I ask my ex-wife to talk to the babysitter about the heater. She said ok, but the next day when i drop by the heater was not turn on. My son had to wear 4 jackets. I worried since it been going like that for a whole week. He had those jackets on for 8 hours from tues. to fri.. Im planning to talk to my ex-wife again and if she does not agree to do something about it. Should i mention the situation to the judge since she and I will have a date in court Feb.1,07.
2007-01-13 06:35:30 · 19 answers · asked by hung t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely! For one reason and one reason only...YOUR SON! It's a concern of yours and rightfully so. Do what you need to do. That's part of parenting. Not always easy, but worth it!
2007-01-13 06:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, and if i was a judge, id say.. where the hell are u in this situation.. ur perfectly capable of complaining about the situation but why arent u offering a solution untill the babysitter gets the heater fixed?? If its bothering u so badly why didnt u take off some time from work to "protect" your son from this if u feel it was such a horrible thing??? and im not saying that its not, but ur just as responsible for him being in that situation as she is.. so wheres ur accountability??? So to me bringing it up would only make both of u look like stupid parents not just her.. if u had time to "stop by" u had time to do something about the situation.. why dont u offer ur x for ur child to stay with either u , or your folks or someone just untill the babysitter gets the heater fixed????? instead of viewing this as a way to make her look like crap and doing nothing about it.. a real father would figure out a solution to the problem and not enable it..
2007-01-13 07:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be concerned. The is no way in H*** your ex should be dropping off your son if there is not heat in the house. You should talk to the sitter directly and handle the situation. Your ex might be procrastinating because she has no where else to bring your son (poor excuse). His health is the most important thing in the world, and that sitter should be ashamed of herself. If after you talk to her and she does not do anything with the heat, I would then remove the child from the sitter (if you have joint legal) and make it known to the judge when you get to court. good luck
2007-01-13 06:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why couldnt you have said something to the sitter while you were there? He is your responsiblity too. You mean to tell me that you dropped him off knowing that there was no heat and went on with your daily routine knowing that your son was in this situation? How could you work in a warm place all day when your child is sitting there freezing? Did you find out why her heat wasnt on? If she is the type that just wants to save on heating bills then insist on a different sitter, If she is waiting for it to get fixed, and is a good sitter then why not offer her your place which is warm to sit with your child until it gets fixed? At least you would have comfort in knowing that he is safe and warm. Step up dad and do your part.
2007-01-13 07:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should rely on your ex-wife to resolve this situation if she's been allowing this to go on for so long. I would speak up on your son's behalf. He is being neglected by being forced to stay in a place that is too cold. Your son could end up getting sick. Not to mention that it must be very uncomfortable for him to spend 8 hours a day in a coat.
You need to be involved in your child's life and step in when your ex is not acting in a way that benefits your son's well being...
2007-01-13 07:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you do something about this? Your just as responsible for your child as your wife is. Your son is being mistreated. There is no way he could be comfortable in 8 coats. Find a new babysitter.All children have a right to feel warm, safe and secure.
2007-01-13 06:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by Susan P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yes i would mention it. Also YOU should talk to the babysitter too. No child should go cold or be forced to wear jackets inside. If this was my son I would be so furious heads would be spinning!!!!!
2007-01-13 06:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the babysitter and find out why she doesn't use the heater. Do not fight with your ex about this, it's time you and her find another sitter.
2007-01-13 08:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL @ "four jackets"........right. No, of course don't mention the situation to the judge--that's just spiteful, plain and simple. So what if they don't turn the heat on? I never have the heat on at my house, if it's snowing outside I'll have the AC on. A little bit of cool air isn't going to hurt him!
2007-01-13 08:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can mention it but be prepared to pay for the child to go someone where that is more suitable. Because maybe the woman can't afford to pay for the heat that's why you probably need to discuss the child going to another child care provider.
2007-01-13 07:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely mention it to the judge.
Also, if you don't have primary custody and if your ex isn't doing anything about it and the sitter won't comply, then you might call CPS and ask what else you can do.
2007-01-13 06:45:42 · answer #11 · answered by texansis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋