I feel like i am burning my brains out at either end!My bf and i started dating my senior year in highschool and got engaged afterward.Everything was fine till college started he only took 3 classes and ended up dropping 2 of them leaving just the one he ended up on probation.He could not keep a job and started asking me to borrow money which as okay but the problem is he never pays me back?He keep complaining if i dont that my family is much better of than his that i am being stingy.Really i dont think i am my parents pay for my college tuition and i am taking 4 classes.I also just signed up for barbrazion a school that gives classes for modeling/acting/personal development granted my parents pay for this as well but i work for my moms company that does landscape design.I get paid $8.50 an hour and since its winter only make 69-88 dollars a week because their is nothing much to do but file a little.Most of my money goes to pay gas, nessarys,cell phone,savings and car insurance.
2007-01-13 05:14:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So i dont have the money to give him?I also no longer have the time to come over and hang out whenever he wants.I am a commuter to school, have a curfew of 11:30 on week days, and chores/erands to do?
2007-01-13 05:17:44 · update #1
I still love but i dont think i can take much more of this i am exausted.He does nothing but live in his moms basement and play video games!
2007-01-13 05:21:39 · update #2
just tell him.............
2007-01-13 05:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he doesn't understand you are not in high school any more and that your lives has changed then you don't need him and he needs to figure out what he's going to do for himself the behavior he's displaying will hold you back in the long run because we as woman don't like to let our so called men down and we end up at the losing end of the stick you need to talk to him about what plans he may have for his future and find out where you fit in those plans use the old pros and cons table maybe that will help.
2007-01-13 13:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Spacious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you no longer have the time, money or energy to keep this relationship. If he gives you a hard time then just tell him GOODBYE. There are a lot of guy's out there that just want a female for whatever they can get, especially money. He's a user and letting him be, if you send him on his way maybe he will have to take on a little responsibility. You are an enabler!
2007-01-13 13:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by Conrey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend THOUGHT he hit the jackpot. It sounds as though he is using you or setting you up to be used. Right now he's trying to feel you out to see what he can and can not do. When you got engaged, did you buy the ring or was there even an engagement ring? Follow your heart but this sounds fishy to me. By the way, stay in school and when you get a minute you can come cut my grass ;o)
2007-01-13 13:22:46 · answer #4 · answered by The Last Good Man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your youthful daydream has deteriorated into an
adult nightmare...You simply picked an irresponsible , lazy,
unambitious boy as a potential husband...
Lucky you found out before you married him and had a family.
Dump him and find a mature responsible man to love & care for
you in marriage...
Tell him you need some space and just want to be friends for a while.....He should understand the meaning of that...
2007-01-13 13:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow--my niece in college just went through this. You have to establish priorities in your life. What's more important, your bf or your education? He's sponging off you. Do you want to support him for the rest of your life? You may lose him over this, but if you do, is he worth keeping? I'd say, "if you love me you'll understand that I must get an education before we can have a life togeather." Isn't that really the truth?
2007-01-13 13:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by David M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read your own question, this guy gave up along time ago and now he is expecting your family to carry him and if you marry he will expect you to carry on, as he thinks those who have should do for those who have not. Now if everyone believed that there would be no people who have because they would be working for those who will not. If the best thing he can do is complain then you know what you have to do
2007-01-13 13:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put a fork in that guy honey, he's done! You don't need to waste your time on a loser and it will take years for him to grow up enough to be responsible. His parents aren't doing him any favors either. Lose the bum and work towards your future.
2007-01-17 12:43:33 · answer #8 · answered by Rocko Barbella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Maya Angelou once said " When a person show you who they really are, believe them". Now, it's up to you what you're going to do about it. It's more to being a man than wearing a pair of pants. You're young, don't just settle. Good luck!!
2007-01-13 13:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by Blu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You now know what type of person he is, the choice is yours, do you want to live this way, do you want to be the only stable one in this relationship or marriage, would you as a parent want this type of person marring your little girl? He has made his choice and it's going to lead him into more trouble, do you want that type of life?
2007-01-13 14:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lot of fish in the sea. Move on. If you think its bad now just wait a few years. Life is too short.
2007-01-13 13:27:21 · answer #11 · answered by xartinu33 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋