I was like 8 years old. I used to hang out with this girl named Lilly. She was my best friend....but she only wanted to hang out with me...and I had a huge desire to be popular. I wanted to be so popular that I dumped Lilly because she was a nerd. I changed my look and everything (this happened when I was about 13) and my plan worked.....now I am popular, pretty and all that. But I haven't been talking to Lilly, and I really want to, but all of my friends don't want me to. My boyfriend doesn't want me to. I told them I could do my own thing, so I went home, planning the next day I would talk to Lilly. I haven't talked to her for 8 months. Next day, I talk to Lilly. I ask her to be friends again. Her face brightened up and invited me to her house. I went there......then she acted all weird and was like feeling my butt, shoving her hand up my shirt and trying to kiss me! I never knew she turned into something like that! She's not lesbo around other girls.....at least I don't think so....
2007-01-13 05:54:50 · 11 answers · asked by Happy2BQueen 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I don't think you can be "too popular." If you don't want to have so many friends then you can back off a little & focus on a few close friends. Tell Lilly that you don't like her that way. She is either a lesbian or bi-sexual that has nothing to do with you being popular or not.
People change & grow apart. You are not obligated to be friends with her if you don't feel that you have anything in common. If you enjoy being with her & think the friendship is worth it then just make it clear that her sexual advances are unwelcome & that you hope you can be friends (just as you would with a male friend who made a pass at you.)
Good luck.
2007-01-13 06:06:35 · answer #1 · answered by amp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to answer, Though if you think you affected her, by not allowing her to be your friend, when she needed you the most?, you are right, such vain cause that you where able to pursue to be popular, ruin the original friendship, I could have say to you, that popularity comes with a high tag price, in the beginning, though I guess you figure that out already by your self. though, this is a problem between two girls, where lust isn't the main issue that will surface, do you want others to lust at your expenses? Not you don't, but that is exactly what you have from Lilly, good luck try to become friends again, and talk clear, in what you want for your future, as well for her, and be prepared to perhaps lost a friend? If you can't make her understand, that you aren't looking for sexuality, in a person like her, but you are simply looking for been your self sensual to others, and not with others, in this way you too, can help her!
2007-01-13 06:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by paradiseemperatorbluepinguin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess Lilly the nerd blossommed into Lilly the Lesbian. I am glad you achieved your desire to be popular. You were possibly just wanting to cover all bases for wanting to return to your past friendship with Lilly whom you willfully moved away from in the first place for other goals. Yes, you confirmed your hypothesis, as you discovered through Lilly, you were popular with her too. Only what she wants you for I don't think is your cup of tea. Being popular with everyone is not really desirable, is it? You can go from being "popular" to becoming a "plastic" imitation of such. You were a doll to Lilly that she wanted to use for her own ends! So beware the desire to be popular. All ideas can come to fruition but they can also go beyond the limit of the original intention. You should focus on attracting true friends and not just attracting attraction itself! There's a big difference!
2007-01-13 07:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother used to say: "Anything "too" is not good."
So on that basis too popular is definitely not good.
As for Lilly - I don't know what to say about that. Sorry.
2007-01-13 13:21:24 · answer #4 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over the years there is a modest possibility of your learning that maintaining a low profile has its advantages. living a life filled with drama and maximal ego based agendas is a sure path to "disaster" ;-)
2007-01-13 06:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by drakke1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you need to stop making friends
2007-01-13 06:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what does this story have to do with being too popular?
2007-01-13 06:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...that is very scary..why dont you just not talk to her anymore
2007-01-13 06:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friends stop being snobby.
2007-01-13 06:03:10 · answer #9 · answered by LS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
still she is ur best friend
2007-01-13 06:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by sachkehtahu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋