of hunting season. I would not be upset if he had only been a few times. He has hunted quite a bit since November and this is just one more of the same thing. He has never left for my birthday. He said that we can do something Thursday or Sunday when he gets back. Shouldn't it be my choice? I don't expect a gift but I am hurt. Am I overreacting?
2007-01-13 03:45:56 · 30 answers · asked by privatsoccer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You said that he has never left you on your birthday so this is a first time thing. And its true that it is the last weekend so I would say let him go and you will have a better birthday with him when he gets back because he will be so happy that he got to go.If you only had one more weekend to shop until next year I think that you would want to go and get what ever you could until the next year comes.And don't be hurt its not like he just wants to go out with his buddies. This is your chance to get all your girlfriends and go ut for your b-day and get to do it again when he gets back. yes? No matter what any one else says, think about it you are gooing to have a HAPPY HUSBAND . If you listen to negative answers you will have a horrible birthday and a very unhappy husband.
2007-01-13 03:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey girl, I am married to an avid hunter/fisherman! My dad used to tell me "Hide the dog, Don will shoot it,skin it, and fry it"!. We have been married 24 years and he has taken very few deer seasons off, which also happens to fall on my birthday time of the year. His birthday and mine are 2 weeks apart, so what we do is have a big party prior to the birthdays and hunting season, we have a Halloween Costume, birthday party!
We have a ball, all the guys he hunts with bring their wives, they dress up in goofy dress, we just have a time! We usually have it at the local pub, the band plays, we have the pool table and shuffle board table, we bring snacks and a cake. Everyone brings a covered dish, so we eat, drink, dance, have a good time and then the hungover guys can go hunting without guilt!
Buck up girl, no pun intended! He does not want to hurt your feelings, but I will promise you this, if you are an understanding wife, not a vengful wife, he will be much more likely to really be thankful he married you, not one of those fit throwing wives some of the hunters have. Let me tell you, when we first got married, the first years were like all you heard was deer season deer season, now the older these guys get, the less they want to go out in the cold, they are getting less interested in setting in a tree for hours waiting for the "trophy" buck to run by.
Just be a good wife, dont pout, dont buy rubbers and leave them around that is silly. If they go, get some of the other wives and go shopping or to the movies and lunch, get you a "tradition" going to keep yall occupied while they are gone! Good sales start about that time of year!
This year I was the statue of liberty, don was a pimp, we are already working on next years costumes! It is fun!
2007-01-13 04:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by Joyce D 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know...remember that guys are not emotional or sentimental like we are. For example, if you decided to take a long weekend with your girlfriends and it was his birthday, he wouldn't bat an eye. He'd find something to do and think nothing of it. My husband is an avid sportsman and he went on a week long trip the week of our anniversary. It was no big deal because honestly, all we would have done was go to dinner...which we did when he came home.
When I met my husband, I knew that the outdoors was a passion of his, so I'm not going to be a nag and cry every time he leaves to go hunt. Plus I look at it this way, he is in the woods with his friends and not in some titty bar getting drunk all the time.
I know you're hurt, but if your husband is a good guy, a good husband and provider, then let him have his time and send him off with a kiss and a smile...you'll make his day, trust me.
2007-01-13 03:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
As another women who has been around these hunting men, no you are not over reacting and I would be hurt too!
Some of these guys get acting as if a card player at the casino. They go nuts over hunting. Spend all the money on hunting (fishing is in this too). What really sets me off is when the guys do not come home with anything but talk of what almost happened.
My guy has this out of his system now, thank goodness! Though I do not say anything about his guns around. We live in central Oregon where the town gets over ran by hunters/fishermen. So it is good for the economy but not good for these peoples personal family life.
I sure hope things get better and your husband realizes what he is doing to your feelings. The guys do get quite selfish. Oh and for those who tell you to go with him, like we want to freeze our butts off out there! Who would run the house?
2007-01-13 03:56:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think let it go this time around. I know most times my birthday can go unnoticed by everyone but when it is remembered by a family member or all of them at once, it is something nice. I don't think he means it as being mean but sometimes birthdays are not given as much sentimentality as us ladies give it. Just tell him it would have been nice to have him around on your birthday. Besides, you would probably be feeling guilty for not having him gone hunting on the last week of the hunting season.
2007-01-13 04:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by VelvetRose 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I come from a hunting family...my dad was a hunter, I am a hunter and my son is a hunter. My wife knows I love to hunt and our anniversary is Nov. 1st...usually the 1st week of pheasant hunting...she is so understanding and lets me go hunting which I love her dearly for. I always make up for it later and we go away for a weekend just the 2 of us. We do this every year....my wife is happy...I'm happy and we've been married 31 years and still love my wife as much as I did Nov. 1st, 1975!!!
2007-01-13 12:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by boss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex did me the same way. Take my advice he is not hunting. My ex was having an affair with another woman while married to me at deer camp. He missed Christmas eve and Christmas day. He was also gone during new years eve and new years day. he was also gone on my birthday. My kids were the only people their for me. If he really cares about you he shouldn't do that to you. You should be more important than that deer he claims to be hunting. Stand up for yourself and tell him how you feel and if he still goes then you know what is really going on.
2007-01-13 04:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Shery W 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think your overreacting at all. I think he's being very inconsiderate and would rather go hunting than spend time with you on YOUR birthday. If I did that on my wife's birthday, she'd be VERY pissed at me, and for good reason, because I'm putting myself before her. He's being very selfish, big deal, the last weekend of hunting season, there's always next season.
He needs to think about you and your feelings before thinking of himself.
O suggest you sit down and tell him this. Because he needs to knwo how you feel about it, and how much it hurts knowing that he's picking hunting over spending time with you on your birthday.
2007-01-13 03:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you're not over reacting!
Just try telling him how upset you are that he'll miss your birtday to go shoot some innocent animals.
If he still wants to go, make him celebrate your birthday for two days instead of one. That way you can have two nights out and that might make up for him missing you birthday.
Also, if he's never missed your birthday before, this sounds like a lame excuse to do it this year. Maybe he's got a little something planned...
2007-01-13 03:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jess 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you're not overreacting. I would feel like I came in a poor second to walking around in the cold with a gun!! Yes it should be your choice. I would expect a gift for this..... a really big expensive one.
2007-01-13 04:04:50 · answer #10 · answered by mjm52 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋