I proposed on Christmas day, July 7th is the date we set to be married, we've known each other for going on 6 years & we're planning on moving in together for the first time about 2 months after we're married (she's still in college). we'll be moving to Eugene, OR so that she can go to college and so we can "start our life" together. This is my first marriage, I'm 24. Any ides or feedback would be appreciated, Thanks!
2007-01-13 03:50:41 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I met my wife in April, proposed in September and we married in December. I was 26 she was 24. And no, we weren't pregnant...;) We knew what we wanted and just celebrated 11 years and are expecting our 5th child.
You can find stories similar and you find stories of people who dated for 10 years and divorced after 1 year of marriage as my step-sister did.
Success in marriage has nothing to do with time. It has to do with committment and understanding. If you are both transparent and up front and know each other well, don't worry about time. You either are a team or not - time won't change that much.
Best wishes to you both
2007-01-13 04:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Darbo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is a personal decision. Usually people have a 1 year engagement. Not because they want to "test the water," but because planning a wedding is time consuming and you need to book things a year in advance. The only problem I see is the living together 2 months after marriage. If a wedding date is still negotiable... you should probably wait until she graduates. If it is only a matter of 2 months - you might as well deffer the date. Also, with her being in school, it would be extra stress with finishing school and planning a wedding.
2007-01-13 04:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations first off!! :oD I'm very excited for you! You can get married now if you really want to or you can wait until she's all done with college that pretty much is up to her and how she feels about it. Planning a wedding takes alot of work... even the very simple weddings... do it might be to much on your plates right now. And plus with a move to Eugene.... Good Luck!
2007-01-13 03:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by moon_fariey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it. If you had only known the girl a year I would say no, but since you have known each other for six years its fine. Remember marriage is a commitment that takes work, good luck and congrats.
2007-01-13 04:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by dcforensics51 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes if your a complete fool
you need to be living together at least two years before you really know some one, at a minimum
even though you have known each other for 6 yrs, move in before you get married for a minimum of two or three years for crying out loud
just do it, stay engaged
make sure you get sex a minimum of three to four times a day, then you will know if she is the one
2007-01-13 03:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by david s 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes! More than two months is fine. But remembe that the divorce rate decreases when those who marry are at or near 30!
2007-01-15 13:31:36 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel T. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe if couples would do this the divorce rate would go way down would live together for about one year, that's when you both will get to no each other lots better, than you will know or have a idea how married life will be, be careful not to get pregnant during this time.
2007-01-13 03:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by sidekick 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think 6 months is great, not too long. alot of times when you set a date that is a year away, people dont end up going through with it because the excitement goes away, and you start fighting sooner.
2007-01-13 04:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
After being together for 6 years its more then long enough.Congraulations and Good Luck.
2007-01-13 03:55:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At the risk of sounding cynical, the average person will have two, three, maybe four marriages during his or her life time. You're putting way too much thought into this.
2007-01-13 03:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Goofy Foot 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋