but to marry an *** hole. Why is everyone mad at the wife I don't blame her a little bit for being angry at you.We only no what you are telling us about what want on.I think something is wrong with you getting pregnant at 20 and keeping the baby.Why would anyone mess up their life like you have.You will be sorry for your decision and I'm sorry to say but I think the baby will be the one who pays in the end.

Answer 9

Sorry unfortunately thats not the way it works.. If you seek child support he has a right to visitation and he can keep u from not only leaving the state to ensure that he has visitations with his child but definately can keep u from leaving the country, because the judge will want whats in the best interest of the child and that will be to have a relationship with both parents.. so in that way the wife is right that he is entitled to visitations, u cant expect a man to pay child support and not want to have any part of the childs life.. u cant have ur cake and eat it too.. and dont sweat the "whore" thing, thats her stupidity of not wanting to admit to herself the reality of this situation.. trust me that marriage wont last very long.. so just realize that she speaks with out thinking and out of jealousy.. and instead of taking it out on the real person she should be (her husband) she's focusing her blame on u ..(thats her own immaturity) .. but a judge will give him visitation rights, now it will be up to him to see those through, as a man does have the insane right of picking and choosing whether or not he wants to see his children..the court wont force him to..

Answer 10

First of all, the wife sounds hurt and angry, and with lots of reason. But the reason is her cheating husband, not YOU who had no idea about his marriage. How wonderful you kept the baby! Congratulations, Mommy! You'll have so much happiness and fulfillment throughout life. It won't be easy, but it's very doable. Of course your child deserves financial support from the father and the nasty calls are childish. Ignore her, you could tape the messages and bring them to court as evidence of harassment, what she feels or says is not your concern. That brand new baby is! Keep focused on what is important to YOU and that BABY! Everybody else can stick it! Enjoy!