how do i tell me parents that i am gay?

Answer 1

OHHH good question. I think you need to make sure thats what you want to do. If you live with them you need to be very careful. I told my parents after I left the home. Please don't take advice about this from yahoo, find a support group in your area and talk about it with other people this way if the results of you telling your parents is negative you have people that you could talk with. Good Luck.

Answer 2

I agree with the first post that said you should find out which parent is the more tolerant of the two. Then you can tell that parent and if they are as accepting as you thought, you can then tell the other parent and have the first parent there as moral support.

If you think that both will be accepting, then go ahead and tell them in private (In other words don't invite them to a restaurant or anything to tell them. They might resent you coming out to them in a public place. Just tell them after dinner at home, or say you want to talk with them about something important.

If they don't seem tolerant at all, why not join a GLBT youth group first before you decide when you want to come out. The other kids at the group will be able to tell you about their own experiences and give you advice.

Regardless of how receptive your parents are, I highly recommend all of you join PFLAG. This way all of you can meet families that are going through the same thing you are. The organization has done al ot of help with kids either coming out of the closet or who have just done so. They've also helped parents cope with the shock of their chidren coming out and being parents of a gay child in a world that is not always accepting. You can use each website to find a chapter in your area or, if you can't ind one, they offer advice on how people can start a chapter.

Here are the the links to sites in the U.S., Canada and the UK:

http://www.fflag.org.uk/ ***NOTE** This has a slightly different name (Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays instead of Parents, Friends and Families of Lesbians and Gays), but it is essentially the same sort of organization.

http://www.pflagcanada.ca/

http://www.pflag.org/

Answer 3

You could have at least given more details.
Like are they against the whole gay scene?
Or are they overall cool with it?
Don;t you have a close friend who you can talk to about it:see the reaction.
Or an older brother or sister,that you have to share it first with them.
It will be a lot easier if you have had several reactions from different people.
Whom of your parents you relate to the best.I guess your mother.
Well sit her down and tell her that have a very delicate thing you want to talk about:she will get besides herself,thinking you are pregnant.
Then after you set her mind at ease you just tell her.And that it is not a figment of your imagination.
Whatever happens don't get upset,it will help nor you or your mother.Once the tension is gone it might be a good idea to go tell your farther together.
But this is all guesswork.
You left to many details out.You may use my messenger to fill in the blanks.
greetings:Rob xxx

Answer 4

First of all, you have to be completely comfortable talking about it with people. If you haven't told anybody yet, I would strongly recommend telling a close friend or other relative. Thay way, you will: 1) get to see how they react so that you're somewhat prepared for the reaction of your parents, and 2) have someone to talk to about it before telling your parents; they will also be a key supporter of your decision! Once you tell somone besides your parents, you will be much more comfortable talking about it with others. Also, I know that this may seem stupid, but you should probably have a few "practice conversations" with different people (i.e. friends, siblings, cousins, aunts uncles, etc.) so that you know what you are going to say to your parents, which will make you more comfortable talking to them, and you will also be prepared for anything that happens between the three of you. One benefit of having a "practice conversation" with either an aunt, an uncle, or even a sibling is that they probably know your parents pretty well and they can tell you how they think your parents will react so that you're ready for anything that may come your way. They might also give you advice on the best way to give your parents the news. And one last thought: you have a special bond with your parents. You have known them your entire life, and even though you may not fully know it right now, you have more trust in them and love for them than either of you will ever know. So go on now and use that trust and love to your benefit: when you're ready, march right in to both of them with confidence and pride and tell them that you love them and trust that they will always love you back no matter what (emphasize the "no matter what" a bit...). You should be proud of who you are and shouldn't let anybody, including your parents, tell you otherwise. And hey, if your parents don't take the news so well (although I doubt that will happen), then THEY are the ones who are missing out, NOT YOU!!! They're the ones who are going to regret it one day, NOT YOU!!!!! They are the ones who are going to be sitting on their butts one day in Milwaukee sadly watching the Bucks lose to the Spurs, wishing they had shown more love and pride for you, and you're going to be soakin' up the summa sun with the love of your life right on the beach of Maui, Hawaii, in front of your breathtakingly-beautiful multi-million dollar mansion. So be proud of who you are and don't ever doubt yourself!!!

Answer 5

The best way to start is find out how they feel about gay people. Its really none of thier business but if your the kind of person that likes to keep the parents informed of your life, then be honest :-)

Choose the "easy to talk to" parent first... maybe that one will help you talk to the other one (or do it for you hehe) Its easier to talk to one at a time than both of them.

Just tell them... start talking then let the gay thing slip in the coverstation. Remember its NORMAL if they get suprised or shocked at first... some people need time to let something big sink in.

Answer 6

First, tell your parents that you want to make a date to discuss something very important with them in a couple of days. The purpose of this is to force your parents discuss with each other, in private, what you might be wanting to talk with them about. Believe me, the first things that will come into their minds is pregnancy, homosexuality, or a social disease. So they will actually discuss what their response to you will be in any case beforehand. That's what is known as "preping your parents."

Answer 7

That a good question but all i can say is that i am a mother of 7 children 4 girls and 3 boys ages 8-18 and i will love them no matter what just as long as they are happy and me myself knowing that they can make their own decisions in life once they are grown!!!! good luck... If I was your mom i'd say go for it and for you to talk to me whenever you want about anything but sorry that i am not..

Answer 8

dont tell your parents they will be mad just stop being gay

Answer 9

You tell them with obvious love for them displayed, with sensitivity, with empathy for their possible initial reactions.