I know I shouldn't care what others think, but if my husband and I are both ready to have kids does it matter how long we wait after we get married? We have been married for 8 months and we are wanting to start trying for a baby.
2007-01-13 06:08:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are ready, then go for it. Some jump into it right away, others wait for years. Just remember that it is an 18+ year committment, and you can never go back. But if you are ready, and can support the child, mentally and financially, then don't let anyone hold you back. Best of luck.
2007-01-13 06:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by Amber C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youre right, its actually nobodies business but you two. The biggest question for you two would be are you ready mentally and financially stable to start a family. Children can try the best of patience and drain all savings in a hurry,not to speak of the time committment needed by both of you. Then make sure your marriage is stable and strong enough because familyhood will certainly put everything you have to the maximum stress test. If you can answer yes to these questions then you ready to go for it. Most couples wait bout 1 year before trying to start. Even with all said theres nothing in the world that compares to being a parent and having your own family. Good luck
2007-01-13 14:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you and your husband on your plans of starting a family. You didn't mention your own situation with your husband in regards of being able to provide a proper environment. Are you in a situation where one of you can be with the child or will you both work? Do you have a good place for the baby to be if you go back to work? Are you in an area where the school systems are good if you become unable to move?
You also haven't mentioned your age group. Are you starting out in life or are you established enough to provide for a family? Have you adjusted to each others annoying little habits yet?
One more question. What is your biggest concern in bringing new life into this world and do you and your husband both feel strong enough to face it?
The very best to both of you!
2007-01-14 08:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Braveheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really is a personal decision...but you need to realize that things change once you have kids. Don't get me wrong, it is an amazing experience between two people to bring a life into this world and I would never say otherwise. I would only suggest that both parties are aware of how different things will be and agree that both are ready for the next phase in life and the marriage.
Best of luck to you!
2007-01-13 14:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no specified time to wait for a baby! It basically all comes down to if you and your husband is ready! Financially and Emotionally. Having a baby WILL change your life, so it is important the both of you take the time to analyze how are you going to manage taking care of an infant! But if in your heart you know you want to have a baby; then go for it! It won't be easy all the time, but the baby will bring alot of joy to the family!
2007-01-13 14:13:45 · answer #5 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From experience, I would wait at least two years to get to know each other better, before I even started trying to have a baby. We had a baby soon after we got married, and it took a toll on our marriage. Babies are hard work, and they really test a marriage's strength......worth EVERY bit of it, mind you, but unless the couple is STRONG, it can cause some REAL problems. Wait 2 more years and start!
2007-01-13 14:18:01 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are life altering. Marriage is life altering. My recommendation is wait until you've had a couple of years of marriage under your belt. Get to know each other first - as a couple. Think also of the ramifications. How secure are your jobs. Are you doing what you want to do. Is more schooling in the future. What about buying a house. How are the finances going to be if you take maternity leave. Stay-at-home or day-care. It's a very important decision that should be planned in advance.
2007-01-13 14:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by WILLIAM W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't matter how long. My friend got married in Oct. of 2005, and she just had a baby last month..so she started trying 4 months after she got married..it just depends on how ready both of you are...
2007-01-13 14:15:57 · answer #8 · answered by Tasha D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both ready to provide a loving, healthy home for your children, then no one else's opinion should matter. Some advice to acknowledged is the fact that there will hardly be anytime for you as a couple once the baby does arrive. Granted, I love my son with all my heart, but there are times when me and my husband would love to be alone, just to talk to one another without the Doodlebops in the background! Don't know who the Doodlebops are? You will. LOL! Good Luck and follow your heart!
2007-01-13 14:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by tryin4freedom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two feel as if tho you are ready to bring a child in to this world n are in a great situation to then go for it who cares what others think... all that matters is u n ur husband...
2007-01-13 14:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by jessica18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋