I have a 6 month old, with my work/school schedule, she sometimes has to stay overnight at her grandmas house; this sounds stupid but my question is would that make my baby look at me any different or not feel loved or something?
2007-01-13 03:53:58 · 26 answers · asked by atl_diva 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I mean since she is so young...
2007-01-13 03:54:25 · update #1
No, not if that is what she is used to. Just make sure to give her a little more one on one time when she is home with you. ;)
2007-01-13 03:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a wonderful grandmother your child has to do this for you and let you do what you need to do for your family.
I know it is hard for you, but in the long run you are doing a good thing, just make sure you are going and spending lots of time with your child and make sure she understands that you do really love her.
My sister had to do the same thing with her two children and they are none the worse for the ware. We don't like to have to do these things, but if you are a single mother, sometimes you have to make choices that you don't want to make so that you can make the world a better place for your child. I am sure the baby's grandmother loves giving your baby the attention, and your baby will have a big bond with the both of you.
So shed the tears as needed, but keep providing and doing what you have to do. It is going to be OK you are a good mommy because you care that your baby has a safe place to be, a roof over her head, and food in her belly. You are also a good mommy because you care about your childs feelings in all of this. Keep up the good work.
2007-01-13 22:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're working hard now (school) to achieve a career that will one day support yourself and your child. These are the tough years when many have to make sacrifices, so that your daughters life will be better in the future. I hope you don't feel too much guilt about that.... b/c you shouldn't!
p.s. she's too young to understand now. Hopefully you'll be graduated from school before she has any memories of being away from her mom at night. and also, it's not so bad for a child to be comfortable around other family members, other than the mother or father! Hope this helps.
2007-01-13 13:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby will not "look" at you any different because you are working or going to school... and he/she stays with a person who adores her/him.
Just by asking this question you are proving you care about your child's well being and have made sure that they are comfortable with their sitter.
You will get the break you need from baby talk and be able to devote more quality attention to your child when you do see him/her. Do not feel guilty for trying to provide or improve your family's situation through work or school. I am sure when you do see your baby you are all ready to smother him/her with kisses as YOU have missed the baby just as much as she/he may miss you!
:)
Best of Luck
2007-01-13 12:01:09 · answer #4 · answered by thebe_gl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop feeling guilty. it seems to me that you are working your butt off to provide and create a life for you and your daughter. it's not like you are leaving her there so you can go out and party all the time. you and your daughter have an incredible bond as all mothers and their do. nothing can ever change that bond. when you are home with her, try to make the best of your time together. take her for walks and play with her often. it's the QUALITY of your time together, not the QUANTITY! you are doing a good job. one day when she is older and you have achieved your goals and are living comfortably, she will never remember having to sleep at grandma's house when she was a baby.
2007-01-13 12:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by k_leigh326 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it is only occasionally.................I say NO! My granddaughter has stayed over night with me a few times already and she is only 16 months old. She still looks forward to seeing her daddy ( A LOT) when he picks her up. A baby learns at a early age that she is loved and by whom. Don't worry..........you will see. I think you are a GREAT MOM IN THE WORKS or you wouldn't be so worried about her. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!
2007-01-13 12:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We moved in with my husband's mom (who is single) when my first born was 4 months old... and we moved out again when he was about 2 years old. At this time he went to his grandma's house saturday to spend the day and the night and we picked him up on sundays and stayed for dinner then went home. Trust me, the bond that formed between grandma and him was definitly more precious then any misgivings I may have had about not having my baby with me at all times hehe. Your baby will learn to be well adjusted to change with this sort of arrangement and no worries about him/her knowing who their mommy is, they have been with you for 9mos + 6mos already :)
2007-01-13 13:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by Gig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are fine. You are doing what you need to take care of your family and as long as she is safe with the grandmother (I am sure she is) you are doing the right thing. Make sure to spend some quality time with her (again, i am sure you do). The fact that this concerns you shows you are a good parent and believe me you will always have something to feel guilty about as a parent-worst feeling in the world.
2007-01-13 12:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by xoheidixo10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is impossible to say since each and every child is effected in a unique way, however, with five boys, all experience slightly different variations of your theme, I can attest to this. Two of my boys had permanent stay at home mom situations (my sixteen year old forced my first wife to stay home with him and his brother two years older - the first boy she went back to work) (My current two year old experienced his mother going back to work, and the one year old created the same stay at home situation for my second wife) My 18 year old and my two year old have an independence that is very mature. My 16 year old and my one year old are much more needy. Neither is bad, it just is. We have to show our love and above all COMMUNICATE. They do hear you, even if you think they aren't listening.
2007-01-13 12:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Randall A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, she has a grandma around that can and is willing to take care of her, both you and her are LUCKY!
I have no one, I have to hand my children over to a stranger if we need someone to watch them, besides my Dad but you know how men are, just not the same. So you have a great luxury, don't feel guilty, take advantage of the circumstances.
2007-01-13 12:26:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually this is good in my opinion as a father of two. Your baby will be used to being cared for by someone else while your handling business. You will appreciate it later on when he/she dosen't go crazy when you try to drop him/her off at the babysitters' later on.Babie's know who mommy is and will still love you the same. Congrats on your new family member!
2007-01-13 12:13:56 · answer #11 · answered by mik_deere 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋