My husband started a business three years ago and he has been putting all his time and money into it. I have helped him every step of the way, but he acts like he did it all by himself. He even took credit for ideas that I came up with. Individuals refer to the company as "his" business and he does not correct them. If we have an argument, he refers to the company as his. He has put us in financial binds time and time again. It was so bad that I actually went back to school to get a second degree so that I could get a better job to compensate for the money he was spending. I just entered a new field and I am really excited. He really does not show any interest in what I am doing. He is trying to figure out how my new knowledge and skills can help his business. Honestly, I do not want to work in the business. It is in an industry that I do not particularly want to be part of. He has been saying that I am not supportive (normally when I will not give him $$$). Help!!!
2007-01-13 05:28:00 · 13 answers · asked by Twilight 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you have invested alot into this business venture monetrally and emotionally. Don't feel bad for not giving more money. His business should be making money by now. Tell him you think its time he goes it alone. You have other interest that are important to you .Don't worry about getting any credit, the more you get inolved the more credit you will get when his Company goes bust. Let him have total responsibility for his Companys success or failure. Don't give him any more money...PLEASE.. You deserve to live within your means and be happy.
2007-01-13 05:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
to start and to own a business is like giving birth. you litterally give birth to the idea, bring it to health, raise it, watch it grow, etc.....almost no different than what a parent does to a child. the feelings and bond of a business owner can be as strong as that between a parent and a child. so to harm the business or to call it names is like someone calling their child names.
to start a business is no easy task, is not an easy road and does not come bump free. most who start a business fail at least 3 times before they make it. and 90% give up after the first few failures.
you should be more supportive even if you don't like the career....after all your husband is smart enough to start a company and make it work. how many others can even say that? less than 4% of the population. if you wanted a dumbed down guy you should of married a man that was content in a cubical. intelligence comes with a price.
unless you start a business its hard to comprehend the mental level it takes, how involved one becomes and how it can take over their lives as it is a projection of themselves into the business world. to strike at it, put it down, or hurt it in anyway is stricking at the creater at the very core of themselves.
since you are his wife, you should support him....give him a few hours of your time a week to help, or give him a flat dollar amount per check to apply towards the company.
to claim you have ownership or are upset when he calls it "his" company.....well it is "his" as he has created it from scratch. were you by his side every waking hour creating it, making it work, and working the company? no? then to claim any part of the business as yours, even if you gave money, is wrong as no blood/sweat equitity was ever given to the company. that alone is what deems an owner....anyone who gives cash is an "investor" and nothing more.
2007-01-13 13:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to work together, insidently I personally was faced with this situation, he Incorporated and when he found a gal 20 years younger because of the incorporated business I got 3%! So be careful putting all your money into a business without keeping track or getting legal advice, please.
2007-01-13 14:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him work it out on his own. He says it's HIS company, so don't give him any money for it. It's great that you went back to school to get a better job, but don't do it for him. He'll just take and take until you have nothing more to give. Save your extra money so you'll have something to fall back on if your marriage doesn't work out.
2007-01-13 13:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if he doesn't want to give any credit where it belongs then I would not feel bad he has to understand how you feel you need to explain that to him and you might have to put it like this, "If I'm not getting credit for my idea's why should I help you and YOUR business"
2007-01-13 13:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by W2D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband thinks he is "a self-made man". He does not realize that behind every successful man, there is a woman.... helping, pushing, encouraging, and giving ideas to him. He has what i like to refer to as an "ISH".....SELFISH!!. I'm proud of you for moving on with your life. It will come in handy when you get divorced from the jerk!!
2007-01-13 13:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is being self-centered, egotistical, selfish, arrogant, thoughtless
un-loving, thoughtless and un-husbandly...
Not a nice situation for you...
Tell him your thoughts & feelings..
Tell him you love him and want to be his wife but he is making it
very difficult....You want some changes in the marriage...
Make no threats but let him know you are not happy and are not
going to continue under the present situation.
2007-01-13 13:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you want to be married to this man? Sounds like it is all about him. Marriage is suppose to be about give and take not take take take. Tell him you went to college to pursue your dream...and he can pursue his. Your not interested in HIS business.
2007-01-13 13:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by chemky1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say Nooooooooooooooo...a man or a woman who can't support his own stuff...does not deserve
2007-01-13 13:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by Tawn_E_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...Sounds like there is little respect both ways in this relationship. Get counseling!
2007-01-13 13:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by panwillow 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋