Tried everything to make it more exciting. I regret not having others in my past that wanted me. I waited for one man and I feel lonelier than I did when I was single. He's to busy with job. I'm late 40's & he's late 50's. We're 10 & a half years apart. I've had the urge to do something I shouldn't, I'm sure you know what I mean. I've got my hobbies and my course, and our teenage boys in highschool doing their own thing and we have our church, but I still feel empty. I feel he doesn't appreciate me as he should.
2007-01-13 06:06:30 · 15 answers · asked by art_girlt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how you feel I am in the same situation. The reality is you realy cannot do anything unless you are prepared for the consequnces. Beucase if you do something you usually end up facing the consequences.
2007-01-13 06:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by CamaroBoy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot of information lacking here. What are you doing to spice it up. He's working his tail off for you and the family and you want to repay him with cheating! You think he would not rather have a 9-5 job and have fun. The story is always more then what one person says. I'm sure he's paying most of the bills. How about you stroking his ego and making him feel better about himself. I always hear that victim speech when someone wants to do something wrong. If you want to cheat get a divorce first. Show the man some respect. You want to be selfish and do what you want regardless how it affects others. Leave if you want to mess with other men. Give him the opportunity to be happy and meet other women.
Vows in front of God don't mean anything these days.
P.S. The only thing you missed out on is a bunch of diseases.
2007-01-13 14:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by mazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are feeling what a lot of people feel after being with someone for so many years especially since you two have separate lives. First of all talk to your husband about how you are feeling (minus the urge to do something). Believe me the grass is not greener on the other side. And having a past is not quite what it cracks up to be.
2007-01-13 15:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like my life story.My ex wife felt the same way and instead of talking about this with me she decided to have an affair.Well it went on for over a year and a half without me ever suspecting anything was wrong.When I figured out something was wrong and what was going on it was to late to fix the problem.She screwed up her life and wrecked our family.She broke a trust that can never be healed.She separated a group of friends and family that will never be brought back together.All because she felt like she missed out on something in life.I'm sorry if this sounds like I am fussing at you but a piece of tail is not as important as having someone care for you and love you.Its not worth losing everything over just so you can have a few minutes of fun.Talk to him and tell him whats going on then get both of you into counciling.Who knows he may feel the same way and then both of you will be able to work something out.
2007-01-13 14:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might write to him to express yourself. You seem to have a pretty good idea of what you would like to be different. Another man would become the same way after the initial attraction wore off anyway, so you might as well work on this one, unless there really is something unacceptable going on. Men like to function in the area that they feel successful. Like work. I bet he is highly successful at work and the other parts of his life, like husband, father, etc. don't make him feel as successful. Maybe if you can tell him how much you admire him for the things he does do when he is home, he might be willing to do more and be around more.
2007-01-13 14:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That long a marriage does get lacking in the sex dept.Men slow down and the woman wants more and change.Its best to try other things like porno movies together ect..Get a dildo and u watch.It is normal but dont give into it or it will cause a divorce.Try all u can to spice up the love life.I know what u mean .........oh and wait till your kids are grown before u have a affair.
2007-01-13 14:15:55 · answer #6 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are going through a "mid life" crisis. It is easy for anyone to offer you advice, nut ultimately you are the one to have to change your perception of things. To me it sounds as if you have made a lot of right decisions in your life. Stay the coarse, and seek new ways to spice things up. Maybe a nice long vacation would benefit your marriage. Either way, I wish you well. You have come way too far to give up!
2007-01-13 21:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by Denny Crane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think we all miss out on something but that is No excuse to go and turn to someone else or cheat on your Spouse.You love him right? well then what do you think having sex with someone else is going to change what your missing? You Mentioned Church,well God made one man for one women,it is a sin it's called adultery.Just Please think before you go and do something you are going to regret,the grass is not always greener on the other side.
2007-01-13 14:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read "Women Who Run With the Wolves" by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. Really I think it would help.
2007-01-13 14:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by Kogetsu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have chat fun give me a call and have a lol. i am lucky my wife and i have chats on here with the opposite sex and its fun. we have a pole to dance round when we have party's. trust and communication is a big part of a relationship. dont for get give me a call
2007-01-13 14:28:24 · answer #10 · answered by ringer6942 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋