Would you consider this situation being anti-social?

Question

Being nervous when responding to strangers who approach you just to ask for direction. Not picking up the telephone at home and let it go into voicemail. Not opening doors for tenant to pay for rent. (other people are in the house too). Don't like to socialize in a group of people, but socialize one on one or when few people around?.....sigh.....

Ok i'm 19, college sophomore. female. =/

Answer 1

Not anti-social but perhaps a little phobic about some thing. Have u consulted a mental health professional? Or it could be that u are just shy by nature.

Answer 2

Hey there!

Anti-social is actually a personality disorder, and guess what? I'm possitively sure that you do NOT have it! Being anti-social would mean that you show lack of concern towards other people both physically and/or emotionally, neglectful towards others, abusive in relationships or as a parent, not following the laws and even repeat your violations. This doesn't sound anything at all like you're describing, does it?

What it does sound like you're talking about though is something called Social Anxiety Disorder. Symptoms can range anywhere between having a fear of meeting new people, being extremely nervous around large groups of people to panicking. Perhaps you do not even have Social Anxiety DISORDER, but maybe you're just shy! But whatever the case, here are some tips to overcoming your fears:

1.) Don't let others tell you to "snap out of it." Some people are just more shy than others!

2.) Slowly try to make more eye contact with others and speak in a louder voice.

3.) Try telling yourself that "everything is going to be ok." Try not to use negative self-talk. Try telling yourself positive things when you're in an uncomfortable situation.

4.) Perhaps talk with someone you trust about it or try therapy.

But most importantly, don't try moving ahead to fast!! Take your time in getting comfortable with and around others.
I hope this helps, and good luck!

Answer 3

Nervous when strangers approach you? Sounds like a good survival strategy! In today's world, you just never know.....there are a lot of lunatics around. Socializing in small groups is a GOOD thing. I would choose quality over quantity every time.

Answer 4

Well the question is not really "is it anti-social?", because it definitely is anti-social. The question should be "is anti-social behavior a serious problem?"

Answer is yes it can be, but that depends on what the reason for it is. Not everyone is called to be a social butterfly and many people do better in "one on one" situations. It then becomes encumbant on you to determine if there is some deeper underlying issue that prevents you from being or feeling connected to others.

Answer 5

what is your level of society?, your age?, groups are groups you seam to be an individual, and if you don't have a tween brother, it will be very difficult to find out in which type of society your senses function best. It seams to me that there is nothing antisocial for anyone to try to be with it-self, soon we will find out the the best company anyone can have is with the it-self alone, isolation doesn't exist while you are with your self, but if you feel like to acquired some of your own privacy, Solitude is the right answer, and with ones self confidence some practices and self-studies, to learn what is the best way for our self to learn we will become part of that solitude, that sometimes can be so easily achieved, though hard to keep, been complete.

Answer 6

You may have a social phobia...or an anxiety disorder. You should discuss with a doctor before you are afraid to leave the house altogether.

Answer 7

not so much antisocial as shy. i was kinda the same way when i was younger, but you just have to have confidence. don't worry so much and just let the conversation flow out of you. no one is going to ridicule you for speaking to them.

Answer 8

mildly, im the same way so don't feel bad about it.

Answer 9

that is anti-social.