I'm a grown woman who moved home with my parents after a bad break up. Just to make a long story short, I'm finally ok with my break up. I'm praying more and talking to God and he is helping me get thru this. My mom still thinks I'm talking to my Ex-boyfriend but in actuality I haven't seen or talk to him for almost 2 months. I will admit at times I still miss him and want to call him, but my hunger for happiness and a peaceful spirit is stronger. I haven't dated anyone and I don't want to, I just want to be by myself. And I want to continue my soul searching. So my question is how do I tell my mother that I appreciate her concern, and I love her for loving me. But she doesn't have to worry that I'm ok?
2007-01-13 05:24:04 · 21 answers · asked by Ms. Educated 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
INVITE HER OUT FOR BRUNCH
AND TELL HER YOU WANT TO HAVE A GIRLS DAY OUT
AND TALK TO HER
TELL HER WHAT YOU WANT FROM YOUR HEART
BELIEVE ME SHE WILL UNDERSTAND
MOTHERS WORRY ABOUT THEIR KIDS NO MATTER HOW OLD THEY ARE.
IS GOOD YOUR SEARCHING FOR HAPPINESS AND PEACEFULL SPIRIT. IS HARD TO RECOVER FROM A BAD BREAK UP BUT WITH GOD'S HELP YOU WILL BE FINE.
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-13 05:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with your mom from the start when you first ended the bad breakup and she seen how you were then, and sees how you are now, she should see a changle that you are happy. If she can't see that you are happy now, maybe you should ask yourself are you REALY happy?? Being a happy person is something that someone else would notice. Some advie... They say how ever long you were in a relationship it takes half that to get fully over him. Dont worry I'm only in month 3 and I've been in the relationship for 4 years!
2007-01-13 13:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a mother of four(ages 5-20), there isn't anything you can say to stop your mom from worrying about you.Your attitude and actions will speak louder than words. 2 months is not a longtime especially if you have repeated breakups with your ex. If this is the case, then maybe that's the reason for your moms behavior.
My advice is to remember its always easier and better to move forward as apposed to turning back and reliving the past. Let go ,and your spirit will soar higher than you imagined.
2007-01-13 13:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by laura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start getting out. Your parents are probably concerned that you are not "Living". The other thing is that you cannot go home again. After being a woman in a relationship and making your own decisions, it is difficult to deal with even "loving" interference. Go out today. Movie. Lunch with a friend, shopping and maybe ask mom to go with you.
2007-01-13 14:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by shoes_717 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents, and for the most part, especially your mother, will never ever stop worrying about you. That's part and parcel of being a parent, You will realize it yourself as soon as you become one. She loves you and wants you to be fine and happy. She is obviously a very wise woman who knows that a broken heart takes time to heal. She has done a wonderful job of also raising you, as you have grown to be a very intelligent and spiritual woman. Continue on your path of healing and self discovery and be happy that your mother is there to check in from time to time, Use her as a helpful resource, she just wants to be part of your journey to happiness. I know that you will do very well and meet someone that is worthy or you and your family.
2007-01-13 13:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear you have just said exactly what you should say to your mother, you have answered your own question.....tell her that you appreciate her concern, and you love her, but that she dosen't need to worry, because you are ok.... i'm sure she will understand this....you sound like a good person carry on your soul searching, God hears you, and never change, good luck.
2007-01-13 13:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just like you just said it here. you appreciate her concern and that you love her but your above the nonsense with your ex and she doesn't have to worry about that your doing just fine. Mothers are always going to worry about their children but once you start to act more like an adult than a child she will slowly back off and see that you can handle yourself. But she will never stop being there.
2007-01-13 13:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by Spacious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it dont matter how many times you tell a parent that you are ok they will always worry about you .. it is hard as a parent to see you kids in a state of emotional turmoil so all we can do is worry that our kids will do whats best for them but like I said you could be in a healthy relationship and woderful mental state all the time but as a parent we still worry
2007-01-13 13:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by cliff_aka_colt_4_5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've obviously told her. So the only way to prove to her that you're happy and you've moved on is to show her by action. Plan to go out to the movies and invite her. Do things with other people like friends. Show her that you've truly moved on. If anything this should prove to her that you've confided in yourself and you are at peace with things.
2007-01-13 13:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by bre714 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's a mother.....you can't stop her from worrying.
Give her time to see how the positive changes you've made and then she'll start to relax.
A parent doesn't turn the "caring" off and on so easily....be patient with her....she loves you.
2007-01-13 13:38:18 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋