I see alot of questions on here about guys asking why their wives won't do this or that sexually like giving bj's. And personally it gets old because they are only thinking about what they want, and don't think that maybe their wives don't like to do it.
Maybe if guys would talk with their wives more and listen when she tells them that they don't like doing it they would understand.
2007-01-13 04:50:34 · 17 answers · asked by Bryan M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why am I a guy asking this? Because I think we put way to much importance on sex. And don't think about our partners feelings enough, some of us, not all put ourselves before our spouses. I think if we would think of our spouses and their feelings before our own, we might get surprised by our spouses by doing those things that we like, because we are being considerate of them.
2007-01-13 05:01:42 · update #1
I agree with you totally! I think spouses should talk to each other! I really dont like to give em, but once in a while, ill suprise my hubby with it. we talk about what we like and what we want from each other. we also share our fantasies with each other.
I think its a matter of the mind and what turns each other on! OH and men, sex is NOT always about what YOU want! you cant just jump in the car and go...you have to warm it up if you want to get anywhere!
2007-01-13 05:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some women enjoy giving oral, some are indifferent, and some just don't like it. Everyone is different. Some men don't like giving oral either but do so it is really the same for both sexes. It is all about give and take in a relationship. If a women REALLY doesn't like it she shouldn't be made to; but she should understand that her partner may not like it either. So be fair.
2007-01-13 05:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by sweetbabyart212 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a man but I never ask of that , it just happens. I have never asked for it , it just happens every so often. I think guys would prefer it over sex because its something different and guys are always thinking about sex but a bj is needed every once in a while to keep their sex drive strong.
2007-01-13 04:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by Eric P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any one who does things with their significant other that they don't want to do is considered an act of rape mild as it may be. If my wife didn't like to preform oral sex on me then I should and would never continue to discomfort her feelings and beliefs. This couple or couples need to talk and understand that oral sex is not part of two consenting adults.
2007-01-13 05:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
understand when a man marries he gives every thing up women, porn, etc. because his wife is all he needs, before marriage 99.95% of women do everything bj's, role play, name it, its done, once or twice a day, then after the first year or two things change slowly, instead of bj or sex once a week, its once a month and so on, that's why married men watch porn, and masturbate, men need sex.
2007-01-13 05:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by llg504 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Thanks, john q. sensitive.
Here's one perspective -- women *act* like they enjoy giving numerous frequent lively bj's, anal, whatever all through courtship, right up to the wedding ceremony. Then the second they are married it all comes to a screeching halt.
It gets old asking for sex when you are used to getting it without asking. Those women are only thinking about what *they* want, and don't think about what their husbands want or like.
Maybe if women would be less calculating and more honest about their sex drives, guys wouldn't marry them thinking they will get sex 24/7/365 (like these women promise), and there would be less conflict.
See how just one side of the argument can be annoying to listen to?
Get it?
2007-01-13 05:07:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think its because men see their wives as property to a point. Therefore, some men think its their wives job to keep him happy.
2007-01-13 05:10:31 · answer #7 · answered by Java Queen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand peep not wanting to do things they dont want BUT I also know that in relationships...its give and take. Some women fish with their hubbys and don't want to. Some men take classes with their women and dont want to. THATS what makes relationships work. If doing the act doesnt make the wife sick WHATS THE PROBLEM???? When I was in a relationship I use to fish with my man..I am no fisher and didnt want to but I loved my man and he would do things with me he didnt want to. THIS is what relationships is all about.
2007-01-13 04:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
What you said is true......besides marriage is always about understanding. Both men and women always want things differently.
2007-01-13 05:22:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men enjoy it very much...
Prior to the wedding, many women perform this act willingly.
The man marries them partially because he loves them in bed.
Then the woman stops with the oral..
The man is disappointed , frustrated and feels deceived.
Some men take it to an extreme and go outside the marriage
to get oral from single women again...
The wife finds him cheating and they divorce..
The woman , single again goes back to giving oral ..
The man, single again, goes back to receiving oral from single women...
And the cycle starts all over again...
It is not the mans fault....
2007-01-13 04:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋