never said " I love you"...I do love him and yes I know he likes me too...but I wish he would say so instead just showing what he feels....should I break up w/ him...and forget about the wedding...I'm afraid I'll never hear from him that he loves me...
P.S. we'd be getting married in june 2008.
2007-01-13 05:49:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'll be 24 in feb and He's 27 we both just graduated from college...he's really shy and I'm not we do have a great relationship, I do know he likes me a lot or we would never makes plan and stuff...but it's hard for me..like *lady_blu_iz* said Love is an action, but as women, we need to hear it too.
Just wish I could let him know that.
Thanks for all the answers
Happy 2007 for us all!
2007-01-13 06:06:35 · update #1
Families are different. Some parents tell their children often how much they love them. Others may love their children just as deeply but have difficulty verbally expressing it. Probably handed down from their parents, etc. I would say if he shows you he loves you, is faithful and attentive then you are extremely lucky. I would rather have that type relationship than one in which a person told me over and over how much they loved me then cheated on me or was disrespectful to me. Sometimes you just can't have it both ways.
2007-01-13 06:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by just curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the exact issues as you do. I've been with someone for a year and a half. And we have a great relationship, and we are planning to move in and get married. But the "words" part is not really coming.
Are you his first relationship? Was he able to say "I love you" before? You probably already know these things, but if you don't, it might help you understand better. My guess is, sometimes you just wait too long to say it, and the expection is too high and you just can't find a good time or a good way to do it now.
My suggestion is maybe plan a special occasion and maybe make him dinner and use that opportunity to let him know that he makes you feel really special and say it first... so that way he can just respond to you... You could also just to have a talk with him, and say, this is the way you feel, but I think that might make it kind of more uncomfortable.
2007-01-13 16:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by Easygreasy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 02:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by huenke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is not right if he doesn't feel comfortable enough to say "I love you" to the woman he is planning to marry. Have you pressured him into saying that he will marry you? Your relationship is nowhere near the point of being ready for marriage. And you say that you know he likes you, are you wanting a marriage out of convenience instead of love?
2007-01-13 05:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you two?
If you two are young, maybe he doesn't know what love is yet.
If you two are atleast in your 20s... then I'd think there's a problem there... being with someone for 3 years and not saying "I love you." There's something wrong...
You have to LOVE the person you're marrying... not just LIKE them...
You should really talk to him about this.
2007-01-13 05:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to some men the word love is meaningless. If they are with you after 3 years and have been faith full and there for you, do you not feel that he treasures you above all others, I love cream corn, but I never tell it so. talk is cheap, showing speak louder than words, you have proof of his love all around you, why do you need to hear what you can so plainly see
2007-01-13 06:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to trust you enough to say those words. He may truly love you, but there is a problem if he can't say it. Love is an action, but as women, we need to hear it too.
My guess is that if he does tell you now, he never will. Be careful that he doesn't say it just to shut you up, then it is no good.
2007-01-13 05:54:48 · answer #7 · answered by lady_blu_iz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that he loves you then you shouldn't call off the wedding because that's a stupid reason to do it (not saying your stupid just that reason.). Just be patient. Maybe he's scared to say it. those three words are big. As long as he shows you and you know he does then you shouldn't call off your wedding. If you did. You'd regret it. Just be patient. Have a talk with him and tell him how you feel. Let him know that you want him to tell you his loves you not just show you. I have told my husband this and he's started to tell me he loves me not just show me.
2007-01-13 05:57:17 · answer #8 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those 3 words are hard to say sometimes for some people and as much as you want to hear it if hes showing it and if you really love him i dont think that you should break up with him.
2007-01-13 06:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you he should tell you. why do you think hes holding back? why do you feel the need to question it? are there other reasons for him to marry you other than love? why is he marrieing you? there are some questions that only he can answer. ASK HIM
2007-01-13 06:03:18 · answer #10 · answered by nethnee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋